2007-03-29 06:46:50 · 18 answers · asked by Sweet_Addy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no reason why you should stop being friends with anybody just because you got married. And there is no reason why not to start having a good friend either. Doesn’t matter what sex.
What really matters is to be honest in the relation, and trust each other. If that is a fact, then there is no reason to stay away form the opposite sex when it comes to be friends. He/she shouldn’t be afraid nor jealous because there is trust.
Now, if you have given reasons in the past not to trust you, then things are different. Even when you are honest, and be trusted, still there will be always that little feeling inside your lover that you might be cheating, or at least, a jealously feeling.
So in that case is better to keep some distance, at least for awhile so trust can be gained completely. Unless there is an old friend, and probably both of you know this friend, or is actually your lovers friend and he/she knows this friend is trustworthy, then is ok.
But again, if you have given no reasons to doubt you, then no, you should be free to have any friends, because matrimony is not a jail, you should not be restricted to see your friends no matter if you are single or married.
2007-03-29 06:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by Dan D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but it will take a little work on your part and a lot of trust all around to make it work. I'm a guy with a lot of female friends. My wife doesn't always like all of them but she knows:
1) I love her. Period. End of story. My friends are my friends. My wife is my life.
2) I'm open about all of my friends. She can call them. My email account is readily available 24/7. Check away, I don't really care.
3) My friends respect her and know she IS THE woman in my life and no, I'm not looking for any on the down low.
If your friends can stay in that frame then your spouse will have no problem with them at all. Just a thought,
2007-03-29 06:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have numerous male friends. My husband knows them all and is comfortable with my relationships with them. The men are friends and only friends.
My husband also has female friends. Some of them he's worked with for more than 27 years. I have no problem with them.
Honesty and trust go a long ways when you are married. Try both and you and your spouse should have no trouble with the others friends no matter what their gender.
2007-03-29 06:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if you want to stay "happily married"
It doesn't matter that you "swear" there is nothing going on other than friendship. There will come a time that even if there is nothing wrong happening, you will not be able to convince your spouse of that.
You have to ask yourself - is this friend worth giving up my happy marriage?
2007-03-29 08:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by misty3065 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be married and have a friend of the opposite sex, but there has to be an understood boundary that both of you respect and know that neither could never cross!
2007-03-29 06:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by vanillaluv2007 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
I'm happily married and have a friend from high school who I used to date (we were intimate as one point in our relationship). My wife is always making odd comments and acts jealous. I love my wife and have a great relationship with my friend, her husband and son.
2007-03-29 06:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by kb6jra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how good of friends. usually people who know each other well share intimate thoughts and before you know it - sex happens. Familiarity breeds attempt. It can work but your spouse must be aware of every contact with no secrets and not "really" good friends.
2007-03-29 07:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is for a guy but not for a woman.
Do you really want your husband to have "good" friends of the opposite sex? Oh wait you were just asking about yourself right? I highly doubt you would be so accommodating if it were the other way around.
2007-03-29 06:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yup, it's possible. Just don't hide things from your spouse and once in a while bring them along when you meet your friend so they can see nothing untoward is happening.
2007-03-29 06:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.
2007-03-29 07:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋