2007-03-29 06:41:44 · 9 answers · asked by LiStEN<<<Is Retired!! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
okay I have a great job and a great place to stay. I'm in school also. So MY LIFE IS TOGETHER, it's him that has the negative attitude. I just want to try to communicate with him a little better for his sake, not for my babys'. My family, friends and I have enough love to shower her with so it's not like that.
2007-03-29 06:50:40 · update #1
God's ways are higher. He doesn't want you to have strife with anyone but to seek peace and to pursue it...
See it this way: when there is arguing there is satan...whispering in our ears to puff us up to be prideful, arrogant, tempting us into wanting to always be first or to always be right but God is humble and kind and good and gentle...
satan will whisper strifeful thoughts tell you your husband is thinking this or he always has to have his way or remember when he did this, and you can't let your husband...and on and on and on... but God gives us the grace to change any thought...God's Word tells us not to let the sun set on our anger (something like that) He tells us to first go make amends prior to even offering Him any gifts at church... He warns us not to think on anything too much less we day dream, to guard our thoughts and as a man thinketh...God even tells us what to think on -things that are pure and lovely and holy...It is also written in the Holy Bible: ...that a kind word steers off strife...
God's ways are higher and people who pray together, stay together...If you really want a life worth living and a loving relationship in which to bring your baby up in, then start following in God's ways because your heavenly Father wants so much to bless you, Jesus loves you, your husband, your marriage, your baby and all of your family...NOW is the time for your salvation, He is knocking...
You are being blessed right now; Father, you are holy and we praise and give you all glory; by your power and your Holy Spririt convict hearts in Jesus precious name...Now repeat these words and mean them in your heart: Father, I am a sinner in need of a savior. Jesus I believe you died on the cross for my sins and the Father rose you again three days later, come into my life, be the Lord of my life and my best friend, and by your power and you Holy Spirit, guide me all the days of my life; in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit; Amen....
Go look in the yellow pages for a nearby Christian church and speak with the pastor and/or his wife, tell them you would like for them to pray for you...if you need a ride to church let them know...then tell your husband you want to start going to church together, even if he doesn't want to go at first, YOU MUST GO and you must go peacefully, Jesus will be sure your husband will follow- all of us are attracted to the love of God, the unspeakable joy and peace He gives to those who love Him and seek after Him with all of their hearts...your husband will see the beauty within you; loving, joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, good, gentle, long suffering faithful and self-controlled (gifts from the Holy Spirit) Soon, your husband will want what you have. (No one wants to be around scornfulness, arguing, etc. no matter who starts it-everyone wants to be around loving, joyful, kind, gentle children of God)
Praise the Lord
Fight evil with good
and in all things give thanks (even the hard things) NEVER GIVE UP! Jesus will never leave you nor forsake you...and He never fails...
Sista C
2007-03-29 07:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by sista c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Couple of things...
Do you stay together?
Ho long have you been together?
Does he have any other kids?
Is there any other women involved?
You need to pinpoint exactly what it is that started you guys to fighting and revisit it. The little fights that you have everyday are going to happen, but, something let in this flood. Something happened to spark this chain of events. You need to find out what it is and really discuss that. That's the problem, not the fact that he didn't let down the toilet seat. You relationship will NEVER be mended until you deal with the root of the problem. Find the root, and then be prepared to make decisions for you and your child that he knows might cause him to lose you.
In all honesty, you never want to be with a man that's afraid to deal with the root of problems. If he's afraid of that, how much other stuff could be hiding?
2007-03-29 06:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by clayborne112 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Both of you made a baby before you were ready and this is what happens. Expect this relationship to end badly.
Next time do things the right way and you won't be in this situation.
2007-03-29 06:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your problem is you have a "baby daddy" instead of a committed husband or partner. YOU made the mistake of getting knocked up by a deadbeat, now your poor kid has to deal with the consequences.
2007-03-29 06:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get premarital counseling. Get married.
2007-03-29 06:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a better name for him other than "My babies father."
2007-03-29 06:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication
2007-03-29 06:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you start a new one. Go out with him and start all over again. this time, make it right.
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2007-03-29 06:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by Leilyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop fighting and figure out what is causing it.Then you can work on it
2007-03-29 06:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by wblueyesinvt35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋