How do i tell my parents im pregnant?

Question

I know its a stupid question to ask. But how do i let my parents know? they dislike my bf and will freak when they find out im pregnant.
im 19 about to turn 20 in about a month, but im no longer living with with my parents. I havent for about 5-6months. Im staying with my bfs family, until we move out to our own place in june.

Im really scared to tell my parents, i know all they are going to worry about is what the rest of the family will say.

i guess what im looking for is support =[
but let me add i want to have my baby & i dont want & will not have an abortion for my parents. is that wrong? I know im an adult but my family means a lot to me and i dont want to lose them because of this.

Answer 1

I support you, sweet pea. And so will your parents, eventually -- the lure of being grandparents is strong. (Actually, that might be a good way to break the news: "You're gonna be a grandma" sounds just so much nicer than "I'm pregnant".) My brother was in a similar situation when he was your age, and our parents came around. (We all tried to accept his awful wife, but I admit we were relieved when the marriage ended. We love the kids, though.) One of the nice things about starting early is that my brother's 40 and both kids are already out of the house. When I'm 40, my kid will be in preschool! Good luck, and congratulations.

Answer 2

I kind of agree with other people's responses. There's no magic or trick for this. The only thing you can do is to tell them the truth, even though most of the time people don't want to hear the truth. Anyway, I think you should expect the worst reaction from them, and hopefully, everything will turn out fine. I was pregnant when I was 23, and both my father and I cried on the phone when I told him. My mom was upset when I told her. But I worked it out. My husband and I now have two babies and even though it's tough, we're happy most of the time. I do want to remind you that the most you should expect from your parents should be emotional support. You will become a mother, and it is a very very tough job, but you need to be strong and independent for your baby. And it's not wrong to say No to abortion even though your parents might want you to have an abortion. You're a person with your own will. Make the right decision that you know you won't regret the rest of your life. Don't make a decision based on someone else's opinion or wants. Good luck! And stay positive! By the way, congratulations!!!

Answer 3

This should be a happy time for the entire family, on both sides. If you did have to have an abortion to please your parents or anyone in your family than obviously their shity people...i would never do anything to please someone else especially if i was against it.
Like you said your grown and your not even living at home anymore so even if they don't approve it wouldn't matter what they think.
I know that when it comes to bringing a child into this world the best thing is support from your family, they people that mean the most to you in the world, so with that said you and your boyfriend should tell them together and let them know how much their support means to the both of you.
They should be excited and happy that their going to be grandparents. This is life their just going to have to except it!
If they would turn their back on you at a time like this than this will def show you their true colors. The people that truly love you will be their for you through thick and thin.

Answer 4

First, CONGRATULATIONS! Although this may have been a surprise, this is still obviously still a welcome and positive change in your life. Try to keep that in mind if people give you grief about how quickly things are moving in your life.

Also try to keep in mind that only you can live your life and only you really know what you need to find happiness. Your family may be upset and scared that you are becoming permanently committed to your bf because of the pregnancy. If they don't like him, they probably will be. However, that shouldn't mean that you would lose them.

If your family would dump you because you're living your own life, it's time for family counseling to help them accept you as an adult.

If counseling isn't possible, don't fret, it's bad for the baby and won't solve anything. Chances are, after your baby is born, your family will come around, if they've stopped contact with you. Send them special occasion greeting cards with pictures of you and your baby and their grandparently instincts should kick in pretty fast ;)

You might also want to chat with social services about the benefits and services that are available to you. There are loads of pre and post natal care and information sources available to the informed Mom. If you don't, you could be missing out in a HUGE way and depriving your child of benefits that could really help you both.

Best of luck to you, your bf and your baby :D

Answer 5

First of all Congratulations! I am 19 and just found out i was pregnant also. I havent live with my mom for about 6 months also. I was soo scared and nerves to tell my mom and step-dad and the rest of my family. I was going to wait and try and do it when the time was right, but there will never be a right time to tell anyone! What i did was bought a bid that said "I love my grandma" and gave it to her in a gift bag, instead of telling her. I was soo scared, but she took it great and so did the rest of my family which really suprised me. Dont be scared to tell them. A baby is a miracle and you shouldnt be ashamed to tell them.
Also if they arent happy for you and tell you to have an abortion then they really arent your family and you can make it without them. Just remember that!

Answer 6

I feel your pain honey. I was around your age when I had my daughter. Mind you, I WAS married, had my own home and was going to be a college grad before she was born. My mother gave me nothing but grief. Some people are just selfish and worry how it makes them look instead of being a good parent and supporting their child emotionally. With my second child, I lived in Texas, so she didn't know about him until after he was born, and now that I am pregnant again, the same will happen. You need positive support, not people bringing you down. Abortion is murder. Cherish this new little life, if you do choose to tell them, remind them that this is YOUR life and your choice. Good luck.

Answer 7

I had to tell my parents at 17. I denied for a long time to myself and to everyone around me! It was the wrong decision for me because then I also carried the guilt. When I came clean the whole world lifted off my shoulders. I came clean. YES, there were other consequences to face at that point BUT, you're an adult and your parents can't force you to receive an abortion. It's your choice, it's your baby, not theirs. They may want what is best for you in life but, you know what is right for you and your life. My advice is to come clean and face the next step. Telling them is only half the battle but they should respect the honesty and dealing with them now will be better then hiding it and dealing with the guilt and the hurt that they will have about the decision not to tell them. TELL them why you are scared to share this news with them. Let them know how you feel and don't be ashamed. Shame is guilt that others make you feel because you yourself feel inferior. Step up be the adult take responsibility and don't let anyone make u feel shamed!

Answer 8

You should make sure you have a good plan of what you and your bf are going to do (i.e. move out in June? jobs? schooling? caring for the child? financial situations? insurance to have the baby?) before you talk with your parents. This way, when you tell them, you can try to reassure any worries they may have, and you will be able to answer the questions they may ask. Hopefully this can calm their nerves a bit, and it will show that you are being responsible about the situation.

Goodluck with everything!

Answer 9

I'm 18 almost 19, living with my boyfriend, and pregnant. I just told my mom outright...but it took me a while to tell my dad. I just flat-out told them both that I was going to have a baby, and they both accepted it. You parents will too. They may be angry or disappointed at first, but in the end, you are an adult, and they love you...and you DO NOT have to have an abortion if you don't want to. Good luck, and you'll be fine. I promise. If you need to talk, email me at [e-mail]

Answer 10

I can tell you from experience ... they might be mad or upset but if your family truly supports you they will still love you no matter what happens.

I understand your scared and it wont be easy to tell them, but the sooner you do it the better, then they can adjust and hopefully be part of your pregnancy, you will need the support.

I dont know what your relationship is with them but if they mean that much to you, then you must mean as much to them (I hope!)

keep in mind they might be quite upset at first but dont give up they will get over it, after all this baby will be their family too