My wife cheated on me, we are back together now. When she cheated she did crazy sex, but wont with me. Why?

Answer 1

difrent now..

Answer 2

It's not really something you can help to be honest...
Excuse my horrible personification (though the general idea is true), but you are like the home rock for her. You are always there and are reliable and steady.
When she cheated it was a 'naughty', taboo, morally wrong thing to do and that makes it all the more risky and excitting. When the situation became like that, she felt more 'lively' or immature, however you may put it, which lead her to trying crazy things in the bed with the other person. It's like the difference between having a party with the people from the office or having a party at a bar with your good friends...

Anywho, by all this what i'm trying to say is that it's not something that you are doing wrong which makes her not want to do these crazy things with you. If you want to try and bring the spark into the relationship inbed to try and promote the idea of being more active in bed, so to speak, you migth want to try various ways of boosting that exitement or risky factor. I wont go into detail much here, but simply starting off with maying more attention (not saying you dont do this) to her in bed and trying slightly newer things, having a romantic dinner, or even planning out a really fun and enjoyable "date" night where by you can initiate a spur-of-the-moment fling in the end could work great as well.

*Also, ignore the stupid fools who leave non-sense answers... they're just ignorant kids without a heart*

Answer 3

Im not an expert, but. I think when people go outside their relationship to fulfill fantasies, to experience new sexual thrills, its due to a couple being unable to talk about sex between themselves. A couple has to have a comfort level with sex where they feel they can tell the other about desires and fantasies without fear that their partner will think less of them for it.
I really dont think its eithers fault that that comfort level isnt there, the relationship just never went that way. The crazy things you talk about may have been something that she would have loved to do with you but didnt know how to bring them up.
If you two are able to work things out you need to find away to build that comfort. Maybe sit down one evening and each take a turn telling the other about a fantasy or desire that youve never acted on. With the agreement being that neither will think the other is wierd, and that anything brought up may or may not happen, but both should be free to express them. Good luck, I know form personal experience how much an affair hurts.

Answer 4

Because she isn't that kind of girl when she is with you or anybody in her regular circle.

It has nothing to do with you. People act out and try new things with new people because that new person can't be shocked, dissapointed or think "wow why does she want to do this" The new person could say to her "you're gross, yuck"and she can say 'piss off" and not be too upset.

But if that happened between you and her then it damages the relationship or makes her upset.

It is also possible 'crazy sex' wasn't her idea, or she may not have liked it as much as you think.

Answer 5

First of all, let me say this...

Your wife will do whatever you want to do. You lead, don't look for her to do with you what she did with anybody else. If it's in you to be wild and crazy, she'll gravitate to that side to please you, if not, you'll be in this situation. You have to learn to take control of the situation and not really rely on her to make the initial move. If you being wild and crazy is something that she likes, she will, if not then no. Don't do something because someone else did it, make sure you understand her needs and then cater to them. You'll find out if she really enjoyed that other side or if it was just something for the moment.

Answer 6

It sound like she is bored with your sex life you need to talk to her and see where your relationship is going. It's obvious that she is not happy with something or with you. I know it may be hard to cope with. You and your wife need to sit down and have a serious conversation about your needs and hers and come up with something that would make you both happy. If you can't then nothing going to change. Ask yourself this questions, are you happy with your relationship then ask her? Think about it. If you don't fix this now then it may happen again. I wish you the best and hope you two work things out.

Answer 7

why is because she had forbidden relations and that sometimes makes everything that much different....try to come on to her, try to make things more exciting and interest her....a different kinda kiss may be the thing to change her mind....or maybe change the way you hold her....do something you've never done before and you'll see that if she's ashamed it wont matter anymore because she loves you....if none of that works out then im pretty sure shes over you and has you by her side to make sure you dont go anywhere, make sure you both are on the same page if not drop her like you would any penny.

Answer 8

She is afraid it will remind you that she cheated. She may have been pretending to be someone else when she was cheating and now she is back to herself and SHE would never do those things. Talk to her and tell her you want to try other things without mentioning her cheating and maybe she will come around.

Answer 9

How would you know what she did with the other person? Did you grill her? Instead of wasting time talking about it, why don't you find out what makes her tick and try to duplicate that? Experiment with her and forget about the other guy before she strays again. Maybe if she thinks you won't judge her based on what she likes to do, she will be more open with you. Now, go get your freak on!!

Answer 10

She probably wanted to experience some cheap, raunchy, naughty and taboo sex. She probably has zero respect for the person she did it with and does not want to lump you into that same category. If you want it that way, talk to her about it, if she still will not comply, ask her why. If you still really want it and she will not budge, just let her know you are going to find some on the side like she did.

Answer 11

The real question is why were you stupid enough to get back with her? She has already shown she doesn't respect you or your marriage, yet you want her anyway. She will cheat on you again, and do all those nasty things with other men she won't do with you.

Dump her now.