if ur wife is never home what should u do?

Question

my wife is never home i talk to here everyday and see here sometimes but she is allways over out other people's house's i have talk to her about it but it does not get any where i give her 150 a week just to spend on something nice or what ever she wants iam to nice? should i cut her money off until she gets the point? what should i do

Answer 1

She doesnt seem like much of a wife to me. Its nice and all that she likes to have friends and stuff but what about you? She should consider taking you out too with her friends and have maybe a get together or something. I dont think that she cares too much on having a husband and she seems that she is using you for money. 150 dollars a week is alot of money to be giving to her and her not doing anything just having it handed to her. Its nice that you do that for her but she doesnt seem to show any appreciation in you doing that. No, you are not being too nice its her thats being selfish. Keep trying to talk to her put your foot down and ask her whats the deal? Ask her why she doesnt want to be around you at home. She acts as if she is single. She is not. If she still refuses to talk or to understand you just for a moment let her know that your relationship isnt going to get very far. She is taking advantage of you and your money. She seems like a gold-digger to me. Dont let yourself get used like this. Keep trying to get through to her and dont give up. At least you are trying. Think about what to do if she is still stubborn...think about the rest of YOUR life and maybe you will have to find someone else who can be there for you as a wife and friend. good luck :)

Answer 2

Isn't this a switch, usually the married man is out with friends and ignoring the wife at home.
You could go to where she is at and see exactly what she's up to and try and be part of it or you could go out with your own friends. Perhaps you could have another chat with her and tell her exactly how it makes you feel when she's never home. Although spending time with friends is okay , there has to be a limit and neglecting you is not acceptable. If she truly loves you and wants to stay married, things have got to change. Ask her why she feels the need to be constantly gone, what is so bad about staying at home with you. Let her explain herself and try and understand her, come up with solutions and try and resolve it together.
Don't make the mistake of thinking she'll change eventually or drop subtle hints. Rarely do these types get the hints or will change unless they realize that their being hurtful and are willing to change for their partner. Most times they get defensive and think your the one with a problem and are too needy. Don't fall into the trap and believe that your over reacting, if your feel sad and hurt by their behavior, something has got to change or you both should move on.

Answer 3

Oh my goodness boy, your one heck of a guy giving her money like that for nothing. Why do you do it? So she'll stay with you? Obviously thats it because she's not spending any time with you which sounds like she doesn't love you as much as you think. Or maybe she does and just has a lot of issues. You never know she could be cheating on you if she stays gone all the time like that. I'm not saying all this to hurt you but you have to look at the whole picture. And yes definitely cut the money off until she sits down and talks to you about the whole thing and you two come to a resolution. Heck cut her money off completely and just watch the bank account and see where she's spending her money. I could never use 150 a week just for nothing unless I wasted it on shopping or something. Your too good for that. You deserve better than to have a woman use you like that.

Answer 4

My wife is always pissed off with me , passage sex if you know what I mean , I have 2 young boys 4.5 and 1.7, mom is always away , 3 pm asks me to fetch kids , I do , and she still gets home at 8 pm some time does not come home, .we cannot seem to talk . Argue argue argue , I am tired , She has issues , Bipolar , multi-pal personality disorder , on meds I hope that I pay for , mom does not work , and not sure if she can sustain a job.We are 10 years apart , I being the older one , Been alone with kids for 80 % of the time , Love the kids and can deal with them effectively, Play school fed bath bed and more , but mom is frequently not there as she seems to not want to be around me . I am lost and do not know how to rekindle our relationship , or resolve the problem .
I am afraid that she may loose it all , Mom has a bad history , I know , I would like to help her but I do not know if it is possible. Help me please

Answer 5

Yes, you should def cut off her $$ supply there's no telling where she's using this money @ n there's no telling 2 what guy she is flaunting herself in front of in the "new outfits" she is buying. You make it plain n simple 4 her 2 understand. If your not going 2 stay home @ least some of the times, then you can find another man who will put up with your BS!

Answer 6

In a way, you are paying her to stay away from you. Ask her to spend quality time with you. Go out on a special date and show her to adore her. Ladehs like to feel special and important, OR some like agressive guys n such. Which is your wife? Tell her you want to spend more time with her, that is rather essential in a functioning and loving relationship. I hope this is solved soon for you and you see your wife more often. Enjoy and have a wonderful life :P

Answer 7

It sounds like your wife craves being around other people. She does not like being alone. Having her get a job will be one way you will know where she is and it will keep her busy.

Schedule dates with her once, twice, three times a week. Make it so she wants to be home when you get home. Be creative and have fun with it. If she's being unfaithful, you'll find out. Otherwise, she's just craving being social...plan events where she can do that with you.

Answer 8

well maybe it's you. Money can only do so much.Maybe just maybe u should check yourself in a mirror and see what am i doing right and what i am doing wrong. u will surprise at your answer. if u have more wrongs than rights it's time for a change. most times we don't have a clue that something is missing we just feel like hey everything is great and ok but in reality things are falling apart and u don't have a clue. reevaluate yourself and ask your wife what am i doing right and what do i need work on. that is what she is for to help you grow and in return you help her grow.

Answer 9

What is at the friends home that isn't at yours? I would take the money away, why fund her habits if she isn't doing anything at home--not right, a woman should try to spend time with her husband, how else will a marriage survive? Good luck

Answer 10

Apples and Oranges dude....your money doesn't make her go to other people's houses. It could be you don't talk to her very much...women need that. It could be she's just a social person and likes to chat with other folks. Tell her that you miss her..that's really the problem isn't it. Tell her that you don't mind her visiting other folks...you'd just like to have her at home to yourself every once in a while...just for kicks, go visiting with her sometime. Good luck!