now im turning 18 in april my daughter is a year and 8 months the thing is that i go out my mom helps me alot with my baby dont think im irresponsible because i work and i pay for all her stuff and no i dont get child support well here is my questions you think a guy would ever want to get with me couse i have a baby
2007-03-29 05:27:36 · 32 answers · asked by moniquita 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Yes, a guy would still love you for who you are. You are responsible, mature, and seem like a nice girl. He will overlook your past faults...people make mistakes. This is just one that is really obvious to the outside world. My only advice is don't feel ashamed of your little girl...show her off like the mommy you really are. And...NEVER lie about your past.
Good luck, sweetie.
2007-03-29 05:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by purplmonkeez 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey monica......first off I'd like to say I'm extremely encouraged to hear that you are taking care of your little one!!!! :-) No matter when in our lives we find our selves apart of a new life it IS a blessing (even when we cant see or understand it at the time) and believe me when I say that there are many many good and honest men out there that will be able to not only accept you and your precious little one but love and respect you both as well. I was one of those men until I found my married my amazing wife when I was 19. When we got married she had two daughters and to this day I love them with all my heart and I thank the Lord for them constantly. I don't know if you are a Christian or have any kind of religious background and if not I would recommend you starting looking into Christianity and this amazing God we serve. If you are a Christian and do believe in our Lord and savor Jesus Christ then I encourage you to pray and have faith the he has already hand picking the husband for you and your little one that will make you both happier then you could have ever asked for you and He has predestined a time for you to meet.
2007-03-29 11:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by johnnyV 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mom, I was a 18. And like you my family helped me a lot. There are plenty of guys that are going to want to go out with you, even if you do come with a bonus. Do not worry. I had plenty of dates, and wonderful boyfriends. The hard part is knowing when to let the child get to meet the guy. I waited until I had gone out with them for a few mo. That way my child was not exposed to Mommy dating a lot of guys. Most of the time she thought they were just my friends. I would let them meet her when I was with a group of friends, so that she did not know the difference, and it was easier to answer her questions as she got older.
2007-03-29 05:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by HappyGoLucky 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be careful how you word that. There are lots of pervs who would like to get with you because you have a baby, unfortunately-which is why you have got to be on the ball and NEVER leave your baby alone with anyone you just met.
If you are asking if we think a man would get with you even tho you have a baby-absolutely. But be careful of what you do. Do tell your potential beau that you are a mother, but get to know him before you bring him around your child. Sheeeiiiit. Ask him if it would bother him if you did a background check first! If it would, than you best to move on and find someone who is willing to let you.
It's not just you anymore. It is YOUR BABY and you. (Like you don't know that, already, right?;)!) all the best to you.
2007-03-29 05:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that there are a lot of guys out there that won't run away when they find out you have a child. But I did want to make one suggestion to you. GO TO COLLEGE! You will meet lots of guys there of course but the most important thing is that you will learn skills that will help you succeed in life, whether or not there is a man in the picture. Good luck to you.
2007-03-29 06:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by slykitty62 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course!
My best friend was 14 when she had her beautiful daughter. It was of course by accident, and she spent 6 horrible years with her child's father [that's including the amount of time they were together b4 her daughter's birth], but once he was out of the picture things changed.
Now she is 21 & is with her b/f of two years. He's younger than her but absolutely in love with my best friend Krystle. He also adores her daughter & vice versa. Krystle is the BEST mom I know & she chose the right guy to love & support her and her child.
2007-03-29 06:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, honey, I know there are some great guys out there who would be willing to raise your child if he really loved you! If you meet someone interesting, let him know up front about your baby, because you want to find out at the beginning if the relationship is gonna even be affected by that fact. Keep looking and don't settle for anything less than what you would want for yourself AND your baby.
2007-03-29 05:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by mom-of-4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you will struggle with finding men when you have a child - especially since you were so young when you had her. It is not impossible though - Get yourself involved with people your age by doing good stuff like volunteering and going to the gym. Also - don't focus on finding a guy - love comes when you least expect it.
2007-03-29 05:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm proud of you for being responsible and raising your child on your own. In my opinion, a "guy" should be the last thing on your mind, but to answer your question, I think a MATURE man would not see your child as a reason not to be in a relationship with you. You are so young. You have plenty of time......
2007-03-29 05:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys really love kids. They like the whole idea of family. Just be honest with him up front, if you spring it on him in the middle of the relationship, he might feel betrayed. If he doesn't want to be with you based solely on the fact that you have a kid, then he's not worth it. You shouldn't settle for anyone.
2007-03-29 05:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by fmxkrazyone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your still very very young.... You have absolutely nothing to worry about. Not all guys are jerks.... one will come around who cares for you and your baby too. You just need to be patient and make sure you tell your potential date in advance that you are a mom. If they leave, or do not care to pursue the relationship further... they were not worth it to begin with. If they stay... you have a really great guy, and hold on tight. :)
2007-03-29 05:32:39 · answer #11 · answered by jlo77 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋