Why is he determined to move so fast?

Question

Hi my bf us to get our own place together after just 6 weeks together, is this a good idea? I work during the day and he works nights so we wouldnt really see each other until weekends so we wouldnt be really in your face. I just dont understand why he wants this so quick. I left my fiance for him, he is an ex who I have always remained in contact with. He is going way too fast. We were in the pub last week and he asked me to marry him. Why he is determined to move so fast I am afraid we are not going to work out but if I dont move in with him I'm afraid of losing him also he said he is head over heels in love with me but I honestly think its just lust and he will change his mind I dont know what to do, if we move in together it might not be bad but I think it might be a bit too quick

Answer 1

Its definiteley way to quick in my opinion....You can do what you want but rushing into things never leads to anything good.....Good Luck

Answer 2

It is way too quick. He is afraid you will go back to your other boyfirned that you dumped for him.
He knows that you left your ex for him and could do the same all over again and he would be dumped.
I don't think jumping from the frypan into the fire was a good thing for you.
You should have broken off the relationship given yourself some time and then if you still wanted, hooked up with your old bf.
If you are living two separate lives, day and night so to speak, it is not going to be a rel;ationship.
when do you spend time together, when do you cultivate the relationship.
You will be like yin and yang.
The idea of looking for the right person to spend your life with is to get to know him or her and find out what makes the relationship strong and good.
There is no opportunity for this to grow in these circumstances.
I find it ironic that the man you left your fiance for, is so desperate......

Answer 3

It seems like you've already answered your own question. If your female intuition is saying it's too quick and you think it may be lust, don't toss your intuition aside! Don't know if it's the possibility, but could he have been after you for the chase? He may get bored if he gets exactly what he wants. Personally I think 6 weeks is way too soon but I don't know the situation of your relationship. I do believe you should trust your female intuition. Good luck!

Answer 4

You should be more afraid of not losing him. He is desperate for some reason, however whatever reason is not good for you. No stable man would move this fast, he has problems that you don't know about yet, but will be fully involved with if you live together.

You should run and run fast from this one, he has bad new written all over him.

Answer 5

Don't move in with him. Even though you dated before it is WAY too soon esp. since you were previously engaged. It seems like he wants to marry you so he won't lose you like your ex-fiance did. Supposedly there is a chemical in mens brain that gets released when they fall in love and it makes them feel euphoric and extremely happy. This only lasts for 6 months and the feelings go away and they stop trying and being lovey. (Idk that is what I heard. Reserach it) So that could be another explanation for why he wants to move so quickly.

Answer 6

I think you are going way to fast and that he is confused right now. Just tell him it is to soon and if you loose him you weren't loosing anything anyway. Take your time. And if you do move in with him make sure you can pay the bills if he is to leave you or you will really be stuck.

Answer 7

6 weeks is not to get to know each other. Tell him he's getting pushy. If he leaves it means he only wanted to get into your pants anyway.

Answer 8

umm no not a good idea...but wait you left your BF for him..where do you really rate?go for it you deserve to get hurt