Why does life sucks so bad?

Question

I have been doing everything that I can, talking to new people, joining clubs, going out, and yet, people seem to have no interest in me. What's wrong with me? Why is it that I can only be the one that is left without friends? All of my friends already have boyfriend/girlfriend and they are 19 and 20. I am 19. I am really sad. Sometimes, every night, it just hurts so bad so I sometimes cry at night. Can anyone please help me? I am really looking for new friends.

Answer 1

Maybe you're looking in the wrong place... or the wrong crowd. Just be yourself, you'll meet some friends. Remember, to have friends you have to be a friend.

Answer 2

Hello,

I don't think that there's anything wrong with you at all. To me, it looks like you're doing everything that you can to meet new people - that's awesome!

I think it's just a matter of time now. It hurts because you want friends and a special someone right now, Patience will pay off in the long run, I'm sure.

When you're alone and feeling bad, try to take this time as an opportunity to find out who you are and see what you're all about. Maybe learn a new skill or interest. Sometimes, when we do what we're passionate about, we attract like-minded individuals who become fast friends and soul mates.

Hang in there! Find out who you are and what you love. Have faith in the process and be kind to yourself while things get sorted out.

You're alright. I promise.

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Hey,

I went and did a bit of research about the kinds of questions that you've been asking here and I noticed a pattern - you're often looking for others' opinions and validation. Let me tell you, you're going to feel lonely for a long time if you look to other people to tell you that you're ok. That really needs to come from you. Try to find some books on independence and/or co dependence and see if they make any sense to you.

Answer 3

Do you have all your limbs? all of your senses? are you blind? crippled? or have a severe decease that's eating your body every day? If the answer to any of these questions is NO! then, there's nothing wrong with you. You're only 19 so I don't know if you've ever heard this saying " If you find (1) good friend in a life time, you're lucky!". Well, it's true, you don't need a whole bunch of people to make you feel complete. Spend time with yourself, learn to love yourself first then everything else will fall in place. My GOD!!! you're 19 and you make it sound as though you're 99 and your life is about to be over. Regroup, do things with yourself, if you find it boring to spend time with yourself; then that means that other people will be bored with you. If you find it hard to love yourself; then how do expect for anybody else to love you? Do something for somebody else, just out of the goodness of your heart. Do some volunteer work, and the rewards from doing stuff for others will be so great; that you'll forget all about who wants to be your friend or not. Life does not suck, you have small stumbling blocks; that's all. Your time to get a boyfriend/girlfriend and best friend will come. Don't rush it! all in due time. Good Luck! ni ni :-)

Answer 4

HEY !
I had that same problem with me some time ago.U know what, i still think that i am left all alone and when i go looking whose my friend, i find none !!! I can completely understand what you are trying to do here and what u must be feeling. I felt that same way and even like u i asked a question here at yahoo answers. Everyone will give you the same advice that stop thinking about it, it will be ok, it`s just a phase and that stuff. But i think it`s just a way of looking into life itself. I had a tough time getting noticed around my friends and all i ever wanted to do was just simply to get noticed. The only thing is first u have to believe in ur self and be confident ! Not just saying i really mean it ! If u are confident in ur self then u hold the key cards to pleasures of life my friend. Oh and if u are really looking for some new friends then my sincere advice to you would be make friends in your local area or neighborhood. Why i said so ? Well first off i`ve experienced it myself making friends this way and believe me it`s the last thing u wanna try coz it ain`t gonna help a bit ! Secondly if u make a friend then u gotta be able to keep in touch with him/her any time u want and that`s where the area comes in. So my advice to you would be make friends in your neighbourhood and just be your self. Don`t try and act someone you admire, coz it will ruin your own style. So i beleive you will do the right thing. Hope you find friends like you desire. And by the way my name is Salik, i liv in Karachi (pakistan), so if u live near somewhere, then we might be able to discuss your prob.
Pleasure to HELP !
Salik

Answer 5

Hey!!! We'll be your friends. Sometimes its hard to make new friends in flaky situations, like clubs, where everyone is there to hook up and get wasted. Find some hobbies that you like and join some groups, you'll have new friends in no time. Are you in college? Its a GREAT place to make lifelong friends. Also, I don't know how much family you have, but my brothers and sisters are by far my best friends. Please don't waste tears at night over things that are so minimal in the grand scale of life sweetheart. Your young and have a lot to learn about people and may just learn that having 2 good friends is a heck of alot better than having 10 crappy ones!!!

Answer 6

If you look for friends you can never make them.

When your in school and do group projects, thats when you start saying things like "Hey why dont we do it at my place, instead of the library" And then maybe you will feel more comfortable in your own home, and plus lets face it you can talk more in there, and play music and discuss things. Then after the project is over, you can ask them if they wanna go hang out, or go to wing night or something that every one does.

I have a really hard time making friends since I have had the same ones since i have been 6. And I am a loyal friend, I always just I dont know. Its hard to get out of your shell. But you dont need like a zillion friends, just a few really good ones, that will stand by you through thick and thin.

Answer 7

Well if this gets too serious let some one know.. although I'm sure you've heard that before. I kinda know what you mean I've been feeling the same way lately. Just keep asking yourself what your not satisfied with.... or maybe its not bes to ask too many questions if you already are and just go with the flow, relax , things will slowly fall into place.
In my case I don't feel like I've done enough with my life I guess? Go somewhere new! Get a job away from home for a while if you can do that so you have to cling to new people.

Answer 8

Hi , You seem to be a very nice person. But do you really wont just any friend? People need to be love we all do but we don't need love from just any one. You are not the only one going though this. You are tiring to hard to have a friend. Stop trying. And it will come to you. like now any time you need some one to talk to you can e-mail me. at [e-mail]. God has a planed for you and don't be friends with every one. When people see that you will do any thing to have a friend they some time find things for you to do that is wrong. Stop looking for a friend just be good to people and if you are good to people a true friend will come in your life.

Answer 9

Your not the only one, believe me, I'm pretty much at the same place. I have friends, but not very close ones and I want people who care more about me, but I guess that's kind of selfish. I really like being with my church family, there are some great people there and I trust them, especially the elders. If you want true friends, go there, but I know you probably aren't the type. I've heard a lot of people use that as an excuse. You don't have to be perfect to go to church, and you don't even have to be a Christian, but it is a time to worship God and be thankful for what he's given you. You meet people there. I hope that helps, and I hope you feel better, if it makes you feel any better, I'll add you as one of my contacts. God bless and please take what I've said to heart.

Answer 10

I know what your going through. My best friend moved away a few years ago. So I really don't have any really close friends. I'm a really nice person and easy to get along with..but just can't find that really really best friend for some reason. The way I look at is maybe some day I may find that really good friend again. Until then I just live my life for me! I wish you luck just try not to be to depressed about it and take it just one day at a time!

Answer 11

Tough age in life , look for friends at work. Many times even if many of the people you work with are some what older than you , it is easy to make friends, start a card night with a few people or something like that. There are lots and lots of people out there. Maybe your trying a little to hard to make people like you , relax and be yourself.