My brother is 36 years old, and to my surprise he is still on drugs for almost 10 years by now. Me and my mother don't know how to deal with him and make him have the motivation to change. He lost 10 Kgs. and looks awful. Please tell us how to deal with him and give him the motivation to be off drugs ??
2007-03-29 03:34:14 · 17 answers · asked by Sweetcherry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only true way of getting your brother to want a change is some tough love and prayer. I'm in the same situation with my brother and it hurt me to be tough on him, but that's the only way he will acknowledge that he's on drugs they always think that u can't see that they still have the habit, but we can see that they do. So pray and ask God to help u and your mom so u can take the correct road to help him With his recovery and for him to have a change of heart about drugs, because if he don't want help god won't force him and all that u do will be in vain.I will pray for him u don't need to know a name in order to pray for someone because we already connected on yahoo and he knows who I'm praying for. Good Luck!!!!!
2007-03-29 03:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by sweet p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly think he has a drug problem, then maybe think about doing an intrevention. I went through one for a family member and if anything, our concerns were told to them. Obviously there is a possibility of your brother to walk away and feel resentment toward you. If his problem is so bad that is life is in danger then it's worth the risk. I would talk it over with your mom and maybe go see someone that specializes in interventions. I don't know if you have ever seen the show, but it could give you an idea of what all is involved. Good luck!
2007-03-29 12:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by Go Cats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point him in the direction he needs to go, open as many doors as you can so he can begin to help himself. you cannot help him before he can help himself- so dont. Just let him know you are worried about him and concerned about his failing health. Give him the local health department #'s and direct him there for help.
Dont give himmoney, dont ignore his problem and support him wholeheartedly if he chooses to become clean. Do not take this person in- he is an adult and should act like one. You and your mother have to give him some tough love and if that means telling him you can no longer help him until he is clean- then so be it.
If you accept his behavior the way it is now it is the same as saying it is ok for him to be doing.
2007-03-29 10:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys cannot help him unless you are specialists. He needs professional help. The difficulty lies with convincing him to accept this help. It takes lots of courage to admit that one has a problem and needs help. I have the same problem with my brother. I took years before he admitted that he needed a psychiatrist, and even now the battle is not over! But what can I do? He’s my brother, I love him a lot, but I cannot force him to do what he does not want to do!
Good luck with your battle! But distance yourself from the problem enough so you will not get destroyed emotionally by this! No point in destroying two or three lives because of someone’s bad choices!
2007-03-29 10:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by Specialist 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. He has to do it.
One thing you can do is tell him that unless he gets the help he needs then he is not welcome around your children. You love him, but drug addicts cannot be trusted and you don't want that kind of influence around them.
My brother is 30 and is the same way. Nothing can stop him. He will stop when he either dies or simply hits rock bottom.
The only thing you COULD do is call the cops on him. He may end up forced to take treatment to escape jail.
2007-03-29 10:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ten years is a long time to be doing drugs- however, you cannot do anything until HE decides to quit. Start with going to NA without him- let him see that you are willing to help. Offer to take him along. He must first change the crowd he is hanging with and make a commitment to himself before anything will change
2007-03-29 12:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make your brother do anything.... he has to have the will to change himself.
addiction is a powerful thing. and as you are probably aware, addicts care about nothing but their habit.
your brother has to make the decision to get clean, by entering a rehabilitation center, etc. i hope he doesn't get into trouble with the law, or worse.
the best thing you can do is take care of YOU.
if there are Narcotics Anonymous meetings in your area, i'm sure you would be welcome to attend with open arms... you don't have to be an addict to attend, and i'm sure these people would offer you care, support and suggestions.
You can also check for Narcotics Anonymous websites and chats... i'm not sure if the chats exist, but i think there are many resources on line.
you are in my prayers.
2007-03-29 10:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe if you can prove to a doctor that he can not take care of himself they can admit him in to a rehab program. There's a few programs that are like AA (thinks it NA) that he could go to, but I don't know how willing he would be. I have a cousin that is a drug addict and he has lost everything, his 3 kids, wife, countless jobs. I hope you can help your brother.
2007-03-29 10:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to make someone stop taking drugs they have to hit bottom first and for some people that can take forever your best bet is to stop accepting his lifestyle if he chooses to use drugs then you can choose to remove him from your life it won't be easy but it is for the best Good Luck
2007-03-29 10:41:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By describing the weight loss, I can deduct that you are not from the US. Here we can have someone involuntarily committed for indefinite observation, if shown to be a drug user. I just got the commitment papers for someone I care about to have them committed for the same thing. Good luck.
2007-03-29 10:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋