This man promised me that he wil divorce his wife because they have had unending problems.We have been going out for four years now,the question is i dont know if can wait any longer for him to divorce his wife.Please help me.
2007-03-29 03:04:57 · 83 answers · asked by solizebo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have been getting boned for four years. After all this time, do you think he's dumping his wife for you? Nope, he's not budging. Forget about him and hope you never get cheated on once you do marry.
2007-03-29 03:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL you are just a piece on the side, if he was going to leave he would have done it long before now. And to think now everyone can label you a home wrecker. Women have got to be crazy for dating a married man, but when her husband screws around it is wrong. The answer is you should never have gotten involved with a married man in the first place, if you get hurt now, you are the only one to blame because you knew his situation going in. And if you are lucky enough for him to leave his wife and marry you, what are you going to do about the girlfriend he has on the side while you are his wife? Cant say much because you know he can hide it well if his wife hasn't found out about you in 4 years. Good luck
2007-03-29 03:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been 4 years. You're still with him and he's still married. Why would he want to change anything? He's getting what he wants. And I am of the philosophy, once a cheat always a cheat. What makes you think if he does divorce his wife and marry you, that he won't meet someone else and do the same to you? You need to move on and find yourself a good single guy. Chances are he'll never divorce his wife.
2007-03-29 03:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by redrum42482 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put this into perspective. He is going out with you for four years. His marriage is on the rocks. He is not faithful to his wife which means the oath he took to god means nothing to him. What makes you think he would not find some other woman to have an affair with when he marries you? If he thought marriage was sacred he would have waited until the divorce was over(even though divorce isn't really any better).
If he can leave one for another, he can do it again.
2007-03-29 03:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is the stuff TV is made of....literally. How many times do you see shows depicting women waiting for their married boyfriends to leave their families and NEVER do. Honey...he isn't going to leave his wife for you. I know that sounds a bit harsh, but the reality is that even though he has been having issues with her, his family and her family is connected. If they have children together, the situation is two fold. Men have a lower likelyhood of obtaining custody. Men who cheat have even less of a chance. My advice? Do something for yourself before you shed another year. Take a college class (if you're not already in college), join Toastmasters or some other organization and meet some nice single guys your age. You'll be better off and much, much happier
2007-03-29 03:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm, excuse me, but why would you even want to marry a man that cheats on his wife? Do you think you are so special that he will not cheat on you as well???? I am sure his wife thought she was special when they married and now look at where she is....with a man who has been cheating on her for at least 4 years (you know, you may not be the first or even the ONLY one he is cheating with - he may be cheating on you with someone else). The man is a loser and you are not much better, "going out" with a married man for four years. That says to me that marriage vows are not something either one of you know how to take seriously!
2007-03-29 03:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by c_n_s130 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should not wait for him any longer! Four years is a long time to wait for someone with "promises"! If he hasn't left his wife by now, then his intentions never were to leave her! Just move on and find someone single and who knows your worth more. Plus, if you were to marry him, wouldn't you always know in the back of your mind that he could be doing it to you? Well I hope you realize what you need to do! Take Care and God Bless!!!
2007-03-29 03:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by tristeyloca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's been with you for 4 years and hasn't divorced her yet? He's not going too. Even if they have unending problems, a divorce will cost unending money and a selfish joker like this guy will never want to pony up the cash. Just cut it loose, no matter how much he tries to manipulate your feelings.
2007-03-29 03:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by Genie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's playing you you are the mistress that will believe anything once you leave you can determine how he feels but yeah he's playing you like legos honey Be for real its been 4 years a divorce doesnt take that long he's not celebrity
Did it really take you asking this ? on here to feel how you do now with the riducule from woman who are married whose been cheated upon... I say you worth more and you need to leave him and his marriage alone your only aiding him in being a cheating dirt bag and how you no morals to believe his lies and assist in ruining his family.
Married = taken why not find someone who is single who won't have you on the back burner do you really think he's not going to cheat on you the gullable mistress who believes anything.
Girlfriend grow some balls and take back your life before another year passes of you being a fool.
Good Luck
2007-03-29 03:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by Diva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years? Dont you think you have wasted enough time believing this jerks lies? Of course he is going to tell you he is having marital problems, otherwise you wouldnt believe he loves you and be having an affair with him. Put yourself in his wifes shoes. How would you feel if he were cheating on you? And by the way he probably is cheating on you now as well as his wife. Smarten up, dump this jerk and leave other womens husbands alone. I was cheated on by my husband of 22 years. We are divorced now and, he isnt with the woman he cheated with. Once we were divorced he really got out and played around, so dont believe he will be with you even if he does leave his wife.
2007-03-29 03:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by Cathy S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip girl and face reality! You are being used and what's worse you are allowing it to happen. Do yourself a favor and drop this guy and move on to someone who will treat you with respect and dignity and worship the ground you walk on! It's been four years and if he has not divorced by now, it's not going to happen. Why should he leave the wife? Especially with you sitting on the sidelines? He has you for the booty call and the wife for the social occassions.
2007-03-29 03:11:59 · answer #11 · answered by sassyliz32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋