I have found out that my soon to be husband had another girlfriend? He said that it was way before we started talking. He sad that she broke up with him after he got locked up. and now he said that he really know who really loves him and I want to know if I should still marrie him or should think about our future? I really love him, But my mind tells me to leave, But my heart tells me to stay. So what do you think about that? someone please help me.
2007-03-29 03:01:59 · 19 answers · asked by myshia h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whats wrong with a little cheating now and then?
2007-03-29 03:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow! You really go for the gold here! First of all, why was he locked up? You might want to find all the sides to the story there and if you suspect him already cheating on you and get married, then you go into this already knowing what is gonna happen in the future. If your already conflicted over the situation, do you really think its going to get any better?
2007-03-29 10:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by sassyliz32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he was cheating on you if he had this girlfriend before you. Good luck in finding a guy that never has had a girlfriend because there aren't many out there. I think it sounds like you are insecure and have major trust issues. If you have to ask if you should marry him than the answer is no - but your reason is silly.
2007-03-29 10:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go with your first instinct as it usual proves right. You could also find some friends of his and verify his story about when he was with her, etc and find out if he's lying totally to you and playing you. Don't marry someone you doubt could be a long term marriage (marriage isn't like a part time job that you can quit if it doesn't work out and you shouldn't go into it thinking that way). No matter what, good luck to you and God Bless.
2007-03-29 10:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not unusual that he had relationships before you. It was before you got involved.
I hope you've already been thinking about your future. If you have doubts about marrying him, now is the time to back up or back out. The fact that you're not clear on what to do is a sign in itself. When you're ready to marry someone, it feels right and natural. I would be more concerned that he's spent time in jail.
2007-03-29 10:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, as in yesterday... Do not waste another second thinking about it. Guys that are locked up, always have time to think about his mistakes, but the second he has his freedom again, even if it is not her, there will be another.... Been there.... get gone as fast as you can.... to many good men out there to waste time with a loser.... I say that about any man that goes to jail, no matter the reason. They are not men and do not know how to take care of their business....
2007-03-29 10:08:00 · answer #6 · answered by HappyGoLucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave b/c if he cheated on u once he will do it again trust me i know i have been there and i took him back and he cheated again with the same person. so get out while u stillhave a chance. don't make the same mistake i did. b/c u will only regret it later. u deserve better then that. if u marry him then it will be alot harder to leave so don't marry him and get the hellout. find u a guy who doesn't cheat and only want u. goodluck
2007-03-29 10:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by biggest_duke_fan_ever@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused. Are you saying that you could only marry a man who has never had a girlfriend except for you? That seems kind of unrealistic. People who find one girl, never date anyone else, and marry that one girl, are very rare.
2007-03-29 10:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my opinion think very hard on what you want to do, but if he had a girlfriend and she broked of with him and he landed in jail. I'm sorry but once a cheater always a cheater, and he will do the same with you. find someone else. you deserve better.
2007-03-29 10:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE.
It sounds to me like he is playing you. A real man wouldn't do that.
If he truely loved you he would have no secrets from you
The only way you should stay is if you prove she was not with him after you two got together
2007-03-29 10:12:04 · answer #10 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another GK and a jail bird at that, WHAT are you thinking.
Stay for what him to go to jail again or have an affair and leave you high and dry.
Move on with your life since there won't be a happy one here.
good luck
2007-03-29 10:06:21 · answer #11 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋