Is being the "Mr Good Guy" is the better option in life?

Question

Everyday one witnesses the not so good people getting all the success,girls,money etc!
So is it still the right way of leading life???

Answer 1

Yes, be the "Mr. Good Guy." Be the good guy, but be confidant in yourself and motivated in your life. This is the key to success. It is probably the "confidence" part that gets the not so nice guys all the goods. But in the end, their attitude will bite them back. A good man with confidence in himself and motivation to acheive what he desires, will get what those not so nice guys have, and more. The good guy will also get real love and real respect, which the not so nice guys will find a lack of in their life, in the end.

Answer 2

Just decide about what do you want?
a) Mr. Good Guy
b) Better option in life (as you define it as success, girles, money etc.. whatever you want)

But prioritise that so which one to be No.1 and No.2
If (a) good guy - you do not want it as No.1 just forget it, because once you become a bad guy, it will be very difficult to change yourself, would require lot of suffering, painful, bitter situations for a bad guy to become a good guy.

If (a) good guy is still your option, then make it as the first priority.
a) good guy - for your inside, that is your inside should fell that you are good guy (moral, whathever etc, the way you define it)
You should not bother much if others think you are a bad guy.

In history not all the good people were treated as good people by others around them when they were alive.
Ex. Socrates, so many.

All I say is think about what exactly you "WANT TO"
You don't "HAVE TO" do something just because others tell.
Do all the "WANT TO" and Never do the "HAVE TO"
You do something because you choose to do that, or you wanted to that; Do not be passive "HAVE TO";
Before doing anything ask yourself, is that really you wanted do?

Answer 3

Yes, it is.

I observe them too and it makes you wonder "How?" "What am I doing wrong?"

You aren't doing anything wrong, really. But, notice that these people take risks we aren't prepared to take. They are willing and go ahead with extending themselves in unthinkable ways to get what they want, no holds barred.

I have come to realise that when I am bolder, the road opens up for me. I never want to cause distress to another, although I am sure somewhere along the way, I might have done so unwittingly.

The catch is 'being bold and unafraid to go for it." When we hesitate for fear of hurting another (we should) or say "No!" so that we don't compromise ourselves, we lose opportunities in this life. This is not to say that other chances will not come and we will never make the cut, it is merely that we take longer and in some instances, never make it at all.

I notice my friend, Charmaine taking chances everyday - chances I do not take and she meets with great success. She left a job less than ten years ago and went off on her own to build a million dollar business and upgrade a $280,000 house to the value of $1,400,000.

It did not come all at once but she is very persistent and does not back down. If she sees something she wants - a piece of land, a new business venture - she pursues it to fruition. I, on the other hand, might not put up too much of a fight. She will!

Answer 4

Yes. The option of remaining MR. Good Guy is always the best option. ( But good guy does not mean that he will remain a dumb or fool or not avoid being oppressed as far as possible or not act in self-defence). By being a Bad Guy one runs the risk of getting into problems and not making money or getting into power to enjoy all material things one would have wished. Not all bad guys get wealthy or maintain their wealth. But being a good guy at least ensures that a man remains a good guy attribute and psychologically happy.
However, this option in the ultimate sense does not exist. Those who remain good or turn good are gifted with certain attributes (genetically determined) and/ or happen to go through certain experiences (backgrouds, parents' characteristics, family/ education exposures, etc) that they are naturally inclined to choose the good guy option. Similar is the case with those who remain or turn bad boys. This latter part is my theory which hardly any human being however spritual or believer in God, will ever accept.

Answer 5

Being the good guy as opposed to the bad guy can be related to the concept of "instant gratification".

Good guys finish last, but what nobody ever says is that bad guys often don't finish at all. Being bad may get you instant gratification but you will end up paying for it in the future. Being a good guy may in the short run not seem like it's getting you anywhere, but it almost guarantees a good future.

Many things can be used to compare this: credit, sex, etc. Do I pay now in cash and then be broke but have no debt in the future, or do I finance it and in the short run make it look like I have more money, but in reality I will end up broke.

Answer 6

There is your choice.You have to decide like everybody else if those things the bad guy's get are that important to you and also if you want those things like that for those reasons.also take into consideration what you might loose.Maybe then you will have lots of success,girls and money but maybe now you have one girl who likes you for who you are.Maybe now you can look at yourself in the mirror without being disgusted.Maybe now you know every dollar you earned was made in a honorable way without victimizing anyone.
The questions is how big is your conscience and what's more important to you?Success or morality?
Last point,there's enough good things out there for good guy's and those things are REAL

Answer 7

Its always good to be the "Good Guy" but if that is who you always are, then people will being to take advantage of you, because they wil begin to think that you will always be there to do what they need. But being a good and caring person, there is nothing wrong with that. You just have to know when to be the "Mr Good Guy" and when to be the "Mr Not So Good Guy". Although, society does show that the not so good do end up better, its not always true. Go with your heart, its the truely only thing in this world that can really tell you what do you!

Answer 8

U know the Quran and the Bible say--The Meek Shall inherit the Earth-so theres gotta b some truth to it-and I do justify it with all my heart but---but lets face facts--in this day and age--its the survival of the fittess!!!and when u take everything bowing down -thats where U r gonna b--on the ground--trust me!! I have been there,done that and i still haven grown up--i still have trouble saying no and i know that ppl take advantage of me and dont gimme the time of the day!!well whats the heck!! i m trying to b strong and belive me--people wanna hang around ppl who r strong and not geeks and comedians--they r cute for awhile--later on u just wanna move on!!

Answer 9

Being true to yourself is always good and it will assure absolute peace within yourself and nothing in this mundane world is worthy of it(peace of mind).
Do your duty to God and the society at large and for your family,relatives ,friends and yourself in particular and do not worry about the result or about the way others live or the benefits evil people get etc.
In this world of ours ,Newton's Law works perfectly with action /reaction theory and the associated good/eveil effects and people may call it law of Karma o Dharma
Every person has his own account with God and it is that which allows one to enjoy or suffer the fruits of action /reaction.
Things will look unclear but actions are concrete by the natural law of universe.We are not capable of getting the answer of our likes/dislikes.

Answer 10

The good guy is always the most trusted. The good guy does not end up with as many people taking advantage of him. The most trusted tends to be the one with the better life.