2007-03-29 01:46:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, but you should pick one with looks and a personalilty to match. Like the song goes, "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife. As for my personal point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you." Thank you.
2007-03-29 01:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you are an Indian then yes this is wrong as who selected ugly wife. It is you and now you are changing your mind. As per Hindu law you can marry another girl only after divorce. In the present case without any reason to divorce you cannot marry a beautiful girl. If you are followers of other than Hindu Law you are free to do so without any problem.
2007-03-29 02:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by ssunderagarwal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. How can you just call your wife "ugly" like that?? That's so mean..
I would imagine, that no matter how "beautiful" any woman you are with is, you will always be looking elsewhere, because you don't even understand what marriage vows are. Nowhere in there did it say "to love and honor.. until someone more beautiful comes along".
That's just awful. I feel really sad for your wife. She deserves better.
2007-03-29 02:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can desire for anything, no one can control your desire. the same for the wife also, she can also desire for a saxy & handsome man. By the way, may I ask you why a man should marry an ugly lady and then after marriage should desire for a beautiful wife???
2007-03-29 02:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by baba 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
pretend, attractive females would nicely be only as demanding and tumble as an unattractive one. some attractive females do not spend too a lot funds on makeup and such, they only pass to Wal Mart and/ or they only have organic attractiveness. imagine having to have kinfolk with some gruesome fat chick. Your marriage would cave in the drains, and also you would only be yet another divorce statistic if you're lusting over that somewhat chick at artwork that's were given an awesom personality like you idea you would by no potential locate, as terrible because it sounds, seems extremely do count number. and attractive women human beings, maximum celebrities for instance, cherish their households. Take a at the same time as on marriage. good success, hun. ~Frenchie
2016-10-17 21:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you married her was she ugly to you then? Did you tell her that for better or worse you would stay true to her? Beauty is skin deep and will alter in time or possibly suddenly. Do yourself a great favor, love your present wife. Honor the Lord's command, and you will find great blessing.
2007-03-29 02:21:20 · answer #6 · answered by Lone Papa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its been said that marriages r made in heaven...so try to be good with ur current relation and enjoy ur life...its natural that u r desiring for a beautiful wife...but nobody in the world gets everything good...some people may say tht look for ur wifes inner beauty...but i dont believ in such crap statements...but try to make good wht the ugliest of the things u hav with u...try to see and get the best out of what u hav got with u...rather than wasting ur time goin after the nothin...
2007-03-31 03:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by krishna_raj_s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Sivaram its not. What you are going through is not a unique situation nor is it a unique state of mind. To desire for something better is an innate human , so you neednt feel guilty about it.
However what is more important is that we need to be realistic. Just wishing for a better and more beautiful wife does not get you one, nor is there any guarantee that your new wife will be better than this one. As Douglas has rightfully pointed out ' Beauty is only Skin Deep ' and believe me I have seen quite a few cases where Beautiful wives have totally ruined their husbands. So then what has beauty to do with happiness. This is a question you need to meditate upon.
It is your life no doubt, but then you also need to make sure that you do not ruin somebody elses life in an attempt to make yours better. According to Hindu Dharma once Married you are married for life. What does Married for Life Signify ? Is it supposed to force you to stay with your partner whether you like it or not ?
No it is not so. Marriage is a beginning of a new life, of a new partnership. Once this partnership is formed there is no breaking to it because you are now one - fused -. Whats the point in breaking a part of you , going back again and starting all over again? People with these tendencies keep breaking and making new ties...
But Sivarama you wouldnt want to do such a thing since it will not only be stressful but also like a lottery- whose outcome you never know !!!
You have a wife now , you say the partnership isnt working , since she is reluctant and her looks arent upto your expectations. But you being a partner have the right to make your lives better. Your firm ' Family ' can become prosperous if both of you work out a way to enrich your lives. Its not as easy as I can say it and as easy as it sounds, because you are going through a very difficult phase, but you can still do it - where there is a will there is a way. You can if you want to.
It will take time as well as energy. You will also have to invest a lot of your time your emotions your love and your thinking to make sure that you correct this situation that you are in. And remember , ugliness and love are not connected at all. There are many couples where either the wife or the husband arent
so good looking but they are still in a very good and fruitful relationship. How ? Because love is not related to looks , money or anything physical. For one who is in love , even if the world calls his lover an ' ugly woman ' she appears as a Queen to him.
How can rectify this situation?
1) You might need to transform yourself too. First of all you might have to become more loving and caring. Its not possible to clap with one hand .. hence look into your mistakes and the steps you need to take to ensure that your wife becomes more cooperative.
2) Show her how much you care and how you are ready to do anything to make the relationship successful
3) Share with her your frustations, when she is in a listening mood , and ask her for a remedy - Also request her to assist you in your attempts to make your marriage successful so that both of you can lead a happy life ( Remember if you are dissatisfied and unhappy , she will also be unhappy as there will be tensions in the family and hence she will most obligingly cooperate with you if you show your eagerness to fix your marriage)
4) Spend some time praying. Praying ??? Yes I did say Praying . Prayers help and with a name as beautiful and potent with meaning as yours is you need to make yourself worthy of your name - Sivaramakrishna.
Pray and connect with the divine energy - whichever form your like its ok as long as you can connect to that energy. Visualize your favourite deity and start talking to the deity. Yes Talking. Loudly or softly or in your mind as it suits you but do talk with the deity as your closest acquaintance. Visualize strongly. Sit alone in a room and start talking with the deity. Very soon you will get answers. You will get help and you will feel better. If you ask , there is always this energy to give you what is best for you.
Probaly you have been given this wife for your own good. Many vedic texts say that ' Whatever happens, happens for a reason ' The lord alone knows as to how this situation is going to transform you. So go ahead and connect with this omnipotent energy. Feel free to ask, ask with love, ask genuinely and you WILL receive answers
I wish you all the best and hope that you will put in positive efforts to make your life better.
With prayers to the lord to assist you, and requesting you not to take any harsh decisions
Love
Daskalyanpur
2007-03-29 19:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Das K 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes bcoz beauty lies n d eyes of d beholder! Dear beauty is not going to stay 4 ever!
2007-03-29 01:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by sherry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it`s 100 % wrong...
where is your taste...what happend to it...before marriage??
why don`t u select beautiful?
Compromising for money & properties.... after that realising?
No...use....
2007-03-31 04:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by swaagat143 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋