he questions who i see where ive been etc.he also thinks i will get together with is friend who is both our friends for 7yrs
2007-03-29 00:41:31 · 30 answers · asked by D M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don`t tell him. If he asks say since the day he left it`s none of his business.
2007-03-29 00:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by *~STEVIE~* *~B~* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to say. it seems like old faithful hasn't been very faithful. cheating people are always suspicious of others. it is what psychologists call the 'projection theory'... they project what they are doing onto someone else. if i were you, i'd start looking at a mutual female friend that he might be hooking up with. marriage counselling always works if you are determined to make it work. encourage and open and candid relationship so you can work through whatever problems there are in the marriage. gd luck. i understand how sacred marriage is. however, sometimes you need to just cut your losses and move on with your life... you will be amazed and what might be waiting for you.
2007-03-29 07:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's been looking for an excuse to leave for some time. He may truly have suspicions about you and his friend or it may be something he's built up in his own mind to make him feel better about leaving. In any case it's very sad that he has taken this route instead of working on whatever the real issues in your marriage were.
2007-03-29 07:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both remember that your still married. OK, you need to have a talk with him to find out what is wrong and can it be salvaged. Be reassuring that your willing to work on making your marriage better but its a two way street. Sometime you need help other times your the one giving help. So the big question to you is what do you want?
2007-03-29 07:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that...sounds like he is very insecure maybe he has a guilty conscience. He may be feeling regretful of his actions and trying to see if you still care for him. Either way ignore him he left you so if he was that concerned maybe he should of thought of that before he left. Good luck with everything and stay strong it's his loss
2007-03-29 07:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lola602 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell himhe gave up ALL rights of questioning your wherabouts as soon as he left you. Maybe you still like him,its hard but you have to be strong.
I cant believe the cheek of him.
Do yourself a favour and tell him to mind his own business. And also if you did find a new man (wether it be this friend or not) thats got nothing to do with him neither.
I think he still likes you but hes made his bed........
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
2007-03-29 08:15:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO REASON!!!! Do you really believe that... Sorry but why didn't he try to fix it.. he loved you once - why waste it - Still no reason!!! He questions you because he is keeping you on a string just incase whatever hes currently got going on at the moment dosen't work, and then he can pull you back 2 him.. Think about it...
2007-03-29 07:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a control freak. Next comes beatings. Let him walk. There are plenty of men that are grown up enough that don't have to control their woman's every move. Get out now dear before it's gets more controlling.
2007-03-29 07:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by Rosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,he sounds like a control freak so your better off without him.Who knows what the future holds maybe you will end up with the friend.Its nothing to do with him.Tell him to get lost & move on with your life.Good Luck
2007-03-29 07:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by Ollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to butt out. what you do is no concern of his. He left you and you're not answerable to him. the reason he does this is cos he still thinks he has control and does;nt want you to move on or is scared you will and he wont have you to fall back on when he realise the grass aint that greener on the other side of the fence. go girl get out there and tell him to get stuffed!
2007-03-29 07:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by womble 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god im so sorry, you know what thats the exact same crap my hubby told me when i caught im out on his affair the " but i dont love you anymore " crap the truth is they use that to try to make them selves feel better n justified.
I think he still loves you but hes not ready to admit it, my hubby recon he stayed 4 our kids , now hes so possive and jelious and says he loves me all the time but its my feeling that have changed now through being hurt so much.
If you still love him theres hope there still but you dont let him dictate to you what you can and cant do, ive learnt not to let mine any more.
2007-03-29 07:49:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋