Hi.... I am a middle Child, does that mean im not a achiever?

Question

Hi.. i've surfed the net and found out middle children are quite loners, they dont value relationships and in activites they are inactive... they would prefer cases where they could express theirselves like wrting, art etc.... in my case yah! it is.. so can a middle childl be a achiever? are there mid chilren that that achieved ? pls clear my doubts...

Answer 1

I studied psychology as an undergraduate at college for a few semesters. Obviously, I don't know everything, but if I had to pick one theory from the dozens that I studied that seems least reliable, it would be Adler's Birth Order Theory. I saw a news segment that explored this theory in relation to one family. Some elements of the theory fit, some didn't. Of course, it was just one family in the many families of the world, but from what I've seen in my friends and myself, well, I'm still not convinced. Also, I'm the oldest of two. I'm a bit of a loner and used to write and paint a lot. I'm also an achiever to some degree. I've always had excellent grades and I am a very hard worker. My sister is 5 years younger, though, and my professor commented that gaps 5 years or greater starts the birth order over. According to her, my sister and I are both theoretically only children in relation to birth order theory.
I found an article at Wikipedia that seems to contradict what you said about being the middle child. I don't know how reliable Wikipedia is for this kind of information, but the link is below and here is the excerpt in question: "Adler believed that in a three-child family ... the middle child, who would experience neither dethronement overindulgence, was most likely to develop into a successful individual."
Don't believe everything in psychology. There are rules in the theories that usually have exceptions. It'd be a shame to fulfill a negative self-fulfilling prophecy (where you read something and believe it will happen and subconsciously, or consciously, make it true) that you could have otherwise avoided. Don't sell yourself short! Self awareness is the essence of psychology. While theories may help with that, they are, after all, still theories.

Answer 2

Well I sure Will!! My husband is a middle child and he has done magnificently. He started 3 companies from the ground to the top each time. Now we are extremely "comfortable" and I thank him every day that I don't have to work anymore and we have it so good. He is the best husband in the world too.

You are merely supposed to be the one that was overlooked because of time between your mother's childbirths. So you supposedly didn't get as much attention.

My husband is not that close to his family because he WAS overlooked so often. He's a lonerm thank Gawd!! BUT he is the most intelligent man I ever met, he is a charmer, and I would follow that man into HELL itself.

The middle child has nothing to do with being an Achiever or not being one. You can be an OVER-Achiever Because of the very fact that you Are the middle child! Good luck!! @8-)

Answer 3

I, too am a middle child. I have an older sister and a younger brother. It is true that I am a loner, however I greatly value relationships in my life and I try to get involved in activities when I can. I am an artist, love to draw, write, work with clay making sculptures,etc. I have acheived a few things in my life that I am proud of. I think you have to look at these statements as an overview and not as an absolute for all middle children. You can do and be anything you choose. It is strictly up to you no matter what your birth order.

Answer 4

Me too! I am an achiever. Started my own construction company. Very involved within my community. Receive awards at least once a year for services I have performed. Organize and find funding for a Bicycle Safety Rodeo for the last six years. I am also interested in art and writing, somewhat of a loner, but have one or two very close friends. One thing about being a middle child that is an asset, we learn to think for our selves and are more independent then our siblings.:)

Answer 5

Of course a middle child can be an achiever. They can achieve like everyone else if they put their mind to it. The stuff that is written about such things is not true for everyone. It just may be more common that middle children are like that, but that doesn't mean they're all the same.

I know middle children who have achieved a lot in their lives.

Answer 6

Psychology has one major flaw... they catergorize too much, yes there are plenty of middle children that are achievers, besides that, art and writing is a big achievement, if you become good at it, consider yourself reaching the high goals, not many writers become worth anything these days..

Same with art actually..

Psychologically though, yes middle children are Def. loners, why wouldn't they be? they are neither young enough for one, nor old enough for the other.. they are often by themselves in the essense of family. But you can change that on your own.

Answer 7

You're predisposed to thinking that you are not an achiever. The fact that you are a middle child makes you no different from your older or younger sibling, except for the fact that you've been told you're different. Don't believe all the pop psychology hippy talk you read today.

Answer 8

Y to worry unnecessariliy?success belong to the most persevering and the most deserving.it dosent matter if u r amiddle child or not.u must ve a goal and a will to achieve everything..so many middle child are succesful in their life.. dont worry be happy...

Answer 9

Anyone could be an achiever. Middle child or not. As long as you want to achieve and you actully try and do everything you could, you will succeed & achieve.

It's all on you.
Everyone has choices.

Choice determines destiny.

Answer 10

no what a silly thing to think.you have the best of both worlds you have an older sibling and your also an older sibling.your either an achiever or not its has nothing to do with being a middle,younger or older sibling.whet a stupid concept.