How do you tell when you are at that point and what is the solution? How would you face the idea of never having love or a lover for the rest of your days? Could you cope? Would your life be worth living ??
2007-03-28 22:10:03 · 26 answers · asked by dorcas_3210 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What you are describing is called marriage.
2007-03-28 22:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi there ......well ive been there and it took a lot to make me want to live life but you have to make a decicion that is right for you if you have been so badly hurt and had youre life and youre near soul destroyed there is something inside that can kick into life and make you want just some peace and that is youre starting point ,to want that a place where you can stop and think and have timeto start to pull youre self back together it took me quite sometime to get to that point and to say that i hated men would be a understatement ,then i realised it was one man that tried to destroy me not all men so the thinking changed again and with that thinking it gave me the chance to move on again with the healing of me .....its taken me a good while but now im in a new relationship and it is the best thing you could believe,we care about each other and work together as a partnership .......it can happen but you have to give youre self a lot of time and just take the chance the fact is i learnt that i didnot have to put up with anything that i didnt like anymore and that is a powerful tool to have when you have it taken away from you ......if you are in this type of a relationship there is a world out here just waiting for you to join and start living ......believe me it is worth it .......youre right it is not easy but if i can do it then anyone can do it .......make youre life what you want it to be ......youre only here once !!and im living mine to the max ......good luck and take care xx
2007-03-29 05:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when a person is in a relationship and ges hurt emotionally it hurts real bad to the point they don't want no one else and don't want to ever be in a relationship because of being afraid of being hurt all over again.They don't want to even try and take the time or energy .There are good men out there.Where they are at i do not know.You have to ask your self do you want to take that chance once again and find that special some one or do you want to just stay single.Also at the same time being single and with no mate is not a bad thing. You do not have to have a man to feel impotant,
special,loved.You have to look deep inside of your self and figure out wether or not you can be a complete woman all on your own on or does it take (a man) to do that for you.You matter no matter if your with some one or not!Believe in your self and everything is possible!
~God Bless~
2007-03-29 05:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by michele k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is always worth living! never let someone bring you so far down that you don't want to come back up! There is always someone that is looking for a great person! Just spend lots of time with friends.. get some stuff done that you've been putting off, in the end, you won't be so worried about these things, then you'll be able to get on with your life... good luck
2007-03-29 05:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ambah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely ... today. However, time will cure that. Sounds cliche, right? Truth be told, that cliche is still around because it is true.
You will wake up tomorrow and feel about the same. The day after that, similar, but the key there is not exactly the same. It hurts now because it is fresh. The memories, the good parts (or bad parts) are still vivid images, and sounds in your mind.
Give it time. Give it plenty of time and realize this: Not all people are created equal. Just because one person hurt you, or caused some sort of emotional damage, there a some fabulous people out there who you will eventually bump into. Best of luck.
2007-03-29 05:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by maxheadshot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first you are in shock,then you feel sad,hurt and completely ripped apart,can't believe it happend as you cry your heart out you ask yourself why?Why me,Why did this have to happen to ME?you cry even harder hours maybe even for days until it feels as though your eyes are bleeding.Then comes frustration because it happend and you feel you let it.Even tho you didn't.Then comes the ANGER and self promises of never again will I let a man treat me that way or make me feel that way again.Then comes the sorrow and depression and the thought that life is not worth it,and you just want to crawl into a deep hole and hide forever.Once you get thru all of that then that is when you slowly pull yourself together and start taking life and everything else day by day.Because that is all we can do,men think (and I believe it's inbred)!but they think they are above us women and most are egotisticle, chauvanistic,jerks.Who think they are God's gift to women.There are few out there who are not that way and one will come into your life when you least expect it,when that happends and it will take it dat by day.When my life felt like it came to abrupt end because he hurt me so terribly and horribly I married for the wrong reasons and the wrong man.16 yrs and 3 kids later I realized that for the exception of my kids,(who are the best part of my marriage) I had wasted alot.A marriage without real trust,friendship and not just love but Being in love with the man you married was and is misserable...Make this your motto...Day by day...Step by step.You will hurt less and learn alot more about yourself.Just remember to make sure you NEVER compare men and relationships to what hurt you,never make a person pay for someone elses STUPIDITY and MISTAKES!!!Live life and be happy for yourself.Because the only person you can always count on and only truly trust is YOURSELF...I am 38 yrs. old yes I have been there too.
2007-03-29 06:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen some people who have remained in this condition for years. Time is usually the solution but not so much time you sacrifice your life for them. The person that you loved will go on with their life regardless of how you feel and you can't charge them for your brain space you allowed them to have. Life is always worth living and there is a purpose for you.
Megan
2007-03-29 05:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by meganzopf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of the situation, life is always worth living. not having love or a lover for the rest of your days sounds terrible. sooner or later you will get over your pain and a new love will enter your life. it may be in the form of friendship or it may be in the form of a romantic relationship but it will come. but to answer your question, i think i could cope with it.
2007-03-29 05:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are all responsible for our own happiness in life, and it would be your choice if u decided to end all future relationships because of a hurt, but everyone has been hurt, and has suffered the pain of a broken relationship, its really our own perception of what happened to us that causes us to feel as if we can't go on and love again. the person who hurt u will not suffer any, we cause this ourselves, not the hurt we received but how we chose to handle this. when it is all said and done its us who has wasted our life grieving over a person who didn't deserve our love in the first place. life is short, going through life alone cheats us out of a future. why allow that person who hurt u have that much power over the future. we choose our path by our decisions. the person who hurt u will not be sitting around grieving so why should u?
2007-03-29 08:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm at that point at the moment. cant ever imagine wanting to be with another person or sharing my life with them. im hoping its just going to be temporary and i'll feel differently in a while. i suppose you cant know how you're going to feel years down the line. all i can say is, if thats how you feel now, go with it. you can always change your mind and find someone when the right time comes. meanwhile, fill your life with friends and great experiences - stuff you might not have time for if you were in a relationship. you never know if one might happen in the future so take advantage of your free time now!
2007-03-29 05:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you can feel like that for years and think it will never end. But time heals all wounds even when it's the heart. Tomorrow is another day and the first day of the rest of your life. The pain will ease day by day.
2007-03-29 05:14:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋