Me and a gorgeous female coworker began flirting a few months ago. We have kissed a few times and enjoy being together because we can talk about anything. The problem is we are both married. Neither of us have ever done anything like this and are wondering what we should do. We know what we should do and we tell each other that, but when we are together it seems all that goes away and we end up flirting and kissing again. Anyone got a suggestion to help?
2007-03-28 19:41:35 · 21 answers · asked by E W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Picture yourself slapping your wife in the face as hard as you can. Imagine the shock, horror, and pain you would cause to the woman you love more than anything.
The emotional pain you are causing with each kiss is far worse than any physical blow, but maybe if you imagine it in some tangible fashion like that it will help you to resist temptation.
Affairs hurt everyone. It's nice to flirt, that's part of human nature, and it's flattering with a pretty woman takes notice of you, but that should be it. Exercise some self-discipline, be a man and do the right thing. Please don't throw away your family (and hers) over a moment's worth of titillation.
Stop this before it starts. Go home and love your wife as you never have before, and never her tell her any of this.
Be a better man. It's in you, you wouldn't be asking the question if you weren't a decent guy who knows he's doing the wrong thing.
2007-03-28 19:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jon S 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Quit it! Just stop you're about to hurt a whole lot of people and at least one of you will loose your job. It's not only not smart it is cruel and the farther along this ignorant game goes the more opportunity for real damage. Sit down for ten minutes and think what a thrill it will be to go home one day and say to your spouse, "I lost my job not because I am bad at my job but because I was boffing a female coworker." Don't you know she will be proud then. Also, there is a real good chance that if you are at all superior in jobs with her she will file a sexual harassment grievance with the company when you try to end things. That would be lovely when it hits the local papers and your folks and your wife's folks get to read about it and your kids will just love the other kids at school saying "Isn't that your dad they were talking about on the news?" I doubt that anything I say will make you think it seems once a guy gets hard his ability for cognitive thought goes out the window. My blessings to your spouses they really don't deserve what you guys are doing to them.
2007-03-28 19:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow - I feel bad for your wife. Imagine how crushed she would be to know that during the day while she is working or whatever and having a quick thought about her husband, he is at work fooling around with some girl. And who cares if your coworker is gorgeous - thats the first thing you said about her which shows your thinking with the wrong head obviously. Your wife is probably gorgeous too, and could probably find a nice guy who wont go behind her back and cheat.I agree with the first post. Wake up and GROW up. If your not happy with the way things are going with your wife, get help or get a divorce, but stop the affair immediately. Maybe you need to rethink about why you got married in the first place and all the things you fell in love with regarding your wife...
2007-03-28 19:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mleigh23 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking with the wrong head here. How will you feel if you end up losing your family and your job over this? Will you think it was worth it? If so, then tell your wife and take the steps you need to extricate yourself from your marriage so you can be with your office cutie. If not, then stop it now. If you can't be in the same building together without panting after each other, one of you will have to find a new job. You need to get marriage counseling to repair your marriage.
Personally, I think your wife deserves much better than you. You and Hot Lips definitely deserve each other. What fun it would be for your wife (or ex-wife) to see the two of you get married and then torture yourselves with suspicion and doubts as to each other's trustworthiness and fidelity!
2007-03-28 19:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, an place of work affair is in no way ok. i'm no longer thoroughly against place of work relationships if the two events are single. even nevertheless, carrying out an affair with somebody from the place of work is in simple terms bringing very own issues to artwork, that's hardly perfect. If 2 human beings meet by artwork and habit a private relationship outdoors of artwork with out bringing that back to artwork with them, ok, yet to habit an affair is already bringing very own issues into the mixture.
2016-11-24 21:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you already know what you should do, but at the end of the day the 2 of you are going to do what you wanna do anyway..you already shared a few stolen kisses, so whats next? Just keep in mind that whatever you do in the dark will eventually come to light.
Just curious...do you know Karma?
2007-03-28 19:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by ♣Chronickandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. Even worse that you are both married. Office romances rarely work out. You break up & then have to see the person every day. I hope there are no children in either marriage.
2007-03-28 19:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since you both are married and have responsibility, you should forthwith stop flirting. Though impossible it may seem, you should part ways and forget what has happened. This is in the interest of both.
2007-03-28 19:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on both of you. I very seriously doubt that this little affair you are having is worth losing your marriage over. It's just lust and it will pass. You need to tell your wife about it, she needs to tell her husband. Maybe ya'll will luck out and they will both leave you two and you will get what you want. Seems like you and her deserve eachother anyway.
2007-03-28 20:03:28 · answer #9 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK time to answer a real question: Can you walk away from your family and make a life with her? I would bet that you answer no. If you were ready to make that move you would have. It's time then to say good bye to your office paramour and try to build that love at home again.
2007-03-28 19:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋