Can moving solve your problems?

Question

Ok so i live in Orange County and go to high school there. I have freinds at school and i have a family here but im really sick off this place. My whole family lives here but no one gets along and i have freinds but they all seem fake and self-centered. Im wondering if moving away when i graduate would help things or not. Please give me your opinion

Answer 1

I'm originally from San Bernardino/Riverside County - so I completely understand where you are coming from. I wanted to move away for mildly similar reasons, but mostly because of the overpopulation of the area, smog, and wanting a fresh start. High school is such an awkward time for everyone. Once you graduate you will see how people change.

Going to college somewhere far away and random is ideal. I went to Wisconsin (which I honestly couldn't have pointed to on a map without studying it first). I chose a small private liberal arts school (because then you don't have to pay out-state-fees and they offered great financial aid). It was a completely different culture, and opened up wonderful opportunities for me. I studied abroad in Wales, worked at a summer camp in Maine, went for my Masters in Colorado, and am now headed for my PhD in either Colorado or Arizona. Taking the initiative to travel while you are young will open up a world of possibilities. I still have friends that are in Southern California - they are stuck! But my closest friends are from all around the world.

Moving away isn't going to immediately solve your problems, but it will help you avoid them for a while. What moving away will do is broaden your horizons and give you different perspectives on life. And of course, time reshapes what real problems actually are.

Answer 2

It might help, it might not.
I moved from a place I'd grown up in my whole life about three years ago, and starting over fresh was one of the best things I've ever done. It was a chance to make decisions and start from scratch with things that had been so long established in my birthplace that I had taken them for granted. Now granted, I moved back last year, and I don't regret either move--I see the place I've lived forever in a different light now, and I can appreciate it better.

Give it a shot. Find someplace that isn't outrageously far from home but a good enough distance away. Try standing on your own two feet and making it by yourself--sometimes it's the best thing you can do to help you grow.
Just be careful about your reasons for moving...if the problems you're going through with friends and family seem like they might have solutions, you're just running away from things that will never get solved. If, however, they really seem ridiculous, give moving a shot.

It's always worth a try!

Answer 3

hmm, that is a tough question. on the one hand, you can't run away from your problems, like the family all not getting along. then on the other hand, moving away would give you the opportunity to learn a lot about yourself and life as well. i say go for it. if it doesn't work out, or maybe you find yourself missing all the dysfunction, you can always move back. i say give it a try. good luck

Answer 4

i think definitely moving somewhere totally different is a great idea. it allows you to go away and focus on yourself for a while. figure out what you want to do, and the kind of person you really are. although scary, i have moved several times to cities where i haven't known anyone and yes, it can be tough at first when you don't know anyone, but each time it has been a freeing experience for me. i think it really helps you become independent too. i would certainly tell you to seriously consider it. take care of yourself for a change.

Answer 5

moving away from the norm can be very rewarding, i have one regret in life and it's not moving away sooner. remember this line it's in the new rocky movie, rocky says "if you stand in one spot too long, you become that spot"
makes sense don't it.
however, if you're young, maybe hold on until your at least 21, look for a nice place you like, look for job, and rent, don't buy anything until your sure you love it there.
best of luck man, remember, meeting new people is the best gift on earth.

Answer 6

You can keep on moving and find people are all the same no matter where you go. I think you need to re-look your lifestyle and family and maybe you can improve yourselves alittle at a time. People will not change but you can.

Answer 7

sometimes moving can be a good thing. i say go for it. start all over and start fresh with new people who know nothing about you that way you can attract real people in your life. if you find that you still have fake and phony friends then moving was not the issue...........you are.

Answer 8

It could, if the problem is them and not you.

Answer 9

yeah it could. you will meet new peeps and discover ursef.

Answer 10

Well I will say that in the short run YES!!!!!!!!!!!