Me and my supposed to be best friend we IMing 1 day. But now we're in a fight because she never listens to anything I say. It all started when we were IMing about Akon (who i luv) on American Idol and she thought i ws mad at her for luving him 2.( but i was just playing around) And even though I told her that i was just playing around but she just said things like "mmk, sure..., and watever." Which lead on to a whole other fight. "And then when I confronted her about how I felt when she said things like that she would just say things like "now u know how I feel" which lead on to another fight And everytime I tried to apologize(even though i've done nothing wrong) she would IM something that changed my mind. And then when i said stuff that she knew was right and she had nothing else to say (because there was nothing she could say) she'd say "i don't have time for this anymore" and she would sign off. Should I wait for her to apologize or should I apologize be the bigger person.
2007-03-28 18:20:01 · 8 answers · asked by °lia° 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
1st of all i' not making her admit that i'm right and 2nd of al i can't talk to her in person because its currently 10:04pm and she wouldn't answer the phone anyways cause she won't listen to me!!!
2007-03-28 19:06:42 · update #1
taking the blame always seems right...sometimes you need to take the hit to save a relationship. The main thing in your situation is you have to say something like this: " im sorry we're in this wierd argument. im sorry if i came off like i was mad at you, but that was on IM noone can understand anyone on that. and second we dont even know akon! why are we killing a friendship over a singer on Amer Idol? i dont know bout you but i prefer our friendship over anyone anyday" something like that :)
gl hope you can draw something from that.
2007-03-28 18:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jon S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a fight because She doesn't listen to anything you say???
Helloooo? You two are arguing over some spud from some TV show that neither of you will ever have anything to do with, no matter what. You both need to listen: Shut the TV OFF stop IMing and start TALKING about how stupid this all really is. Reality TV is not reality. REALITY is what happens between Friends in real life not on line and not over something on the boob tube!
In short, you two young ladies need to do one thing. GROW UP!
2007-03-29 01:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by AllGrownUp 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a hard one. You need to tell her you said this and it hurt my feelings and how do you respond to this? I am tired and need a real friend, its not worth the trouble at times you have to wheigh the pro's and con's of the relationship and figure out if its what you want and then confront her with her hurtfulness and ask why and say watever but botton line is you can't take this or that. Its life like it or loose it. Take care Heather
2007-03-29 01:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not about being the bigger person its about being a better friend. Akon is just a celeb crush, you guys are best friends why should this petty argument get in the way of having fun? but when you forced her to say that you were right she probably thought that you weren't considering her feelings in the argument. you she just ask her out to her favorite place to hang out then tell her your sorry. Then you can get this behind you and live you life as good friends! I hope this helps.
Good Luck
2007-03-29 01:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by Paper.Milk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds as if she has a bit of animosity towards you when she said the mmm ok she must have thought that you take all the guys she likes... and she dont have time anymore maybe she's tired of fighting with you and doesnt want to be ur friend anymore always listen to the small tidbits
2007-03-29 01:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by maqwa2002 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds as if you have initiated being the bigger person a couple of times and she hasnt gotten with the program. its her turn to come with the apologies. dont sweat her! if she wants your friendship she'll do the right thing.
2007-03-29 01:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, i'd just say your my best friend...Why are we letting something unreal get between us.
2007-03-29 01:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
now you know why the call them "DRAMA QUEENS"
just wait about 15 years untill they mature.
At last you have not BEEN dealing with this kind of shxx for that long like me...........
2007-03-29 01:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by Craig B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋