Last October (2006) I split up from my friend who moved to Germany from Tunisia (I live in England). He was a very good friend too. I was heartbroken when he left. This year I have a friend who told me on 27th March that he has Colon Cancer and Lymphoma. He has been told he has 9 months to live from October last year (It took him until now to tell me). My friend is 22 years old and might not be alive for his 23rd birthday. This will be the second heartbreak I have suffered in 10 months. Why is it, that at this moment in time life seems to be so unfair and unjust?
2007-03-28 18:00:23 · 18 answers · asked by tunisianboy46 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's a question I ask all the time. You'll get through it. That's one reason we are put on this earth. We get all sorts of things thrown at us. Like your friend with cancer he only has a short time left - sounds like he has had a very hard life with abuse. You have got the chance to be happy and live your life for your friend and yourself. Make him proud he'll be watching you!! Partners come and go. The worlds a big place and so many other people to choose from have fun on the way to finding someone else. Take care and I hope that you find your happiness!
2007-03-28 20:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by KANGA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time can heal a broken heart. You will always remember your friend and because they were an important part of your life. As people get older fate has it's way with our destiny.
You can PRAY and keep your memories alive by spending as much time with your friend as you can.
Also try to stay focus on positive things, like take a trip together as a group. Happiness with the time left should be your goal - make the best of what you got right now.
2007-03-29 01:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jan!3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend die this last summer from cancer after she was told 3 months earlier that she was cancer free. I understand what you are saying. The problem is that its not that life is unfair but that life is unpredicable and we cant control what happens. I find that very scary at times because it makes your sense of your own safety very shakey. I am sorry you feel this way, but you will heal in time. good luck
2007-03-29 01:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by oceanqueen1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your suffering trust me. When my grandfather died I ripped up the bible and blamed god for being so cruel. I have never ripped a book ever and here I was doing it to the bible. Life is pain, without pain we cant appreciate the good things in life. It allows us to be more human and hopefully caring and understanding. If we didnt have pain and suffering than what would we learn if everything was happy? You need pain to grow and to live. Try and make the best of it and understand that your growing and maturing with each pain in your life.
2007-03-29 01:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by surfingbeanpole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always told my children, when they would say, "its not fair" get used to it, life is not always fair. Life is full of pain along with joy. What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. That saying is so true and you become a more compassionate person towards other people when you've experienced pain in your life. I lost my mother and then sister in a 6 month period. It was really tough but life goes on. I looked around and seen people have tragedy's in their life's that made mine seem like nothing.
Hang tough, tomorrow is a new day. Everyday makes it more bearable.
2007-03-29 01:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not. Your life was planned before you come here. That's why you should treat every day as if it is your last , because it may be. No one has the promise of tomorrow. You decide
your fate. However, it not up to you to decide what unfair or unjust. God decides what our purpose is and how he wants it carried out.
2007-03-29 01:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by Morningstar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HANG IN THERE life has it's ups and downs. You are temporally in a down.My life was HORRIBLE for 25 years and I made it better by having a positive attitude. Before you go to bed think of something that you saw or did that was nice, funny, kind, etc. Call it your highlight of the day. When you feel low remember the previous days highlight and smile. IT HELPS.
2007-03-29 01:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by WDOUI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there.
At least you have a perfect opportunity to make the days he's got left full and breathtaking.
This experience can fullfill your life too.
Life isn't measured by how long it is but by how full it was.
May the days of your life be few if it means those days are full.
Having a long life doesn't mean it's necessarily a good one.
I hope his and yours are good.
2007-03-29 01:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by scotthomas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the way of life.It wouldn't be right for everything to be perfect.Everything happens for a reason.I know,you gonna think there is no reason for my friend to die so soon.And you are right.I am sorry for your friend.But just think it will put an end to his sufferings and he will be in much better place.Death is part of life.For you and your friend.....it just wasn't meant to be.I'm sure you'll find your soul mate sooner or later.Don't get depressed.Try moving on.
2007-03-29 01:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey im sorry. life sometimes deals out crappy hands to people. there is no simple answer to your pain. actually i don't think there really is an answer. unfortunately you just have to roll with the punches. seeing that your upset...don't let your friends see you in such pain. i think that would only hurt them more. live every moment to the MAX. you can make any amount of time feel like a life time.
2007-03-29 01:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by Jon S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋