im fulltime wife with one baby and husband is gov. employee...i cought him flirting via txt msg. is there something wrong with me? is he bored with the relationship? why men do such thing? im confused.
2007-03-28 17:59:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
5yrs.married...less than 2yrs together.
2007-03-28 18:47:05 · update #1
5yrs.married...less than 2yrs together.
2007-03-28 18:49:59 · update #2
I'm so sorry that your husband is acting that way. It's not right of him to behave in that manner, and he is disrespecting you and your marriage with his actions.
Sadly, you seem to be making the mistake that many women do when they find out that their husband is talking to/flirting with other women. You assume that it has something to do with you, or that you aren't doing what you should be. Believe me dear, what he is doing is all about him, and his lack of self-control as well as his disrespect for you. He is doing these things because he wants to, and because he doesn't stop to think about how it will affect you or your marriage. It is all about him.. Nothing he is doing has anything to do with you, not at all. You could do everything right and be the most amazing wife in the world.. and he would still do those things. It's all about him, and nothing you've done or not done has any bearings on his choices to step outside your marriage..
I'm sorry you're going through that. You need to talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. I hope everything works out for you and your family.. But if he refuses to change and continues to see other women.. remember that you and your baby deserve better than that.
Take care!
2007-03-29 04:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men don't do that stuff, so don't blame it on the old "boys will be boys" garbage. Maybe he is bored with the relationship, but if he put half as much effort into it as he does with his dalliance, your marriage would probably be a lot more exciting. There is nothing wrong with you. The question is what's wrong with him? He's got a loving wife who seems interested in him, a healthy baby and a good job. So why is he playing footsie with someone else? My guess is that he's done this before ... probably while you were pregnant even and maybe even while you were dating. Tigers don't change their stripes. This is the one you caught him at.
If you want to try to save your marriage, get him to go to marriage counseling. If he won't go, go yourself so you can sort out your feelings and make some decisions. At the very least, talk to a divorce attorney about what your rights are. The divorce attorney will keep your meeting confidential and you can give him/her a friend or family member's phone number and address to get in contact with you. Believe me, knowledge is power and once you know where you stand, you won't be confused any more.
2007-03-28 18:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-12-14 20:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Most marriages that break down do so because the parties fail to maintain good communications. Ask him to have a talk and bring up the subjects that bother you. If he doesn't want to talk ask him if he wants to maintain the marriage or does he want to get out of the marriage? If he wants to keep the marriage, is he willing to work at it...because you are having some serious doubts about the stability of the marriage. Then the two of you might consider counseling. Husbands are reluctant to go to counseling feeling that they should know what to do to fix anything. But counseling is an area of specialty, just like plumbing and carpentry. So if a couple is having difficulties, go to a specialist in difficulties.
2007-03-28 18:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you! I do not know how long you have been married but sometimes a little spice is needed to make things more interesting. It is very wrong for your husband to be flirting with another women. I would be confronting him and make sure he is not cheating on you! If he is I would be checking into getting a divorce. If not or if so and you love him what about marriage counseling?
2007-03-28 18:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by Gidget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is bored with the relationship. He is just looking for some exitement that isn't actually going to get him in trouble. Doesn't mean he will actually follow through though. I think it is wrong and he should not be doing it. Text is used these days for far too many things!
2007-03-28 18:02:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kylie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an ego boost for married men to think they are attractive to another woman. Text message the woman back and tell her to please not communicate with your husband this innappropriate way. That is what I did and the girl backed off, my husband could not believe I did that, but it was too late by then for him to repair the damage.
2007-03-28 18:05:06 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you at all! There is something wrong with him! If he is flirting then maybe he thinks you arent giving him enough attention (happens sometimes once you have babies). You need to talk to him about this and tell him that if it doesnt stop you will leave!
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