please give oppinion?

Question

my 10 yr old got in trouble. after he was punished he said to me in front of his dad that his dad was sleeping with his mom back in january. he said that he was in bed but not asleep. my hisband said that he was just trying to hurt us the way he was hurting from getting into trouble. my husband said that he hasnt done anything to lose my trust. he came back with "why would i do something with the mouth piece there knowing he tells everything". i have to admit that made since but now i just dont know if it was a mad kid or what. what do you think

usually my husband is home at just about all times but work. i just cant remember back to january if he left on an odd day

Answer 1

Well being a mother of 2 teens now, I know that when they were younger, they always told the truth especially when not asked for, but at the age of 10, thats an age of compitition, he may have just said it to hurt you or get his father in trouble because he's in trouble. All in all, I would ask why were they in the same house in the first place while the child was "sleeping"? If you love your relationship and there is respect on both sides, I'm sure it wouldn't be a problem if you tag along while dropping the 10 yr old off and or picking him up. Or set time frames for him to do that. If he loves you he wouldn't mind it at all.

Answer 2

Well because of his age I can say that he is old enough to know what he is saying, but I have little sisters his age and around his age and sometimes they make up stuff. But no matter how many times they get punished they never make up lies about my dad with other women, or my mom with other men. The chance that your husband can go back to the child's mother is always a risk when you get involved in this type of situation. He's 10yrs old so I'm sure he's been in trouble plenty of times. Has he ever lied about this before? Has made up things about you two and told the other? If the answer is no chances are that he wasn't lying, but then again you shouldn't take the word of a 10yr old. If bringing this up made you have doubts, then there's obviously already trust issues. Only you know your husband's reputation. People sometimes make mistakes, but is this totally out of character for him? Getting defensive isn't a way to tell because when my boyfriend asks me(every once in a while, when my phone may not be working, or I stayed away from home a little longer than planned) what was I doing? Was I with someone else? I get mad because it hurts that he may not trust me, which I know he does. If you can't take the word of someone you vowed your life to or plan to vow your life to, then you have no reason to be married or marry this person. Misery loves company. There are probably going to be tons of girls lying on your husband and men lying on you(not likely just making an example just in case this comes up) you're going to have to trust him with all your heart. You have to believe everything he says, because if you don't then you're going to be arguing everytime someone says something, which will cause your relationship to be unhealthy. I used to get upset when girls would lie on my boyfriend. They would come up with all kinds of things. All lies. At first I would get upset, we would argue, the whole trust thing would come up, and it would just make him angry. I knew in my heart he would never do that, but I kept getting upset. I had to learn that people are going to say things. There are women and men out there who don't have anyone and would give their right arm just to have what you have. Don't blow it. It's not worth it babe, trust me. Trust him. It's just easier when you trust the person completely. I trust him. No matter what anyone says, I know that he wouldn't do anything to hurt me. He shows and proves that he loves me everyday, someone that dedicated isn't going to mess up what they had for anything. I believe that and I trust him with all my heart. Jealousy comes around, that happens. You're going to argue, you're going to get upset, that's marriage, that's relationships. That's life. But don't let it get to the point where leaving is the only option and you hate each other. People are going to say things, I don't care I believe him. If you don't trust anyone, trust him. I wish you the best babe, good luck!

Answer 3

Well I don't think we can really accuse the kid of lying. But I can't tell you he is telling the truth either. He could have heard it on TV or someones conversation and saw how someone else reacted to that same situation. Children can lie about thing you could never imagine. they are easily influenced by their surroundings.

I say do somemore research before completely beleiving him.

Answer 4

Kids say alot of things out of anger but not something like that. 10 year olds are not going to say that your husband is cheating on you out of anger, he shouldnt even know about sex. So i think you need to confront your husband and find out what is going on. I wish you the best of luck

Answer 5

i think the kid knows at 10 don't think hes trying to make trouble

Answer 6

im sorry to say this but childen dont lied, that one thing that they dont do, im sure that as a 10 he has been punished
before for being bad. has he. he did not say any thing about
this or anything else. talk to someone about this. this could
be a problem down the road, if he dont things to get in
your head, then that one thing but i dont know.

Answer 7

10 year olds are not capable of lying about sex. Let your hubby know that you are going to believe he is faithful-- but you need to quietly pay more attention to what is going on. Drop it before you flame out

Answer 8

Maybe your son getting in trouble is a clue. Maybe he has seen something so offensive to him that he is acting out and getting in trouble.

Answer 9

kids say the darndist things especially out of anger, forget until it happens again then question

Answer 10

tell chuck norris to roundhouse kick that boy into sanity.