What do you think causes people to cheat in marriages?

Question

I know there are some marriage where people try and justify their behavior because of the other persons actions (ie I cheated because she wouldn't have sex, clean the house, etc). I also know there are people who love their spouses and have no real complaints and yet they still cheat. Why do you think each sector cheats and is there anything that can be done to prevent this?

Answer 1

I think people cheat because they don't know how to have good self-control. They just let feelings come over them without questioning them. They don't see the beginning signs of something happening. They put themselves in places and situations where something could happen because they underestimate the power of emotional connections or chemistry. And I think people cheat because they practice cheating in their heads. They let their heads think about having sex with somebody besides their spouse and that is the step before behavior. That's why I think people who never think they would cheat cheat.
As far as the other crowd. They are arrogant and need to take responsibility for their own behavior. They need to think about somebody besides themselves. They are the ones who need tough love with consequenses. No excuses. And they need to deal with their underlying problems that make them so self-centered.
I think if you keep things current with your spouse, choose to forgive and work things out, keep pursuing each other it helps a lot. And I think that if you set really good boundaries with other people-physical AND emotional and stay out of situations where cheating could possibly take place it helps a lot, too.

Answer 2

Each person & each marriage is different, so it's hard to categorize them. Some people will never be faithful, no matter what & shouldn't be married in the first place. Some are bored, some are trying to escape from their worries at home for a while. There are lots of reasons (excuses). I don't see how it can be prevented if the person cheating doesn't want to change.

Answer 3

I think we live in a society where most people think that they should be able to feel great and have what they want all the time regardless of the people in their lives. If someone isn't 100% happy at home they think they can cheat when the feel like it- or even if they are 100% happy. People think if a marriage isn't easy and love doesn't just happen they should give up because they don't think a marriage should be work when in fact the more work you put into a relationship the more you get out of it. People today are lazy, stupid, selfish, and delusional.

Answer 4

Cheating is in the eye of the beholder, what do you consider cheating? some people think it is if somebody flirts they are cheating. others say that it is when they actually move on those flirtations that tey are cheating. and some people think just looking at another person you are cheating. People having Side fling or affairs are deffenately cheating. Most people think it is the person who cheated that is at fault. And others would say that it is the person that ws cheated on that is at fault. I think that it takes two people to make a relationship work. If both sides comprimised and equally comprimized they probably would never have a cheating problem. But when one side of the relationship tries to control the other it creates problems. Some people cheat because they say they are not satisfied with the sexual part of the relationship. Others because they feel lonely and they need to feel more alive. I think that ince you cheated on one person you are able to have a new relationship with somebody else and not cheat. if it is because they are unhappy with their current situation. Other people cheat because of the addrenalin rush they get when they are doing something that they should not be doing with another person and they search for that feeling. when they loose it they find another to cheat with and another and so on and so on. other people they just cant get enough their partner is not fullfilling them and the only way that they can get that feel ob being satified is to cheat. but they should try new stuff with their partner, but istead choose to cheat.

Answer 5

Biologically speaking, monogamy is the exception rather than the rule in the animal kingdom. The instinct to spread one's genetic material as widely as possible is an ancient urge, and one of those things we aren't even aware of.

Civilization and logic have brought about the concept of "mating for life," which does have its advantages. Some cultures are more serious about this concept than others, but beneath it all, we are still animals, relatively new to the idea of civilization and society.

I think that cheating (especially among men) is a prehistoric instinct that we are slowly overcoming with the development of intellect. We still have a long way to go.

Answer 6

Honestly, I think most people cheat because they aren't getting their emotional needs met by their partner. Most studies say that men and women cheat for different reasons. Women are looking for comfort and emotional support while men are looking for sexual and an ego boost. I think if more people would get to know each other better and really take "til death do us part" seriously, there would be a lot less cheating going on. Marriage takes a lot of work on both parts. Both partners need to feel needed, appreciated, loved and satisfied. People need to pay more attention to their partners and their vows.

Answer 7

cheating is no excuse for somebody else's behavior. cheating is immoral and disrespectful. I have a female friend at work that works nights with me...she cries every night because she believes her husband is out cheating while she's working. She actually blames it on herself and says that if she stayed at home at night, he wouldn't be cheating. that's bull. it takes a certain kind of person to cheat. anyone with good morals and family values does NOT cheat no matter how hard life is at home. people are not like they used to be...my parents have been married for almost 60 years..no joke..and you cant tell me in 60 years of marriage everything has been rosy! lol. people give up too quickly nowadays and temptation is high.

Answer 8

Well to me it all boils down 2, how much you really love your partner. If your in love with them the thought of cheating on them is just no where to be seen in thought yknw you wouldnt even think of it or dream of cheating on your partner b\c you love them that much. If you cheat on your partner then you didnt really love that person as much as you thought you did.

True love is the best prevention. I knw it sounds cheesy but HEY thats the true method if you love someone so much you wouldnt even dream or think of cheating just the thought of it would make your stomach turn. You cant even look upon another guy even b\c that person isnt him yknw? So thats what I think anyways

Answer 9

Selfish lust.

Answer 10

LUST!