do you think its the right thing to do for a man....?

Question

.....to ask his wife's dad permission?
I think its got nothing to do with anyone but them.

sorry forgot to say: WHEN IT COMES TO GETTIN MARRIED

Answer 1

In most cases it's considered the right thing to do, and it's basically tradition passed on from generation to generation.

Answer 2

If the dad said no, would you still get married? If so, why ask for permission, forgiveness is easier to get.
Basically the act of asking for permission was a way to find out if the Father approved and would then give up the Dowry or negotiate how much he would take or give depending on how well off you were or how likely you were to gain him an advantage.
I think that a better way to handle it would be to sit down and tell him how much you love his daughter, what your long term goals are for both of you, and how you plan on achieving those things. If you do not have any goals, get some. No one want their daughter to marry a slacker with no drive, no matter how much you love her. In this day and age, it usually takes team work to achieve your dreams. If you offend her parents you are in for a rough life, they raised her and she may not take your side if things get hot.

Answer 3

Well if this guy is important to him and will be like a father figure for him, and he values his opinion....Then I don't see whats wrong with that. It's also got alot to do with respect also.

Permission though, like if this guy says, no, he won't marry you...That is wrong, if not really odd. I have found out through personal experience that when someone relies on someone else's permission regarding a relationship, that person has issues. For me, I've learned that a man isn't really a MAN till he can make up his own mind.

Nothing wrong with getting advice, but permission is absurd.

Answer 4

Well let me say it like this. My dad has never been in my life when I was growing up. He didn't come into my life until I was a teen. Now I'm getting married and he told me that I needed to have his blessing. I told him that he doesn't have the right to tell me that because he was really never in my life. Now I'm not saying be disrespectful or anything like that but if he makes you happy and the both of you are in love, then that's all that matters because he is marrying you, not your dad. But like the others have said on here, it's more like tradition but times have changed.

Answer 5

Well from one standpoint you are right but you have to remember something.....you were your dad's daughter long before this guy came along and so it is done out of respect for your Dad. As it should be. Traditionally, most girls have a special bond with their dad so as such, the dad is quite protective of who the girl marries. So tradition sort of says that if a guy is man enough to marry you he should be man enough out of respect for the father to ask him for his daughters hand in marriage. You are looking at this maybe alittle defensively when in fact you should be that proud of both your dad and your fiancee that each thinks enough of you that your father requires a certain protocol while your fiancee is serious enough to have to take the risk to ask to take you from your family and in to his. I hope this makes sense and I do wish you well

Answer 6

Yes its the right thing to do. The problem is that the way people date anymore seems they know the parents very well before it even gets close to marriage. Then it becomes almost as if the parents are pushing for marriage before the couple comes to the decision. But yes its the right thing it shows respect.

Answer 7

If the man respects you and your family it is the right thing to do. Because he is asking permission to take a man daughter from him and give her his last name and to be her security and protection. Just as a father would do.

Answer 8

These days it's not so much "permission", but more of a blessing, an acceptance.

Answer 9

It helps to show good intentions and respect for her family.
This is something lacking in today's society. Not many people
seem to care about anything anymore.

Answer 10

It's just an old tradition...kinda like marriage. It does show respect for his future father-in-law though.