he says he loves me every time we talk.i just cant get past the things he has done to me.we have 3 children together.after 8 years i still love him.i know if i tell him he wont act on it.what do i do now?its affecting my children also.they ask for him everyday!
2007-03-28 17:27:40 · 5 answers · asked by APYRL H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it very normal to feel so strongly for someone that was a a part
of your life and the father of your children. but you have to do
what is right for everyone. if you know that he not the one for
you then you need to be honest with your self. and move on
it will be hard but as time go on it will get better so take it
slow, and then see that there is a rainbow at the end of
the dark clouds.if you don't he Will continue to to be a problem
and the kids don't need that back and forth.
2007-03-28 17:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not healthy for you to be with someone whose no good, even though he might be your kids father that's not an excuse to stay with him. You need to move on love hurts but it's better than being in a bad relationship where you can't trust him. You have to think about you and your kids first. Just remember once a dog always a dog. But not all men are that way. You'll have to search and find the right one.
2007-03-29 00:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by shortpimpette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek counselling for you and for perhaps your kids. No age is Too Young...Seperation or divorce are hard things to conquer with 3 kids..emotions are everywhere.but you obviously left this man as you know he's no good and won't change. He can say what he wants..but actions speak louder than words. After 8 yrs if he wanted to change, dont you think he would have by now??
Sometimes the best thing for the children are to not live in that environment. He sounds like he needs to get help and you need to seek counselling to give you the strength you need to keep on going, living life and raising your kids without him. He can have visitatioins..but if you can't get past the things he's done to you(??) then you Know what you're doing is the Right thing to do ..for You and for your 3 Kids* They'll understand later on in life...You need to do what's right for you and for them right now*~ GoodLuck* and stay Strong*~
2007-03-29 00:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids father did the same thing. And I found out he had a girlfriend right around the corner from his mothers house. The reason for that was we were always fusing but it wasn't me starting it he would do that so he could leave and be with her. So now I am independent and I never needed him that what makes it so good. A woman is a queen and if you let yourself be treated bad it is on you.
2007-03-29 00:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by gettysdeemer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer depends on what "no good for you" means. If he's violent, leave at once and don't look back. If it's verbal abuse, you have to decide how bad it is. If you're complaining, you'd probably be better off without him. Verbal abusers often become violent. Once you're dead, it's too late to leave.
Your kids don't need this either!
2007-03-29 00:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋