I know my hubbie loves me, but I mean he's not romantic in any way. He doesn't surprise me with gifts, doesn't kiss me unless asked or leaving . I have mentioned this to him and his answer to this is u knew me before u married me.
2007-03-28 17:12:58 · 20 answers · asked by hrb4hm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he used to buy me flowers, surpise me with jewelry. I'am not saying I like monetary things. One day he brought me a kitten he found on the side of the road. I understand he's tired and I understand he is the way he is. I don't want him to change, I'am not sad. I want just a little romance. heres a example he planned a romantic dinner and 30 minutes before we left he invited his father!
2007-03-28 17:34:29 · update #1
Treat him like an *** and start flirting with other guys. It will make him jealous and he will start paying attention to you.
2007-03-28 17:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by EricD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should initiate the kisses you want, what is so wrong with that? When we date we do certain things to entice a mate for men that is buying flowers,candy,dinner out, movies and small gifts. That doesn't last forever. Just like women tend to act sexy, dress sexy, be amazing in bed, do their hair, nails and makeup all the time and that tends to die out some too adn just like you missing the romance he probably misses the provacative side of you. Things we do while courting can't last forever....but they can be brought back for a night or two every now and then.
2007-03-29 07:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be married to the same man I am married to!
Try to be spontaneous. Plan a romantic evening and completely surprise him with a dinner and you know after wards. Think of something creative.
A few rules though, turn off TV and refrain from talking about everyday conversations (work, etc.)
My husband doesn't show much emotion either, and this works for me.
2007-03-29 00:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he used to buy you flowers, jewelry etc. , so he really WASN'T that way before you were married. My husband is the EXACT same. He sent flowers to me all the time and did all kinds of romantic things before we were married. We've been married 5 years now and he has only bought me flowers once since marriage, and our son insisted on it. I am very honest with him and tell him all of the time that he should buy me flowers etc. He still doesn't, but he does insist that I buy things for myself any time we are together at the store. I have finally decided it is too much stress on him to have to pick something out. If I want him to be sweet and hug on me etc. then I will give him lots of compliments and do extra nice things for him, like making his favorite foods etc. Hope that helps! Sounds like you are still in love, you will be just fine!
2007-03-29 01:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by Becky L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay I had to laugh before I could reply you sound like me!!! Mine is the same way. All I can say is good luck. As long as you know he loves you dont push for more or you'll turn him into something he's not. I am sorry I can't be of more help but I am gonna keep an eye on the question so I can see what other people have to say.
2007-03-29 00:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes with an attitude like he has...nothing you do will get him to be more loving. Perhaps if You Stopped doing so many things for him, waiting on him hand a foot...let him fend for himself as you start fixing yourself up..taking better care of YOU for a change...he may "notice" you're not going to put up with it...and yes you knew him before you married, but was hoping he'd show SOME Affection towards you..but obviously he hasn't and you're not going to sit around any longer waiting for it to happen, so you'll start to do things YOU want to do that have never gotten around to doing. Go window shopping..buy yourself something to make YOU feel better~ Do THings YOU like to do for a change~ GoodLuck*
2007-03-29 00:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are visual and women are audiotorial. Women like to hear the word I love you ten times and men like ot look at beautiful things!
Do not worry, he is evaluating you every day not by his words but by the way he may look at you, he loves you, you worry too much. The culture, the way he grew up adn all of these can also determinate if a man is able to espress his feelings or not
2007-03-29 00:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by S.E.E.N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he act this way before you married him?
If so, then why do you think you can change him now.
I am not defending him or his actions or lack there of, but you must have liked the way he was when you married him. If that is still the same then you can't really be upset.
2007-03-29 00:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by K C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, like your husband said, you knew him before you married him. He's already answered your question. You can't make a man change. He has to change on his own. Sorry.
2007-03-29 00:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ana D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two should be both open to each other. better communication wil lead to better reationship or perhaps BEST. if you want him to be sweet, tell him, if he didnt do that thing of being sweet to you, accept the fact that he is really not sweet. but dont lessen the love you're giving to him just ecause he's not sweet. try to see the other qualities that he has and try to appreciate those. or, you just dont know that the things he's doing to you, which for you is not a sweet thing, might be a sweet thing for him...
dont waste your marriage.... keep it strong...
2007-03-29 00:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by piggy_cutie019 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catch him doing something that you do like and brag on him for it. Make sure you brag on him in front of someone that he admires and then do not mention it again. Do not go so far that it sounds false but really lay it on thick. He will like this feeling and try to gain it again.
2007-03-29 00:17:39 · answer #11 · answered by D. S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋