am getting married at 19 how can i ensure our marriege works 4 long?

Question

we have been together for5yrs and i want to prove that pple can stay happily married for long

Answer 1

You are little young to get married. Having said that, it is no reason why you can not be happy for long time.

Few things are important;
(a) consideration: not everyting has to be your way or in his way. Two people living togather has to adjust a little bit for each other.
(b) communication: have to talk to each other about how you feel about things. Many things will feel different after marriage, so you have to communicate that changed feelings to your spouse
(c) touch: touch is a communication of the sub-consious mind. ensure you touch each other frequently, sexually and assextually
(d) control: somethings can not be accepted in married life; either can not cheat, things like that. have to help each other to apply logical controls. But logics have to be acceptable to both
(e) Spending time togather: very important in early years of marriage. have to consider both quality and quantity. Take up a joint hobby or learning activity.

Wish you a happy life

Answer 2

you were 14 when you started? my my. aren't you even curious about others. I think marriage at 19 is silly. you need to find out what kind of person you are by yourself and then you can share your experiences and love with someone. I dont know of anyone that would be ready at 19. If you do get married, the best thing I can tell you ( I am married 16 years already) is simply be nice to each other. Dont do the name calling thing, hurt feelings never seem to totally go away. And little things really do matter. The other day I put about 14 hearts cut out of red paper in my husband's work shirt pocket. After all these years we still write notes to each other, sexy notes that is. Keep it fun and remember you are not the parent you are the partner. Sometimes your spouse will make decisions you might not agree with, but they have the right to do somethings without getting total agreement from you. Compromise is a big thing in marriage. Be nice and good luck.

Answer 3

You can do it.

You've been together a long time, so you know that you're compatible.

You are going to grow up and change a lot in the next few years, so is your husband. Be sure and grow together, not apart.

Never lose respect for each other. That's the biggest downfall. Don't fight about stupid, petty things. Be nice to him all the time. Even if you're tired or in a bad mood. Make sure that he is excited to come home to you. Always greet him with a big smile and a kiss.

Don't be one of those people who thinks that just because you're married you don't care about how you look anymore.

Don't have babies right away. Give yourselves time to be a couple. Finish school and get financially stable. Have fun together, you've got a lot of years ahead of you to start a family.

Congratulations and best of luck!

Love, Kori (happily married almost 12 years)

Answer 4

I plead with you not to have any children until you are 22 (24 would be even better! Use this time to become educated and grow up together. I met my husband in 10 grade. We got married when we were 20 but had a child when we were 21. He had to work so hard to maintain our family that we lost that special connection between us.

Answer 5

You can prove it by waiting a few more years. Marriage at 19 is not the best of ideas. Marriage is NOT what you think it will be. Perhaps you would be far better off living with the guy for a few years before taking that step. You will have far fewer surprises in your marriage...and marriages do not like surprises at all. Good luck

Answer 6

People are going to make rude comments about how you're too young, but don't listen to them...sometimes things are meant to be.

5 years is a long time! I don't think you need to prove anything to anyone. It's none of their business. People will have something to say even if you're 30 & getting married.

Just make sure the two of you can communicate well, trust each other, & be completely honest.

Also, make sure you know how the two of you are going to discipline children, how the $$ is going to be spent, & make sure both of you don't have bad credit.

Answer 7

I too was married at 19 and had a child at 19.....oh, and i was divorced at 22. 5 years of dating, better yet....dating someone while growing up like you have is a whole different ball game than getting married. My ex and i never had a fight, we just had 2 completely different ideas about how and who we wanted to be married to.

Answer 8

As If made some good points, I just think that maybe you should talk to him and see how he feels about the issue... Communication is where my marriage screwed it's self up. That and trust issues with my husband... And I was only 18 when I got married.... :) Good luck and congrats!!!

Answer 9

How can you ensure that your marriage works? Wait another 7 years until you've both matured a little more and have achieved your goals.

To many youthful marriages don't make it because people mature and their interests change.

Answer 10

marriage at 19...let me see..... dont think it is a good idea considering you still have about 10 years to realize your real dreams instead of gettin into it with kids at 21 or something....seriously girl, get yourself a position in life.