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Question

how do you get your man to help with house work and your 11year old child (she's a girl)

Answer 1

Tell them what you will, and will not do for them. Set rules, then stick to them. If they will not comply, then let things go undone. Sooner or later they will begin to help out. If you're daughter wont clean her room, don't do it for her. She will eventually get tired of the mess and clean it up herself. If your man doesn't help you, then stop doing things for him. He will soon learn to appreciate you're work and might be willing to help you out. If not, don't do everything for him, if he wants it done, let him do it for himself, sooner or later he will get the message.

Answer 2

it's kind of late, but better late than never, right? Tell you daughter to help you as you both work together and she can pick out dessert at dinner time. If you work together and ask her opinion on technique or cleaning product, she may not accuse you of treating her like a slave. For the lazy man, this is tougher. "Honey, can you put a load of laundry in while i make dinner? i really appreciate it. " " Take out the trash and I'll give you a 15 minute back rub" Slowly ease them into it. Ego boosting works for men because of their basic insecurities. Sometimes, if you quit housework, they just live in filth. I've tried it. It didn't work. Remember, there will be one step forward and then 2 steps back. Get creative. Use privileges creatively for both of them. Like she can stay out till 10pm on Saturday with a girl friend. Or he can have morning sex after cleaning the garage. They both need motivators. Yelling and begging doesn't work. Only you know what turns them on Good luck and have a great day every day. Even a piss poor job needs to be complimented. Trust me.

Answer 3

I just go in an almighty sulk and start shouting how i need to do everything and the mess is n't even mine that usually works,As long as the kids make their beds and put their dirty clothes in the wash basket they get off free but sometimes they will actually volunteer to hoover but that's usually after I've did the sulking bit.I really don't expect my hubby to help out in the home he works 10 hours a day to keep the roof over our head and food on the table and i could never tell him i'm not making you any dinner cause you never picked up the paper on the floor after working all day he deserves to relax but i will still sulk to get somethings done.

Answer 4

I would Divide up your clothes and your daughters and do them if he wants clean underwear he will decide that instead of counting on you to do everything he will have to do somethings. Cleaning House is the equivalent of 2 Jobs and taking care of a child is the equivalent of 3 jobs that is 5 jobs. Let him know that you take care of most of everything and doing things 3 times a week ( laundry, dishes, vaccuming, trash, car maintance, running errands) and for your daughter invovle her in what you are doing make it seem fun and show how to do things like cooking doing laundry or ways that you can bond during this time like doing dishes the best convesation i've had with my mom is doing dishes and laughing and talking. Instead of being Mr. Mom and bossing her around and yelling or making her do it because she has make her do it because it is fun and you two can bond with those activities while you are getting things accomplished for your house. A clean house is a happy house. and yes it is your husbands place to clean if he lives there he can sure well do a load of socks and get a gallon of milk and bread from the store

Answer 5

I'm a man but I do have the solution for you. My girlfriend complained that I wasn't doing any housework so I proposed a compromise whereby for one whole week I worked solidly on all household chores while she completed every tutorial on Pro-Evolution Soccer 6 for the PS3, including the advanced academy tutorials wherin one learns combinations such as how to lay up a through ball for a team-mate to score on a half volley.

By the end of the week my girlfriend was better than me at PES6 and we have been playing together ever since. We organize chores on the basis of who wins matches and the system works perfectly.

Answer 6

My hubby is very good at pitching in and helping.
And I feel if we both live in the same house and make messes then BOTH can help pick up. As far as doing the Deep cleaning, I do it all.
As far as your daughter, offer her an allowance to help do chores. She should have chorse anyway. Such as making her bed, cleaning her room. Have them help with the dinner dishes. Just ask.

My son use to help, he moved out in 2003, has a son, but moved back in last June with his son and he doesnt pick up a thing. A good swift kick in the butt he what my son needs.
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Good luck. And dont let people tell you its a womans place to do the house work. That is BULL.....

Answer 7

When you are washing your dishes, if you have no dishwasher, hand him tea towels, and say that you need help in the kitchen. Instead of cooking meals in the kitchen, opt for barbecue, men likes cooking in barbecues because its a man thing. With your girl, make bedroom cleaning fun like a game. The more clean the room the more fun it is. Or give her incentive when she does something like going out that weekend if she has done say 5 chores for the week, you take her out tin pin bowling or movie.

Answer 8

stop doing it i didn't wash dishes for 2 weeks when i was with my ex and the only laundry i did was my own he got the point as far as my kid i've never had a problem with him helping me around the house he's really good vacums does dishes takes the garbage out does laundy and he's only 8 he's been like that since he was little just gotta put your foot down

Answer 9

Hi I had the same problem... You go on strike when he needs cloths washed supper or even minor little things just hang to you no's and it will click and he will suddenly see you need the help 50 50 is what i say... worked here.

Answer 10

When someone figures out how to get ur man to help around the house, let me know!!