When we go out to dinner as a family, my son-in-law and husband are the only ones who put money pay. If we take a family vacation, it's always on our credit card. What can we do to get him to pay his share? I know it my fault for paying his way all these years but now I'm really tired of it and need something to change.
2007-03-28 16:47:28 · 16 answers · asked by Linda Lea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him if he doesn't want to help chip in then he might as well just stay home. He needs to show more appreciation towards his family. I hope he wakes up and smells the coffee soon!
2007-03-28 17:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by poetry_dreamer2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it from his point of view, maybe he doesn't feel comfortable paying for his parents, he may feel that its abit strange because its a role reversal. You have looked after him most of his life and he may feel strange or uneasy looking after you. Then again he may just be very sensible and watching his money situation. It is slightly tight of him if he doesn't contribute anything all the time. Just drop hints if you feel uncomfortable about the situation. Say things like "pay your way you tight a**. I have looked after you all my life and you can't even buy a fu****g drink! Cheapskate! What I have I told you about sharing". Things to that effect, he should get the subtle hints, in time.
2007-03-28 16:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by shootin_star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
State the facts BEFORE you go out to eat...everyone pays their share. You know it is your fault, so make the changes now..you are doing him no favors at all. State how vacations are to be paid for BEFORE going on them..if he does not want to pay his share, he doesn't go...that was easy, wasn't it?
2007-03-28 17:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the other person believes in seperate tabs, tell him he will have to pay for his own meal and vacations from now on.
Good Luck
2007-03-28 16:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a situation comes up that requires him to pay some money, tell him BEFORE the event. "We are going out to dinner on Friday and you'll need to make sure that you bring enough money for your meal".
2007-03-28 16:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sit down and have a heart to heart talk with you son. let him know how you feel about his selfish ways. be blunt about it. you have done for him all his life now it's time to show you some appreciation.as long as you keep footing his bill, paying his way, he's going to keep doing what he is doing.i know you love your son but it's time he carries his own weight.
2007-03-28 17:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by nancy m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the next time you go some where with him you need to just take off when it time to pay and that will leave him to pay it.
2007-03-28 16:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by whitnee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him he is not allowed to come with you until he is willing and will pay for his part of the activity you two are doing.
2007-03-28 16:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by punkxrocker3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha
I bet I would fall for that again!!!! Tell him to pay his share or everyone get sepertate tabs.
2007-03-28 16:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to dinner and vacations without him....
2007-03-28 17:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋