the father hasnt been involved in our first childs life for almost 1 1/2 but his mom has gotten him to see her lately though he doesnt want to i really would like to go back home and a low income lawyer said i should be able too since i have an 8th grade education and im enrolling in a school where there is free inside daycare there he is going to fight but i see so many people here saying there is no way i can and out second child is 4 months he has only seen her once...im scared cause i know i will be able to support them there and its really hard to where i live to be a single young mother with a deadbeat father..*not to sound mean*he also says he is going to join the milatary and is about to go i want him involved but i i want what is best for my girls also,and his mother is the one pushing him to fight it...and since the lawyer was a low income one i dont know if he was sincere on his answers please any one been in this position who can give me any answers?
2007-03-28 16:38:13 · 5 answers · asked by jessie r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DON’T ‘just leave’. Assuming he’s the legal father and there’s a custody/visitation agreement via the court then you have to follow the process (which I’m sure your attorney told you). In AZ you have to give 60 days advance written notice and he can contest the move. If he does, you’d have to prove it would be in the *children’s* best interest to move.
The fact that you think Dad is only involved in the children’s lives at his mother's insistence is irrelevant. All the court cares about is that he IS involved.
Would your reason for wanting to move be sufficient to obtain approval in the event that Dad contests it? I don’t know, but your attorney should (and the fact that he’s a low-income attorney shouldn’t matter). But, I do have to wonder if AZ does not have some type of similar programs/day care assistance available (although the day care may not necessarily be IN the school). You can expect that question to come up.
2007-03-28 17:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you talked to an atty. whether he's free or not do what he says, before you leave get a copy of your file to take with you. Make sure you have a support system, like friends and family in CO. to help you settle in and for god sakes get your education, Take a car, plane or train and get back home. That atty. went to the same law school everyone else did, plus he has to have insurance in case he screws up. that's the reason why you get a copy of your file to take with you. But don't let the boyfriend know your leaving, just go, and go now if his mom's getting involved.
2007-03-28 16:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move back home. If I were you I would leave and never look back as long as you are able to take care of your children when you leave (meaning you have a stable home environment: a roof over there heads, clothes on their backs, and food in their tummies.) If he wants to fight it he'd have to take it to court in the state in which the children reside and if he has no way of finding you unfit you have nothing to worry about. I hope things work out for you!
2007-03-28 16:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that you could move wherever you wanted to.Especially since he doesn't see his daughters or help you out at all. You do what is best for you daughters.
Good luck
2007-03-28 16:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-03-30 07:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by Khushi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋