My friend (who goes to a different school) is really mean to me. She acts all rude, first she treats me like junk, then she wont stop bothering me. She acts like my guider and tells me what to do. Then when I try to be myself, she tells me shes not okay with that and gives me "lessons" on how to be like her! What should I do? I dont even like or want to be like her!!!!!!!!1
2007-03-28 16:31:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hello:
It sounds to me like your friend is some what of a bully and she also sounds very controlling towards you too! What I have learned in my life that a TRUE FRIEND,will not try to change you or mold you into how they want you to be! I know that it is a very difficult thing to do,but if you don't stand up for yourself and tell your friend that you will not allow her to control you and control your life,then you will have to let her go. You sound like a people pleaser who doesn't want anyone to be mad at you but I am telling you that if you don't stand up for yourself and tell people that you refuse to let them treat you like a doormat,then this will just keep happening!
Dr.Phil has always had an excellent quote that is so true,"You teach people how to treat you!" Another words,you need to tell your friend that you will not be bullied or controlled by her,PERIOD!! I hope that this has been helpful and good luck!! ;-)
2007-03-28 16:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to go by your own decisions. The way you've said she's acting...it doesnt sound too much like a good or supporting friend. A friend is someone who will accept you as you are. If you don't like her, tell her to get stuffed and to act like a real friend does. She has no right to tell you what you can and can't do.
2007-03-28 16:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by Clarity. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... controlling much? Tell her you want to be more like her. Sounds like she's not really your friend at all. Stop doing what she tells you to, and don't listen to her lessons. Stop calling her, be distant in school.... etc. If you don't want the friendship to last, then don't let it. A friendship is two-sided. Maybe once you start spending more time apart she'll start appreciating you more.
2007-03-28 16:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a big idiot. She wants to control you because she is very very insecure. Just tell her to chill out.
Best thing you can do is stop hanging around her for a few weeks she will come looking for you and hopefully she will stop her immature nonsense. YOu are way to smart to be treated like crap. Now respect yourself and find friends that care about you.
Good luck
2007-03-28 16:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunni let me tell you if thats the way she wants to treat u then she is NOT your friend. Friends dont threat you like that she's useing you hunni when theres no one elses *** she can be stuck up shes all over you like a door mat you need to tell her off one good time n tell her that she needs to get walkin. trust me at 21 years old I've been there n back several times
2007-03-28 16:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by ida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to drop her like a bad habit - and I think you know that. If you don't even like her, why is she your friend to begin with? If you continue to let her walk over you, it may become a recurring theme throughout your life. Get rid of her NOW... you'll be glad you did.
2007-03-28 16:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by chocolate-drop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why in the world you dont leave her. Make some good new friends. There is world full of good people out there go and explore.
2007-03-28 16:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by pretty z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a perfect example of the saying "With friends like that, who needs enemies."
New flash. If someone is constantly teasing you and putting you down she is not your friend. Cut this girl loose and find someone who appreciates your friendship.
2007-03-28 16:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by doglover12789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you dont like her personality, let her know gently that if she doesnt acccept you for who you are than you cant be her friend. you need friends who are positive and let you be who you want to be. i have the same problem, these 4 girls i thought were my "friends"actually werent. they would pretend to be but they would laugh at me and talk smack about me when iam around and behind my back.
2007-03-28 16:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by parc877 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think she should be doing that and if u dont like it doesn't mean u have to do it, and if u dont consider her as a friend then dont be her friend i mean who really needs a friend like that i mean there is plenty of other people you could make friends with
2007-03-28 16:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋