parents refuse to accept my relationship?

Question

i've been with a boy i met over the internet some time ago. We've been together about 2 months, and everything is going fine. But the first time i ever called him, mum found out that he was from america, and now she's been really protective over me. She's scared of something happening to me. I never told her i was in a relationship with him though, that would freak her even more. His parents think he's stupid to have a gf from australia. But he wont listen to them. Im scared that im going to hate my parents, and run away or something. If they don't accept me and my bf, i'll get the urge to. But i hate her not knowing. i want her to be a part of my life. I trust my boyfriend. We have a connection. We think the same things. Even on the phone we'll say "i love you" at exactly the same time. I love him with everything i have, but how can i tell my parents without them freaking? I really need help...please..

Answer 1

First of all, I dont know how old u sre, but if you are a minor your parents have alot of control over what you do and where you go! Do you plan to eventually move to America to be with this guy? I would advise you to wait a little while longer and get to know this person......People you meet over the Internet can sometimes not be who you think they are! If you after awhile still feel like you love this guy and you are going to be together forever then just come out and tell your parents!!!!!!!:) Good Luck and please be careful of the descions that you make!

Answer 2

Your mom has every right to be "Protective of You"! You're not thinking straight....not sure of how old you are..but i'm sure you have heard of the horror stories of getting involved with someone over the internet. You never know who is on the other end...Listen to your mother...Why can't you meet someone your own age group that live near you, you can get to know, do things with...skating, movies, eating pizza..I don't think you should be thinking about how scared you are to "hate" your parents and "run away" that is absolutely not a good idea* You Already Know that! You best be taking the time to realize what a good life you do have...how you can easily resolve the conflict between you and your mom, by listening to her, and breaking it off with this "internet friend"..its' easy enough to fall for someone, and tell them your lifestory, but going to be with them is a whole different ball game. Don't be foolish* Don't run away..and stop talking with this fellow* You know that's the right choice to make. GoodLuck* GodBless~

Answer 3

I can easily see your parents' point of view, it is scary with all that goes on over the internet. You have to take into account that the statistics are not for you in so many ways. The two most prominant that long distance relationships rarely work out, and that internet relationships rarely work out. Maybe, if you guys truly love each other you need to meet. To gain your parents trust, why don't you suggest to meet him in a public place with your parents present. Until you have the opportunity, just tell them that nothing bad is going to happen by just talking to a guy that is way to far away to harm you.

Answer 4

Pssh, are you freaking kidding us? I can't believe you wasted our time posting this.

You're both kids, he's in America and you're in Australia and never met?

You don't have a relationship. You've never met and neither of you are gonna raise up the $1,000+ plane ticket plus thousands more in food and housing to do it. You're both teens, which tend have tumultous and short relationships anyways, once you meet someone for real and learn what that is, this will be forgotten as the kids game it is.

Run away? Lol!! Run away to where? You gonna swim to his place? You won't be able to use their computer anymore and your make believe boyfriend won't be able to talk to you if you do that, so your "relationship" will be over anyways. I feel sorry for them, you running up those international phone bills....
One day, you're going to grow up and meet a real boy and have a real relationship. You'll forget this joke long before the two of you ever meet. A long distance relationship is one where a couple gets separated. It's not a relationship where a couple have never met but just pretend to date.

Answer 5

You should be ever so thankful that you have caring parents who are concerned about your well-being. LISTEN TO THEM and obey them.

Continue to talk to your parents and let them know everything about this guy. Their protectiveness is partly due to not knowing much about him, so the more you communicate, the more likely they will accept it.

And remember, there are crazy perverts everywhere, and you know nothing about a person until you've met in person and spent time together....

Good Luck

PS. The extremely wonderful factor in this Romeo & Juliet scenario is that bf has to visit you, you can't visit him. So tell mum to clean up the guest room...

Answer 6

you are "torn" between two loves, your parents and your boyfriend. how can they accuse somebody they did not even meet? did you ever try to introduce your boyfriend to your parents even on the phone, or through the webcam? your parents are just protecting you from getting hurt, but if you are ready to have a serious relationship, go on. it's your life, just cross the bridge when you get there. parents will always be there for us no matter what, and true love is hard to find. if you think he is the one,go for him. after all, it's a long distance relationship, you have lots of time to get to know each other.

Answer 7

Your parents have every right to fear the person they know nothing about, nor do you for that matter. It is all right to communicate with people in other countries it could be fun, but never takes anyone you really do not know seriously. If you are both underage wait until you get older to visit one another, and there is no reason for you to run away that would be very foolish in your part, you have no idea what you are getting into.

Answer 8

You shouldn't be worried about what your parents will think. Once they see that you really love the boy, they'll have to understand. Parents just want their children to be happy. If he treats you good, they can't possibly object to him. Just please, don't do anything irrational. I know what it feels like to want to be with the person you love all of the time. I got engaged when I was still in high school. I was completely in love with my now husband. BUT, I was still level headed about it. We took things slow and really got to know each other. Two years after I graduated from high school, we were married. Our two year wedding anniversary is coming up next month.
I'm telling you, if you're meant to be with your boyfriend, things will work out. Tell your parents, but reassure them that you will be cautious and that you'll take your time in getting to know him better. You sound young, so really, don't wish your life away. Take things slow and just enjoy eachother!!

Best of luck!

Answer 9

You've been together? Did he come to Australia? If not, you don't even know him. He could be married, have a criminal record, be a total creep. You can't know someone on the basis of what they tell you on the net. Most of it is just lies. Listen to your Mum. She is trying to protect you and she loves you. If I were your Mum, I'd toss the computer into the trash bin.

Answer 10

Just be honest with your parents, and be careful. You never know who is actually on the other side of the internet/phone without actually have met them before. Be careful, and listen to your parents when you talk to them about it, instead of fighting them.