Stop hating people with disabilities such as mental retardation. My mother works with them and tells me stories about them and they so annoying and I can't stand them now. I don't want to hate them, I know it sounds so awful, but I just cannot help it. I know I could have a child like them someday and I would not want them made fun of. What can I do to stop hating them? Should I just tell my mom to stop telling me about them so I don't get annoyed?
2007-03-28 16:12:23 · 10 answers · asked by *~*~*~* 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I get annoyed easily, but I try to remember people are different, and I wouldn't want to feel how they are feeling. I'm religious and I also try to remember that God made them and wouldn't like how I feel about them.
2007-03-28 16:20:53 · update #1
I know a lot of people are probably criticizing this question, but I can understand a bit of what you're feeling. My mother worked with disabled people, I volunteer-tutored them, and now my friend is working in a home for them.
I feel so uncomfortable around them; it's not their fault...but they're unpredictable and they make me nervous as hell. I hate being touched by strangers, and they seem to ALWAYS want to come up and hug you, or grab your clothes or something. I like my boundaries, and they always stomp them...because they're so uninhibited.
I don't know if you have any of those issues, but regardless it's best to acknowledge the way you feel. you're not going to get anywhere with yourself by trying to throw your feelings in the trash can. But, try to understand why you feel this way...
Maybe even spend more time around them. Your mother works with them, so it's possible you could even help improve your relationship with her by understanding where she's coming from? Make sense at all...
I guess I can say this...because I wish I'd done that when my mother worked at a nursing home. She cared for those people so VERY much, she was so good to them...and I just hated having to be around them. I was disgusted and I stuck my nose in the air and refused to spend any time around them (and likewise my mother).
So, maybe it'd be best to try and face your fear or hatred...face it and you may be able to understand them enough to relate to them. If you can understand someone, you're less likely to hate them.
2007-03-28 20:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound as though you may have some anger issues with your mother that you project upon the people with disabilities. Does her working bother in some way? Does the relating of stories make you angry at something that you re-direct toward the people with disabilities?
It is not unusual to feel discomfort around some types of handicaps - most people do not even look at people like this. Don't be afraid to face that, because having feelings like that does not make you a bad person. Knowing this might help you perhaps deal with that problem on its own merits. Please do explore what other things might be bothering you as your mother relates them.
Good luck, and I think it is wonderful that you are introspective enough to ask yourself to improve in this way.
2007-03-28 16:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by piano guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - You should tell your mother that you do not want to hear anymore - and that you have enough on your plate to have to listen to such sad stories - I don't think it is hate you feel at all - I just think your overloaded - You sound like a nice person
2007-03-28 16:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by pattijohughes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you feel jealous at the fact that your mother speaks about the people she works with so much. Maybe you wish that she would focus more on you? Sometimes it's easier to blame others when the problem could be communication between you and your mom. Sit down and talk to her..... :)
2007-03-28 16:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by Beach_Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How come I have a feeling that your not perfect? Maybe when you stop being so insecure with yourself, you will stop hating them.
2007-03-28 16:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by frankie b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say that retard is less skilled person.
if a genious takes a day to learn, a normal person may takes a week to learn, and less skilled one may takes month to learn....., some even takes years to learn...... that's all it is..
to put them in very special condition is like putting them in a golden cage.
2007-03-28 16:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by Henry W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should ask her 2 stop telling u those stories and u should try thinking wat it would be like 2 be a mental retard if u know how they feel u can probaly help them instead of hate tham
2007-03-28 16:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop blaming ur mom as she tried to let u know about it.u can tell her frankly that u don't like listening this anymore in future.
2007-03-28 16:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound impatient, it could easily be a retard with no real disabilities that make you feel this way
2007-03-28 16:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by Ash4ElishaCuthbert 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try a little empathy
2007-03-28 16:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋