My boyfriend wants sex with another girl and me tell me what should I do?

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we have been together for 10 years and he wants to do something different in our relationship. he is not really pushing me. i can tell he really wants it. I cant figure out whether to do it or not. I dont want to make the mistake of him changing on me. We have been through alot together and love one another so much. We have done every and tried everything but a threesome. I dont mind giving him what he wants because he will do it for me. In reality will this change or the way we feel hummmmm..............

Answer 1

wow there are some crummy answers so far. 10 years y'all been together and people are telling you to break up just because he asked (and is not pushing) for a little excitement in the bedroom? sheez. anyway, if you wanna go through with this, i'd say start off small.

firstly, of course, talk about it. i'd say even test him, ask him if you could sleep with another guy. if he says no, then he's just trying to have his cake and eat it to, don't do it.

secondly, obviously you'll never know if you'll be jealous until it actually happens. how to solve this? go to a strip club with him. if him looking at them doesn't bother you, buy him a lap dance. if you're still not jealous, then there's potential for a 3some.

now you're ready to try it. but again, take it slow. maybe, for just the first time, don't let him penetrate her. maybe just let her (or him) give a little oral. or maybe he'd just enjoying watching the two of you. then keep moving it up if it works out.

Remember, it's nearly impossible for even the sweetist most loyal guy to NOT be attracted to other women. same for women. hell, you both find certain celebrities hot, right? women's bodies are a masterpiece and guys just like to admire the artwork.
like my relationship, i dont blame my guy for looking, he IS a male, he just cant touch without my permission, this way nothing is done behind my back (and not many women would allow this so he knows he'd miss it if he did leave).

I'd say if y'all have been together 10 years and no ring, your relationship could be solid enough to handle this. just remember, in a situation like this, you must keep the lines of communication firmly open!

Answer 2

Tell him to get lost so you and the other girl can have fun alone!

Any way you slice it, he wants to have sex with someone else. That can be ok if you're not a serious couple. How long will it be before he'll mess around or manipulate you into a threesome? If you think that can't happen, you're only fooling yourself, because it will if he wants it enough. Just think about what a threesome can do to a relationship. Some day he might want to do a guy... Where will it end? How long will you be a couple after you have a threesome? I'm not telling you to dump him, but remember this: A relationship does not need strength to handle taking a third lover into the bed - it takes strength to keep other lovers OUT.

Answer 3

(this is not robert wambles... this is his girlfriend!!)
seriously think of this.. your boyfriend having sex wiht another girl...? how bad would that hurt you!? if my boyfriend were to tell me he wanted to have sex wiht another woman, that would make me feel like I wasn't satisfying him, or that he did not care about me as much. even if you were into that kind of thing.. a threesome is DEFINATELY NOT something you do while you are in a serious relationship. Truly loving someone.. means only wanting to be with that ONE person. What if after TEN years.. he were to become more attracted to the other woman? Or if he were to fall in love with her... too many things could go wrong! I wouldn't try it!

Answer 4

Like King Arther and G and Lancelot. See what happened to them. What a mess. ruined their lives. The urge for change is really never satisfied. So be prepared for more of these, And then the next level, up or down?, is an animal. Or out on the front lawn, I guess you have already filmed yourself. Have you picked up that I think it is a bum idea.

Answer 5

of course it's going to change the way you feel. If you do it he'll want more. Keep that in mind. But thinking like a guy I would have a threesome. :)

Answer 6

My fiance wanted that. He even offered to let me have sex with him and another guy if it would make it more fair. But I told him that I loved him too much to watch another woman put her hands on him without me feeling complete and utter rage and jealousy. I only want him, and nothing would ever change it. If you think you want to, then go ahead. But if you don't, then by all means tell him no.

Answer 7

a threesome is something you do with ppl who you dont care about. with your boyfriend, your going to get jealous and be very mad at him for the rest of your relationship as well as at yourself for letting it happen. Same way vice versa if he was to bring another guy in.

Answer 8

Sounds like fun! I'd go for it!! :-)

But then again, I am slightly corrupt so...hmmm....

If you don't feel comfortable with it, then don't. Anything that is not mutually satisfying will not "strengthen the relationship" but will further weaken it.

I mean I can already see you in the next fight you guys have if you do this and you're not willing, "I slept with another girl for you!!!!"

See? Not good. Do what feels right to you.

Good luck!!! :-) :-) :-)

Answer 9

It may change the way you feel!You could also come out of the experience feeling very jealous,and wondering why you and only you aren't enough for him!Don't do it,unless it's something you want to do!!

Answer 10

That is easy
If you don't want to
You just don't do it
Don't let anyone talk you into something you don't want to do

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Love & Blessings
Milly