I think peole are becoming very selfish and careless regarding what happens to others and their problems. What do you think? Friends say they are your friends but are they there when you really need them? Do they know your birthday by heart (without you reminding them). Are they there when a family memeber passed away to give you warmth. If you loose contact because you move, does she try to even contact you? What do you think? ARE YOU A TRUE FRIEND?
2007-03-28 16:08:40 · 14 answers · asked by honey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There is definatly a sellfish trend going around, but it's not like this everywhere. I'm a good friend, but not to everyone because I like knowing a lot of people and being everyone's good friend is tough. If you want a good friend, then you have to be a good friend to that person. If you want someone to remember your birthday and always be curtious, and be there for you through thick and thin, then you kind of have a selfish attitude yourself. The best things happen when you don't expect them to and that is precisly what makes them best.
2007-03-28 16:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ilya S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have always been selfish. Society now just makes selfishness seem normal. Look at all the celebrity "news" shows, where strangers are treated like their lives count more than your average Joe or Jane when their major contribution to society is acting, looking fah-bu-lous, or even being popular by doing something immoral or illicit.
People would rather be pretty than smart and be popular than moral. Their self interests go before goodness. Even if it means killing the weak.
Celebrities are the role models of most young people, so you can be assured that there isn't a good impression that's being left on society.
2007-03-28 16:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a great country song that says just that. Its called "you find out who your friends are" Personally I am a great friend. I will be there for my friends birthday as well as her kids her moms hers cousins and her nephews. I have an open door policy as long as I am home stop by anytime whether it be day or not. My best friend has a key incase she needs a place to stay, I will lend money, take phone calls at 3am, visit at least once a week if not more just to see what's going on, I am a free babysitter if she needs a break ect. The best thing she does all the same for me! You dont get much closer than that!
2007-03-28 16:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, that is totally what many of my friends are like. My best friend since 1st grade is like now avoding me or something because she wants to be friends with the popular group in a new school. But, I try the best to contact her and other of my friends. I have a friend in Japan and one in South Carolina and the one in South Carolina never resonds to my letters but my friend in Japan will write back and forth twice a year.
I think it is better with some family members than some friends. My cousin is in a different state and we write back and forth as many letters as we have time for, which is about six times a year.
As a friend I don't think I am selfish but I might be a little of course everyone is but because of the influence of my own friends and classmates around me. I think a majority of friends are becoming selfish.
2007-03-28 16:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by bead_flea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%. People are very selfish and inconsiderate these days. People only want to be your friend when they need something. After they get what they want, they ignore you until the next time that they are in need or having problems. People are all for themselves. Thank GOD I'm not that way. I treat people the way that I want them to treat me. But believe me I don't always get the same treatment. But overall I am BLESSED!!!! They say you reap what you sow, and I must say I get back threefold of what I put out.
2007-03-28 16:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah my friend or I don't know what she is to me at this point is selfish and just plain self centered. She thinks more about herself than anyone else cheats on her boyfriend of 4 months with an ex boyfriend and some guy she met off the internet. She's also the type to lie when she's about to get caught up in her crap.
2007-03-28 16:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tjhats true people have become very selfish but you know you have to move on at least out of 10 may be you find atleast 1 good and true friend and developing true friendship takes its time thatt never happpens all of a sudden you have to go through several tests then becomes a true bond not everyone can be worth of your friend(true) but still we have many friends
2007-03-28 17:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by volini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY!
But it's a matter of maturity and compassion.
many of us are selfish for different reasons.
Some of us are Ambitious.
Some of us are only children and never learned selflessness.
Some of us are fearful of doing without.
Some of us have been burned by others and over compensate self protection.
Some of us are just spiteful.
Some of us are unaware of it.
The best thing to do is take Jesus advise.
Do unto others how you would have them do unto you.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only Light can do that,hate cannot drive out hate;only love can do that.
Martin Luther King
2007-03-28 16:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Ophiuchus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with u! Actually I become selfish too.. okay, i'm selfish. and all my friend are selfish too.. but I still want to learn to always change to become nicer, and being like what u said 'true friend'. I don't want to be like them... T-T
2007-03-28 16:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by Super-Starz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I am a TRUE FRIEND...I find many others are more and more selfish the more I look....It is sad and hopefuly the trend will reverse.
2007-03-28 16:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by fade_this_rally 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋