friday night it was a typical night for me and my friends, we would all go to this one place sit around listen to music and drink, just have a good time and relax and stuff. the first mistake i made was getting way to drunk. the second was hooking up with this guy i really didnt know all to well and only had partied with him a few times before. the next morning i regreted it with everything in my heart, then i got terrifed. i rememberd he didnt use a condom for the most part and i know it has changed mine and his friendship forever now. most of my friends were not really nice at all. they went on telling me about how my reps gonna be ruined and etc. then i told them about not useing a condom, well they tried to make me go get a morning after pill. i said no, cause if i was then im not going to ruin a innocent life for something i did and then one friend made a comment saying "a baby would ruin HIS life" and now i think its out that i needed the pill n its gettin blamed on me. all me.
2007-03-28 16:03:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yup. your right. thats not fair.
2007-03-28 16:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by turtle_chic77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are pregnant you will do the right choice and take care of your responsibilities this guy on the other hand seems way immature and is not going to help care for the baby. That is just wrong and it wasn't just your fault having unprotected sex if he doesn't want a baby he should put a helmet on that solider next time. It takes TWO to make a baby so everyone else can grow up and realize that it is not all your fault you guys had unprotected sex. What does he think that he can stick it in anyone and he won't get anyone preggo? Sorry all it takes is one time.
2007-03-28 16:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said...for the most part? What does THAT mean...ok...you are beating yourself up enough. If you're prego then you are going to have to deal with it, but when I say that...and TRUST me here. It's not going to be that much of a burdon for that long, b/c the life you bring into the world. will be your best friend, the love of your LIFE..YES your LIFE and that little baby will need you to survive and you will bond and you will have a LOVE that you could have Never Imagined, and down the road you will think. What if you could go back and fix your mixtake..and you know what..YOu will know that you would make the same mistake all over again for your little one...that's how AWESOME it's gonna be.
2007-03-28 16:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by ushoveit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right--IT TAKES TWO--you are not completely to blame, and if you are underage, and he is of age, it is considered statuatory rape. You reputation will hardly be 'ruined' by this mistake, but hopefully you have learned a valuable lesson here. Hopefully you are not pregnant, but if you are, you have choices. Adoption is one of them if you do not think you can handle motherhood just yet.. Please do not be too hard on yourself, you made a mistake, EVERYBODY makes mistakes, Some counseling would be a good idea here, and a checkup with your doctor. Lack of a condom can have more side effects than just pregnancy. There is also sexually transmitted disease to worry about. Good luck with your situation, but please remember, it is not the end of the world even if it seems like it right now.
2007-03-28 16:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by Katykins 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you need to find new friends. I'm sure these friends have done some not-so-smart things in their lives. It's like that saying...."those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones." The morning after pill would NOT terminate a pregnancy. All it does is PREVENT a pregnancy. It prevents the sperm from fertilizing the egg. It is NOT a form of abortion. I'm not really sure what your question is. But, try to put this behind you, but learn from it and don't put yourself in the same situation in the future, but not getting drunk, etc.
2007-03-28 16:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweets u have to gather yrself..u have to be strong.u have made a mistake..sure..but who doesnt?If yr friends don't understand u..perhaps they dont' care.It's not your fault..ok?things like this happen in life...but u have to move on.Run a strip test after every couple of days for the next 2 weeks to make sure if u r pregnant or not.If u r..then it's your decision whether u want to keep the baby.U haven't mentioned yr age..but im guessing that u r young..perhaps even a teen.U have to ask yrself if u r capable of having a baby or not..can u take the responsibilities and the questions?good luck...u r in my prayers
2007-03-28 16:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not all your fault it takes two to tango so don't be too hard on yourself for getting way to drunk and having sex. As for your friends not being supportive or very nice instead they criticizied you maybe you should find some new friends. Keep your fingers crossed that you are not pregnant and if you are then you and the guy will work on that later.
2007-03-28 16:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by james s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and where were your good friends while you were getting way too drunk and leaving the party with some guy?
....and you are responsible, too, of course....what are you doing drinking at your age? seriously, look what its done for you so far...
quit drinking, hold your head high, ignore their comments and make new friends if you have to,....hope you're not pregnant because you are not old enough to raise a child properly, and move on and change your life before it takes you down.
you are way too young for this.
2007-03-28 16:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by The French Connection 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just how these things work. It's a double standard, but there is not much you can do to change it. Just remember the negatives of this situation the next time, and try to make better choices for yourself.
2007-03-28 16:07:01 · answer #9 · answered by Wango138 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango!Now the party is over.Brace up.Stop telling things about your @@@ encounter that happened.First go for a check up to avoid unnecessary health diseases and the doc will advice further.
2007-03-28 16:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by cool_honeybabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's a hard thing to deal with but it sounds like to me you need to pick new friends. we all make mistakes but i respect you for your decision on not to take the pill. but friends are meant to help you out through rough times not make you feel worse.. those you speak of aren't real friends in the first place .
2007-03-28 16:07:46 · answer #11 · answered by dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋