Help!!!!!!?

Question

I have a daughter that I had left with the grandmother{on the fathers side}due to the fact that she needed help getting around.It seems as though that was the wrong thing for me to do.Now instead of a daughter I have a monster on my hands. She is disrespectful and loud and I am afraid that if I don't get hold of my child she will turn into someone that I despise.Can someone tell me how or what I should do.

Answer 1

Sounds like she is spoiled rotten....i don't know if you are religious or not...but spare the rod and spoil the child....YOU raise her...do not let HER raise you.... you are bigger than her...and you can lower the boom on her...just get a little tougher....take away privileges etc.... ask for advice from other mothers around you... in time you will be fine...just have patience because turning her around is going to be hard WORK.

Answer 2

Wow...Sounds like you have a battle ahead on your hands.

What I see here is a daughter literally reaching out for help in a round about sort of way. She's obviously angry that you left and feel that you really don't have any position to discipline her in life. Let me tell you something, it probably took her a long time to get over you after you left her with the father's mother. Now, she had to readjust and get used to you again post everything else.

It will take her a while. The best thing to do at this point is respect her. Demand it in return. Not because your her mother, but, because it's the most basic thing that you give to any human being. You guys don't have to like each other, but, respect one another. I know you don't want to hear this, but, she probably will turn to someone else, just to spite you. But the key is, will she know that she can come to you if it falters, because chances are it probably will. If you can weather the storm of her first reaction, your relationship will grow. Turn your back and she's gone.

Answer 3

She may feel confused as to why you left her with her grandmother. Her monster behavior is probably just acting out because she feels like you left her. She needs to know how much you care about her. Take her back, tell her how much you love her, give her firm rules and stick to the rules. I think she is rebelling because she feels like you don't care even though I'm sure you do...it is her feelings that are hurt.

Answer 4

it will be wrong unfair and terribleif you suddenly demand your daughter back.dont think the harm has already been done.anything created by man can be changed.talk to your
in-law and make her know you dont like your daughters attitude.do this politely so she does not thinnk you are ungrateful.you can ask your daughter to spend the weekends with you. and if she does, you must be clam and understaning with her, she might be feeling abandoned by you. you must make her know you love her and try to spend more time with her.embibe the values you want her to have and im sure it will be fine.all the best

Answer 5

She got abandonment issues with you. She felt that you just dumped her and kept it movin. Get back in touch with the things that made you and her tight. Tell her you apologize. that it was a mistake, but your not going for the dissin, so get your act back together before we start touching everything in the house. Just keep it real and it will work it self out.

Answer 6

I did this when I was little the only thing that you need is counseling! and some type of mentor! fast before she starts hitting you and her grandmother ! i pray for you

Answer 7

she is resentful to what hurts sounds like , i may be wrong, she is maybe blaiming you for "sending" her away from you , try to get with her on the level of simple communication and any communication, it will take time but slowly you will get her back,

Answer 8

spank her