Married 15 years?

Question

2 children. How often do you make love. Seriously.

Couple in thiers 30's.

Answer 1

Seriously, after 20 years in my first marriage we were down to twice or more a week depending on the circumstances of life. My second marriage of a little over four years was never close to that frequency and after that divorce I started to ask myself why because I am the most avid participant in that arena and think that is the most sacred place on earth, however, what I learned was that the frequency was not only the circumstances but the manner in which I respected the act whether making love or the wild abandoned and uninhibited releasing of tension, the direct and most influencial actions on the nurturing and helping of my partner to have the drive to participate with the same enthusiam as I, was a failure because I did not supply the necessary unconditional things she needed in life and in turn my expectation was based solely on my needs and likes. I should have taken the time to prepare the extended periods of romantic relaxation giving the much needed attention to the part of the spouse that is so often neglected, the need to be appreciated, not by the intense banging of organs or the sweaty activity of the sexual act but the soft quiet pampering and low conversation or music and the enjoyment of a cool drink while being offered the comfort of a slow body massage with warm oil, or being bathed in a rose petal bubble bath with candles, or cuddled in a new comforter while sharing a chilled bowl of choclate strawberries with an old movie with cary grant or clark gable. The knowledge of experience brings tears to my eyes as I type this as I feel the selfishness that I misconstrued as being global and natural were in fact a creation of situation and the result of feelings that are more powerful than the forces of nature. It took alot of time to figure out the formula and now I only hope that the opportunity to use it will appear again. Loss is not only by the actions we are responsible for but sometimes surrounds the things we cherish most.,

Answer 2

16 years here 4 children 2 jobs no pets split shifts and small confined spaces.

Once a week sometimes 3 ........16 years is all long time you have to learn to spice it up make time whether or not your tired...do not over analyze find the reason why you are not clicking and communicate it

Answer 3

I've been married 15 years, and have 2 kids. I'd say my our sex life ebbs and flows. Sometimes we have sex 3 times a week, other times maybe once every 10 days. It really varies depending on our moods. Of course if I were always in the mood, my husband would be game anytime!

Answer 4

It all depends on how old the kids are. If the kids are at school or at the age that they have after school activities; that gives us a little bit more time to have fun. If not, and a lot would depend on how early you can get to sleep, first thing in the morning before they wake up is even better.

Answer 5

Married 20 years.

Do it 4-6 times a week if I can get kids out of the house or to bed.

Taking care of that takes care of a lot of tensions for everyone.

Answer 6

it depends. passion fades after a short time. I dont know if you want it more or less, but in my experience, it happens less often. Love seems to come in stages...passion being one of the first ones. after that, people seem to settle into a stage that i like to call brother and sister. its not my favorite but it exists. you are involoved in the day to day and when you look at each other, you see something akin to a sibling. not very exciting. just for the record, i hate it too. im all about the passion and not about the boring thing that it becomes

Answer 7

Married 11 years here...2 boys ages 5 and 18 months...and any chance we can get lol

Answer 8

2 to 3 times a week
fri, sat for sure and sometimes i like to wake her up with it so that we can enjoy our day
for some reason the second you wake up is the best cause you bodys are warm and i think your (you know) like marinates over night cause in the morning its awesome!

Answer 9

I am sure every couple is different...but its not the quantity that really counts, I used to think I needed it every day but found out many many years of marriage later, good sex is better than alot of sex.

Answer 10

I have been married three years and have one child. Since I got pregnant we are lucky if we do it three to four times a month.