My boyfriend (fiance now) and i have been together 2 and a half years...i got pregnent and he pretty much left me cuz he wasnt ready. Our baby is alomst 5 months old now and me and him just moved back together again and are trying to make things work so we can be a family. I dont feel like i make him happy and i dont know what to do to make him happy,,,i give him sex ALL the time but for some reason he just doesnt seem satisfied with me...i want to be the best girlfriend to him so he doesnt leave me again i need some ideas of what to do...i think i have still some anger built up inside from him treating me so bad during my pregnancy...but now he is being so nice and perfect and respectful to me and i just want to make him happy because i love him and would be so lost without him. PLEASE give me some good POSITIVE ideas!!! thank you ! I really dont wanna lose him again. and i admit i do have a big attitude...i just cant help it, i wanna change!
2007-03-28 15:26:17 · 5 answers · asked by Alyssa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think if he is seriously unhappy in the relationship, nothing will change his mind....do you really want to be with someone that you feel you have to change yourself for? He should be worshipping you!!
But...
be nice and respectful to him, give him space, try to share his interests and cook him a yummy dinner...maybe that will help.
2007-03-28 15:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by morningstaar321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Well I'd love to say that you're going about this all right but somehow letting yourself be someone else's sex slave just isn't going to work. Sometimes its what they can't have they want more, or appreciate more if they get it less. (Don't get me wrong I'm not saying to restrict anything you like/feel great doing). Are you finding yourself trying to make the FAMILY work, to NOT be alone or just to please him? Unfortunately it HAS to be hard for you with the little one, but being needy has a bad effect on guys who aren't ready to play 'dad' even when most guys would step up to the responsibility. There is no easy answer but what is easy is for you to look at yourself and ask yourself if you are happy with what you have or are you willing to do whatever it takes to make things work, with or without daddy who may not be the reliably person you need him to be. Remember that sometimes things do get harder before they get easy and perhaps its just that dad doesn't feel ready for the family life just yet. Which unfortunately makes things understandably hard. Good Luck.
2007-03-28 22:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by karenramel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are really young. Best advice...concentrate on being a good mommie... the baby is the most important thing in your life now. Men do not come first once you are a mom....and if they do....you are not being a good mom. The best advice on being a girlfriend....be supportive...listen to him...and let him know where your priorities are...he may bail out on you...and that can be for the best....after all you and the baby do not need someone in your life that is not stable....guys will come and go...but your baby decides what nursing home you will go to when you are old and grey...remember that.
2007-03-28 22:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some relationships are made better by emphasizing the roles of masculine and feminine. If you are willing to let him lead in the home, sometimes it can bring you closer. Check out the books "Fascinating Womanhood" or "The Surrendered Wife". If you are willing to let him discipline you to help you bring your attitude under control, check out the domestic discipline Yahoo groups or websites. Those marriages are usually very close and their intimate lives are off the scale.
2007-03-28 22:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now personally I don't think he deserves you.The most fragile time of a womans life is during her pregnancy. If you choose to be with this man then you need to ask him to put his feelings out there and let you know if you please him.If you do then good for you and keep on doing what you are doing, if you don't ,then be honest and open with the man that you love and ask him what can you do to make him happy.
2007-03-28 23:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by hendersonswoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋