i am 16 and i want a baby so bad and so does my boyfriend i have worked in a daycare for 2 years and i know how to take care of a baby me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now and i think that we are ready i have wanted a baby for i dont know how long and the only thing that i am worried about is my mother and the rest of my family and what they would say when and if i got pregnent but most of the time i dont care i want a bayby and i think its best for me and my boyfriend and if i do get pregnent i would want to move in with him i really do think i am ready for a baby but i just wanted to know what other people think b/c its not like i just met him and want a baby we have been together for a year we have a good relationship and we have our ups and downs and we plan on getting married the moment we can so i think it would be better for us
2007-03-28 15:17:14 · 19 answers · asked by shayakalil_b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I think you should wait and spend more one on one time wit your man. I believe you should get married first because then, things will be easier and you ll have a perfect lil family. My sister was in the same situation... she was wit her man for a uear and they had a baby... unfortunatley, things went down from there cuz they couldn't spend enough time together. wait for at least two more years or when you are 18. having a baby is a lot easier when u are 18 because you don't need your parent to sign for everything... that will also give u more time to think about it... I honestly think u should wait though and enjoy knowing your man by heart in the meantime
2007-03-28 15:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by cLuciouz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!! Now is not the time, wait until later when you have a stable life and the ability to properly care for a child.
Have you thought about the responsibility? (financially and emotionally??) or the sacrifices you and your boyfriend would have to make? You are entirely too young to actively try to have a baby. It won't make your relationship better. Plan for the future, after schooling, marriage and stability.
Honestly, being in Daycare for 2 years is NOTHING like being a full time parent. I am a step mother that went from being wild and free to the full time job of being a parent. I didn't think it would be that big of a difference when I first agreed to it but it has been a huge change and alot of sacrifice. I've also had close friends that have gotten pregnant at young ages. They would be the first people to tell you that they love their children, but that it has been a long, hard road.
My suggestion, go to a WIC or County Health center and talk to alot of other young single mothers. They will be able to tell you what they are going through and if it was "worth it". They will probably have advice that you will relate to more than anyone else.
Good Luck and I'll pray for you to have an understanding of what is best for you.
2007-03-28 17:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun I'm not trying to insult your maturity or anything like that. I know that it's exciting to be in a relationship like yours and it's natural to want to take that next step with a guy. However there are so many other things to consider. What are your plans for the future, not just plans for you and your boyfriend but plans for a career. Having a baby takes up a lot of your time and makes it difficult to pursue other opportunities that will arise in your life Also, there are other things to consider such as money: babies are expensive and you need to be sure you are finacially stable before you have a baby. Finally and most importantly, you are only 16! You have plenty of time to have a baby and trust me when i say there is so much else to live for during this time in your life if you have a baby now. I'm 19 and although I've never had a kid, I know i would have missed out on so much! Wait a few years at least and enjoy this time in your life. You're only young once! Don't try to grow up too fast by having a baby now.
2007-03-28 16:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by c_tap77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look my advice to you is to open your eyes.. You are definitely not ready for a baby 16yrs old are you crazy enjoy your life babies grow up remember that. When you want to party and enjoy your young life you can't.. The fun hasn't even started for you yet . wait until your 18 why not you'll be young mommy and can't even get drunk or vote yet. wtf I bet you know of or heard of a lot of people that had children young and its funny how they all say the same things . Its hard and it definitely isn't cute now lets get to This boyfriend thing . You said you was with him for a year please a year isn't nothing . Men change over the years and so will you tell me 8 years then I'll be convinced. One year he's loving you then the next he's gonna want some space one day he wants to be a fireman when he grows up and then the next he want to be a lawyer. Then you'll be left alone with a baby you'll have to care for and not a daddy in sight ( Oh he won't leave me ) same old song just a younger chick singing it ...When men leave mommy keeps the baby Also . What if he decided he wants to go to college or your trying to trap him or he sees a cutie with a fat butt you never know. Your going to have to find a new man and I don't know many that will take care of another mans child.. that's not even the whole problem not only do you have to worry about another man accepting you and your baby but your going to have to worry about him being a pedophile ( its a crazy world ) and I know you watch the news . Be careful and don't get stuck with a being that you cant give back. I'm being as honest as possible and I won't sugar coat sh$T
2007-03-28 16:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by maqwa2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart at 16 having a baby is the last thing that should be on your mind. You have school to think about and whether you believe it or not school is important. What you think you want now will undoubtedly changed 100 times before you are 30. I am not saying you are not in love with your boyfriend and you may get married and things might work out wonderfully but honey wait until you are of age, married and can take care of your child who will definately be relying on you completely for their care. God Bless and good luck!
2007-03-28 15:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by JAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay ... working in a day care is NOT the same as having a baby. Babies cost money, babies can have health problems...
A boyfriend can leave you. You're not married to him and you are trying to play house. Listen up: babies grown into adults. Babies are only babies for a short time.
What if you child has mental problems, or is born with physical disabilities? Will you still be wanting to play house?
Think about ALL of the possibilities. 16 is VERY young. Enjoy your youth, you have the rest of your life!
2007-03-28 18:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i'm gone tell you the same thing I told my 15 year old niece. You are only ready when you think your really ready. Because when you get pregnant you'll think it'll be nice but once you get into labor it's very painful. Then you'll how it is to wake up early in the morning having to fed the baby, care for it, and all that and it won't be easy. Now it's up to you rather you take this information or leave it it's up to you. But trust me you are not ready. I was 19 when I got pregnant and had them when i was 20 and by them i mean twins i have 2 sets of twins they came both 1 girl and 1 boy. Now just think real you can have twins triplets and more at a time and you'll have to care for them if it's by your choice. Now you and him can wait or do what you do. It's up to you. Can't nobody make this decision but you and him.
2007-03-28 16:12:30 · answer #7 · answered by cutie313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer you're gonna get from everyone is that you're too young, while I do believe this I know how it is being 16 you think you know it all, so what I suggest is just wait until you're married. You don't want a "baby daddy" you should want a husband first. That way at least you know he is there for you and not trapped by a baby. So get married when your old enough and then decide to have a baby so that you can be a family for the baby
2007-03-28 15:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by missC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My goodness! I understand that you have been in this relationship for awhile compared to most teenage relationships but I am not convinced that you, or anyone of this age in particular, are quite ready for a number of things you have described here. Teenagers are in an awkward position in life, they have physically matured gone through puberty and menstruation and other milestones but emotionally and mentally you still have many more years to develop! There are a number of things yet to learn and experience that will make you a better parent in the end and that's what you really want. A baby may seem like a good idea now but it sounds as if you are fulfilling your needs to be loved and needed and to keep your relationship going; having a baby means giving up a lot of things for the good of the child, give yourself sometime to experience those things first and grow, you will thank yourself in the end.
2007-03-28 15:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by Krysta S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How lovely, another pregnant 16 year old that I will undoubtedly be paying for. And just how do you plan to support this child (and I mean without welfare or WIC, if you are so responsible, paying for the child completely is part of that). Do you have any idea how much formula, diapers, clothes, cribs and doctor bills cost? Or are you planning on getting on welfare for all of those things? BABIES ARE NOT FREE! Why would you even consider this at such a young age when you CLEARLY cannot pay for or care for a child. You are a child yourself!! Go to college, get a good job and get married, then think about a baby!
2007-03-28 15:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by Reagan 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋