My best friend diched me for some peeps she meet this year i said it was over now i regret it what should i do
she wouldnt hang out with me at all and said its not. But now its really over and i dont want it to be what should i do?
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my other friend told what she was saying behind my back and it really hurt cause weve been friends for so long!
2007-03-28 15:13:39 · 19 answers · asked by Asya♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should write her a note or go up and talk to her, Which ever you want. Tell her how you feel, and how you are sorry. say whatever you want but show some of your feelings. i had the same problem and it worked out fine.
2007-03-28 15:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by Brittany K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know your friend (or you for that matter), and depending on what kind of people you two are, I can't make a true decision, but I'll give it a shot.
So you could...
Ask her why she is doing it (make sure she is completely honest). Get a better idea just why she is doing what she is doing. And if/when you find out, change your ways likewise. Talk to her, and, if need be, apologize, cry, get emotional, whatever feels right. Keep trying but do NOT give her too much attention- that's a REAL relationship killer- smothering. Don't be at her side 100% of the time- it can turn very awkward and uncomfortable. Restrain yourself and keep an upbeat and happy demeanor with her. Keep smiling and don't worry about it too much. It'll be okay if it's God's will.
...but
It may really be over. I'm sorry to say it, because I can about imagine how I would feel if it happened to me, but it might just be truly over. And what can you do? Do what feels right; get emotional, cry, apologize; self-heal. But some point along the line before you cut the cord, tell her how you really feel. About her, about yourself, about everything. You'll feel so much better. Keep your head up and be optomistic. God loves you, and if it's not His will, maybe this is for the better of things. You'll be in my prayers.
God bless you
2007-03-28 22:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by musicmaster890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all there is a saying friends come into your life for a season or for a reason. When all is said and done and you truly are sorry for words that were spoken in spite communicate this. Take'em to lunch or send them a singing gram of how much of an a$$ you were use the old charm only your friend is accustomed to as they will resent you at first but it should soften'em up.
Realize it was a mistake and move forward not letting it happen it again. If it is truly a mistake and you cherish this individuals friendship and own up to the one making the mistake you should be fine. As for the gossip its just that.....nothing more faghetaboutit
When the two of you reconcile and make up wait for a better time in which to approach the situation again laugh about it Gossip is for haters jealous people self absorbed and bored with their own life and need to talk about people to make themselves feel better. I understand you were pissed yatta yadda yatta but live and learn. Jealousy is something that comes and goes never be honey it will eventually consume you. Just be happy for the friends you do have and be even more happier that other folks find your friends just as enjoyable as you have found them share the experience and socialize positivly let positive chi flow through You are not meant to be anti-social and hermit yourself to 1 -2 friends because sure we all have associations But real friends are adored by many remember this da more da merrier be happy for him or her (peep's) they get jealous too only they will not tell you for fear of hurting your feelings. Just think about that let that sit in for a second we like to think its all about us but its not.
Now if you do try and make amends and their hurt is too much for what you said or they are just beyond friend recognition, tell them thanks you wish them all the best and move forward. Resolve wont work your whole life sometimes people are just a$$holes and its time to let the relationship go....... wishem well and let go friends will come and go.
Cheers goodluck
2007-03-28 22:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Chi-Girli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what I could understand she dissed you and is hanging out with a group of people she has recently met... well, apparently she finds something interesting in them and they are meeting needs in her right now. Although it should not affect your existing friendship with her what should concern you the most is two things.... 1. she was talking about you: You need to confirm that and confront her 2. So what, she met new friends ! if she was truly your friend she would always include you in all outings and events, even if you decline or don't hang out with all of them all of the time... all she has to be concerned with you are her friend and that she did right by you.
2007-03-28 22:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what you should really do, is sit down with her, and just talk to her about it. tell he how you feel. tell her you didnt mean what you said, you were just upset that she ditched you to hang out with some new people. Say that you are sorry for what you said, and nicely ask her if she would forgive you, because you would really like to be friends again.
2007-03-28 22:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by marykate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you regret it, tell her that... and let her know that it upset you how she treated you because of the new peeps... if she is a best friend she will understand, but if she doesnt , then she is not a true friend in the first place... good luck.
2007-03-28 22:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a best friend all the way through elementry and middle school,but once we got to high school things changed we hung out with different crowds of people and rarely talked maybe its time to find a new best friend.people change as they get older.
2007-03-28 22:19:58 · answer #7 · answered by flavagirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive been in ur sit. but i have good enough buds to apoligize..... she is not a true bud and it is time to try and forget her.... it will be hard and long and sad.... but it is the right thing to do. that is all i can help you... but i hope that your friend realizes what she will be giving up. you may need to talk to some one you love and you WILL be okay. i am very sorry for you.
BEST OF LUCK!
2007-03-28 22:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by Lucie F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i saw you asked this before, but maybe you didn't get a lot of responses?
Well, go on with your life and make some knew friends...your friendship will never be wha it was again...besides, maybe she is just not interested in your friendship anymore.....I am sorry for this but it is true....
2007-03-28 22:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry i what happened to you!! that happened to me! its sad!but whta i did was that i told my friend if we coulde just be cool and she said yup! but try to talk to her and telll he u still want to be her friend or just tell her if u could just be cool with her! dont worry there r other friends who really love u more than that ***** ***!!
2007-03-28 22:19:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋