In my view..unless it goes overboard that is (i.e War of the Roses) it is healthy to tackle issues instead of pushing them down under the carpets. A reality check which some people just do not want to face...what do you think ? Thanks.
2007-03-28 15:10:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
those are all good answers ! thanks.
2007-03-28 15:24:21 · update #1
When a confrontation arises a fight or flight response is triggered in our brain....on a very primal level.....many people dislike conflict b/c it evokes a primal side of themselves or others that they dislike or maybe even fear.....its as if we want the monster to not be awakened.........but many times it is good for conflict to be dealt with because it can surface issues we may be afraid to face........conflict forces us to face them......people that repress these emotions or fear conflict will either become passive aggresive or displace their aggression.......either way its not healthy and it not fair to others.......conflict is a way to CALL in the hand of lifes poker and see what the people in the situation are made of....its all good as long as you can learn from it.
2007-03-28 15:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by macrominded 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Avoiding Confrontation
2016-10-31 21:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons I'm sure why a confrontation may become daunting but I can only tell you my former reasons for avoiding confrontation. You may be ,mistakenly, under the impression that things will resolve themselves. You may not feel justified in your personal views,the lack of confidence in ones opinion can stifle a healthy discussion. Thirdly, you may just not give a damn and not want the bother. I had to learn, in my 20's, to stop being selfish in my feelings and not be so darned passive aggressive.
I've seen the War of the Roses and ,honestly, can say that those folk would have never had such a battle royale if they had simply dealt with the small stuff before it became the big stuff.
2007-03-29 15:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by Ragdollfloozie is Pensive! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is sensible, and able to meet you 50-50 in a discussion and compromise. Some people want to win at all costs, and are determined to break you in two in any confrontation. I am quiet and basically unassuming. I have a "no worries" attitude. I don't want to get down an dirty with anyone. I don't need the hurt and bad memories. Plus, most times I lose confrontations with people who really need confronting. Someone said "You can't win an argument with your boss." Crude, but it's a basic truth you have to adjust to. There are others. You get the point.
2007-03-28 15:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Heroic Gesture 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some folk do not have the self-estem to press their convictions, or at least argue their case. Others have values that are too poorly thought out to stand up toany real scrutiny and so do notwant this exposed.
Others simply don'tcare enough to argue a point.
Personally, I prefer to pick my fights; I don't ant to waste energy on things that do not really matter, but then something will coma along which you simply can'tlet go.
Also a good disagreement is often alot of fun! ;)
2007-03-28 20:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you want to avoid confrontation,sometimes things are are better pushed aside,why let it bother you to the point where there is a need to confront someone.Maybe people avoid it because they dont really care.I do know that people that like to tackle or confront every issue in there lives seem to have some underlying issues themselves.All I'm really getting at is that sometimes its just better to let things slide
2007-03-28 16:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah there are some people like that. Do they call them pacifist or something ? I think that it is just this innate, inborn spiritually wired DNA in us that just loves harmony. Deep down everybody has a smile. But sometimes its better to be skin deep then you will not get a heartache. Confrontations just disrupt that harmony and some people cannot handle that. They somehow do not have the pscyhological mechanism to mend the rift.
2007-03-28 16:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people simply can't handle the stress. Call them spineless wimps, but it's all about anxiety. People will go to great lengths to avoid those things that make them feel anxious. They will even go to great lengths to avoid discussing these things. Sometimes it's due to trauma.
2007-03-28 15:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Fear.
Many times, especially if a person was ever abused for expressing their thoughts and feelings, they will become very reluctant to enter a confrontation.
Good luck
2007-03-28 15:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by Croa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because, most likely, your hitting a sensitive spot, and that same person feels "cough". a lot of people wont admit their weak spots out of fear to look or sound bad. they are dominated by their fear, and that is an indication of insecurity.
2007-03-28 15:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋