Lately I've been feeling depressed and sometimes even suicidal. How do I tell someone that I need help? Most, pretty much all, of my loved ones have no idea this is going on. What do I do? How do I bring it up in a coversation?
This isnt the first time I've felt this way. I used to self mutilate but havent done so in over a year. Im scared my thoughts and feeling will take over my common sence. Some please help.
2007-03-28 15:08:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take care of yourself .
2007-03-28 15:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first there are sevral red flags goig off here. You are a cutter that is in itself very dangerous. Secondly don't feel ashamed about yourself for this. There is problably an underlying chemical imbalance in ur brain that causes the rapid depresive mood swing. I myself am bipolar manic depressive. It took me years to tell my parents big mistake. I suggest u find the one person in ur immediate adult faimly , meaning no siblings. An adult the one u are most comfortable with, and tell them that u need to talk . Even if u don't tell them everything the fist time it will help open the gate. They will not think u are crazy . Given todays society they will more then likely understand. Be honest and be sincere. What ever u do do not attempt suicide it is a grave tragedy. You are not only takeing the gift of live from urself if u do , but u are also robbing ur loved ones of your wonderful self. i hope u take my advice and talk to someone any adult u feel close to . Reach out and do not be afraid.
2007-03-28 22:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by knightspride76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope that you are close to your mom and if not who ever you feel the closest to, you should go to them and put all your cards on the table and be totally honest.
I was going this a couple of months ago and it was affected my life in every aspect. you gotta get help
If you feel you cant talk to your family or friends w/o being judged wronly, then go to even a obgyn dr. that is what i did and never told anyone about it, belive me this would be a great start for you. It worked for me. it is worth a try.
Good luck!! But please tell someone.
after i went this i then come to find out that at least 1/3 of my friends felt and was dealing with the same thing. so dont think you are alone because you are not. and just because you feel this doesnt make you a crazy person. so please dont think poorly of yourself. depression is a illiness that you cannot control--it takes med. & understanding that you or anyone else cannot pick to have this or to not have this. it is a inbalance of certain types of chemical in the brain. you are worth a good and happy life------go out and do what you need to do to have it
2007-03-28 22:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand and relate. The best way is to find someone that you can talk to and that is not going to judge you. You have to be honest with yourself and that you have done. Now to get to the root of the problem why you feel like this, who or what makes you feel like this, what can you do to change this. These are just some simply questions you can start with. You can even write a letter or in a journal and let someone read about the pain you are feeling and let them see you are crying out for help. I hope I was of some assistance.
2007-03-28 22:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sexy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really important that you find the family member you are closest with and bring this up. Whether its your mom or dad, or brother or sister or whoever. If you keep on going this way, it will build up and eventually you'll really be in a bad place. I know this because it happened to me. I went from just feeling bad and not telling anyone to becoming a raging alcoholic who was angry at everyone all the time. My friends basically said that "we don't want to hang out with you if this is how your going to be." So I told my mom I needed some help and she made the initial phone call for me. I trust her and feel safe with her and it made easier to ask for help. If you don't feel comfortable with a family member, ask a guidance counselor at school. If your're not in school and your older, go see a psychologist. It can't hurt, it can only help. But please do talk to somebody.
2007-03-28 22:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by fmxkrazyone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me.
Same thing is going on for the past 2 years (well its been bad for 2 years it's been there for more years than I know). I finally let someone in on it. (boyfriend) He doesn't know how to handle it. But he does talk me down from doing my worst. He can't keep me from doing everything, but I'm still here thanks to him.
I wish he would do more. I tried calling a hotline... they didn't pick up after a number of rings and I became discouraged and hopeless. I really wish he would have called for me.
If you tell a guidance counselor they are legally responsible to tell your parents... (I asked a question on Yahoo!Answers about this if you want to check it out...) I absolutelyd did NOT want them to know. I don't want anyone to know.
I also sorta kinda talked about it with a friend who had gone through a rough patch and offered some advice.
If you EVER need someone to talk to you can email me and we can talk. I don't know how much help I can be since I'm a bit unstable myself, but having someone to talk to can help alot I think. I'm 17 so hopefully I'm close to your age.
Take care, and honestly send me a message, we can talk.
2007-03-28 22:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the person you trust most, or feel most comfortable around. Sit them down and have a serious converstation with them, explaining how you feel. I garuntee you, they will care and be there for you. You don't have to go through your feelings alone, and it is a lot easier when someone KNOWs what your going through! Good lcuk, you WILL get through this, keep your head up..if you need someone to talk to, i'll be willing to help.. email me at iheartsteveoo@yahoo.com if you'd like. Or AIM at Mateitszil . you do not need to go through this alone. Best wishes
2007-03-28 22:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just told someone. Everyone goes through rough patches. I am sorry that you are going through it right now.
I would say you should go and seek out a professional. There are mental health and suicide hotlines that are available for most places 24/7. They will be glad to listen to you and refer you to someone to see you and help you.
2007-03-28 22:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone really close to you that you know you can trust. Hotlines, counselors, a priest, these are also good ideas. The good thing is you know you need help and acknowledge that, now just try to find someone to tell.
2007-03-28 22:25:05 · answer #9 · answered by meximari420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have difficulty talking about it then write it out and give the note to someone that you trust to help you. Sometimes, just writing down what you're feeling is an outlet.
2007-03-28 22:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by Harbinger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call a hotline if you are scared to tell a family member, go to a priest, etc. Just tell someone that you need some help!
2007-03-28 22:12:14 · answer #11 · answered by RCJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋