How to up confidence and decrease self-conciousness?

Question

In certain situations such as working with my student organization, I view it in a business manner and am comfortable with that and feel confident in leading the organization (I'm president), even though at meetings, we may have no more than 15 people. What are other ways can I up my confidence when talking to just one other person i may want to impress? I take my body language seriously, and try not to touch my face too much when talking to people or be too fidgity. How can I change the way that I think so I'm not as self-concious as usual? I know whenever i'm talking with someone, I'm imagining in the back of my mind how I look, how i sound, if I'm interesting enough, and do I seem as self-assured as the other person? What do you do to fix these things?

I wanted to add that usually when i'm in social situations, i come across as being nervous or uncomfortable. How can i change that?

Answer 1

when you talk to someone say to yourself "i Know who i am, i know what i am", this way you know you are unique. If something goes wrong like you felt "abnormal" say to your self "i was doing my very best and im getting better at it"!! remember think present tense.

when you get time, or when you go to bed, say to yourself before you go to bed, repeatedly "I love and approve of myself". In time this will become your natural mantra, and the positive will overcome the negative.

This process will take time, so be patient, i guarantee you will feel much better.

Answer 2

try to focus on what your work. think of it as what you're doing as president not just you being president or a speaker for that matter. these things you say, though, about touching your face too much or being fidgity, they're usually along the lines of mannerisms. Ask a good friend to keep you in check and have a reward system.

Also, your question reminds me of the quote "look people straight in the eye and they won't notice what you're wearing" - the quote was from the film 'The Wedding Date'. This piece of advise was given though when a character was worrying that she and her date may look too contrived in a sense that they tried to match their outfits. My point is, when you do look people in the eye, right straight in the eye, it helps you focus on them instead of yourself. You're president which makes you a leader in service. I'm sure you got the position because of your qualifications. So think about those qualifications and keep on working.
I hope you're truly happy in what you're doing.
Bonne chance, and congratulations on being president, but of course we know that's when the real tough stuff comes. I'm sure you'd handle it all well. you're the type of person that really cares, and people can tell and they respect you for that.
Again, good luck.

Answer 3

believe your self,believe your ability and capability.,keep on believing that you chosen to be a president because your subordinate have a big trust in you.have a self study for you to increase your vocabulary or knowledge.don't be conscious coz if you get conscious you will getting nervous in front of the people,you would be mentally block.