Even though I know I can't be with an older gal, why do I still fantasize about it?

Question

I know that I don't stand a chance around half of them. They have their lives established and know what they want. They are mature whereas I still go to college and don't even have a full time job.

How the heck do I quit fantasizing about them? Do you think they can tell if I like them even though I try to go out of my way NOT to flirt?

Answer 1

well, as long as your fantasies aren't ruining your life and anybody else's it shouldn't be much of a problem.

I think it's sweet that you do fantasise about older women. They have established lives, yes, they know what they want, yes - but there might be one their who's looking for what you can give them.

perhaps the main reason why you fantasise about them is the fact that you think you can't be with an older gal.

follow your bliss.

Answer 2

We fantasize about things cause its part of life.... sometimes when we know we can't have something, we fantasize about it cause at least in our minds we can do whatever we please :-)

But if you notice the fantasizes are starting to ruin your life then its time to quit thinking about it..... sometimes its very hard but try thinking of other things or other fantasizes that you don't think about much.

There is nothing wrong with fantasizing..... as long as you don't let it start controlling your life then its OK.

Answer 3

Because older gals are great,that's why. You never know,maybe one of them would go out with you,you never know unless you try. Older men go out with younger women all of the time and no one seems to think that is unusual so I say go for it!

Answer 4

Some older women are open to dating younger guys. It depends. If you're really interested, take a chance! You might be pleasantly surprised...

Answer 5

so, change the tone a bit, and flirt " lightly " you get the idea, see were it goes ;-)

P.S. me/him 50/34