How do I convince my mom to let me go get my nose pierced?

Question

First off, don't tell me it's ugly or that I'll just have to wait because that option's already out. I have had my ears pierced 3 times. The First two I kept very clean and cared for them well. But I can tell you that the piercers did not know what they were doing and they ended up being infected. Those were pierced at Claire's, and the first piercer even had the gun stuck to my ear. I'm working hard on my grades. I never ask for anything unless I look into it and decide that I really want it. Just yesterday my little sister threw a fit and my step-dad pointed out that I never ask for anything, that I'm very well behaved. I never ask to go anywhere. I just don't see how she's still not letting me get it done. My family's the kind that have tattoos, piercings, and motorcycles.Yet I still have to wait. My mom's had her nose pierced, her nipples, tounge, eyebrows, lip, cartilage, and has never regretted any of them. I know that I will take care of them very well and not regret them. Help?

Also, My music is my life. Everything I do has to do with music. School reports, cleaning, doing the dishes, etc. There's always music playing. I don't evn have to buy Cds/tapes because my mother kept all of her old tapes and now they're mine. My room isn't exactly well furnished, a bit plain actually. My clothes don't even fill up half my closet.

1- I couldn't have a friend do it because they're what you call, 'goodie goodies'.
2- I don't have a father to back me up.
3- I'm afraid to do it myself/I don't even have jewelry to put in it when I do it.
4-I don't have a camera.
5-I hate studs. They're pretty ugly to me. Especially the daimond ones. Just as bad as belly button piercings.

What is really weird is that only two people in my entire school have their nose pierced.

Answer 1

First of all, ask her exactly what her reasons are for not wanting you to go through with this, at this time.

She may be thinking that since you had infection trouble with your ears, that the nose would be an even more likely place to get infected. She may be right about that, but you sound like you would be dedicated to keeping the piercing site cleaned well. In that case... keep gently trying to convince her that you can handle the responsibility. (And give her some space to think on it in between convincings. One of the mistakes I used to make with my own mother was asking her 4 times per day for the thing I really wanted at the moment. You sound more mature than that, but I just thought I'd mention it to be on the safe side and cover my bases here. Other kids or teenagers may read this answer, who are not as mature as you.)

She may be thinking that you are at too young an age to get a nose piercing. In that case... make a list of all the people in your class who have a nose piercing. Make a list of your other friends in other grades or at other schools who have nose piercings. And make a list of family who have nose piercings who are around your age. Use the list to demonstrate to her that there are plenty of other folks your age who have nose piercings.

She may have some regrets about her own nose piercing that she has not revealed to you. In that case, ask her to elaborate on the reasons why she has these regrets. Ask her why she would do differently, if she could go back and have an opportunity to choose again for herself. Let her know that you appreciate what she has gone through, but that you would like to ask the opportunity to make the informed decision for yourself if that would be ok with her. Tell her you want to think about what she is telling you for a couple of weeks, and then you will get back to her on whether you still want the nose piercing. Ask her to be considering during those two weeks, that you are your own person, and that you would appreciate her considering to allow your nose piercing if you still want it done in two weeks.

Regardless of what her reasons are... be certain to communicate to her, that you really appreciate her looking out for your best interests. Tell her that you realize a Mom generally has more wisdom than a kid, and that you do appreciate her wisdom. And that in the end if she still says no, you will respect her decision. But that you hope she will allow the subject to be reopened in six months for further discussion.

Have you considered the clip-on types of nose clips/rings which do not require piercing? There are also magnetic types of nose rings. You would just need to be very careful with those, not to scratch at your nose and knock them off. Either of these might be an excellent alternative for you in the meantime, until your mom says yes!

All my best to you -- God bless you.

Answer 2

Ok, this is tricky. I am almost 29 and a mother myself now. However I see where you are commining from. Since you can't just have it done and hide it (it is your face after all) you need to campaign. You need first and foremost to approach them in an adult manner. Seeing as how they are tatted and pierced they may be open to the idea deep down. Has their tats or piercings cost them jobs, or social losses, maybe they do not want that for you. So no throwing Lil sis in the mix, be calm reserved, and mature. You may not get your way at first (welcome to the real world - I want a raise but all my bitching hasn't paid off yet) but if you can show you are not only responsible but mature (i.e. no yelling, tantrums, "why are you so mean!", etc...) you might get your wish. BTW- I got my 1st tat at almost 17 and once it was there what could they do! That was permanent, a piercing can be temporary. So if it hinders you in anyway or you change your mind it's gone like that! :)

Answer 3

My friend had her ears pierced @ claires too and it got really infected,, When you get your nose done go get it done PROFESSIONALLY @ a 18G-20G.. #1 Just be a rebel and get it done and tell her like mother like daughter and giggle like it aint a big thing.#2 Find and buy THE SMALLEST STUD THAT YOU SEE something that looks like a sparkle and tell her you'll wear that..#3 Make a deal with her.#4get closer with your mom like friends and tell her ' how cool is it if we get out piercings done @ the same time! i'll get my camera ready!'#4 get a job and promise her you won't make her a grandmom for a long time..#5 Tell her :'im gonna get it done regardless so just say 'yes' so you dont have to make me feel like a rebel.' (lol)#6- Tell her that you'll have the money and the grades and your father to back me up so your 3 against 1, GIVE UP!.. I have no more sorry.. lmao!

Answer 4

Work on your mom - Tell her your gonna do it anyway when your old enough to go on your own. Tell her what you said in this question, that your a good kid do what your supposed to, get good grades etc. You explained it very rationally in here. Also tell her that if its good enough for her why isn't it good enough for you. Tell her if its such a bad thing that I shouldn't do then take yours out mom. Finally make a deal with her. Ask her if you get straight A's in school fourth quarter can you get your nose pierced? Good Luck. Its not that big of a deal to get it done. BTW I am 34 and teach school and have plugs in my own ears.

Answer 5

FIrst off, piercings are way cool.
Second, just get them pierced, then she cant do anything about it. if she makes you take the stud out, then replace it with fishing wire until you can get away without wearing it for a few days.

Answer 6

woa woa woa. ok. never get your ears peirced with a gun! or by people who dont do it for a living. go to a proffesional peircer for those types of things!
if you really want this peircing, but mom doesnt agree, maybe you should wait until your old enough to gt it done with a gaurdian. just remind her (she should know by the amount shes had) that if it doesnt look good or you dont like it then you can take it out and have no more than a small scar, if that.
good luck!

Answer 7

well i have the same problem but the only thing you can realy do i wait for them to think about it ask your mom to talk to your step-dad about it and ask your real dad about it then talk to both of them...if they both say no i cant realy help you except for the fact you can do it yourself like i did with my lip it takes courage kid but if youtry it you will be satisfied...o yea make sure you starilize the needle...o yea dont get it ripped out of your nose...it hurts...long story....

Answer 8

I believe you should get you're nose done i think their very cute and well you said you took care of you're ears and you're parents seem like they are very understanding! Good luck !

Answer 9

Here's what I did:

Go learn all about them (how to clean them, the pros/cons, ect.), earn the money, too. Then, confront your gaurdian.

I did this with my dad and he offered to take me to the peircer himself!

Good luck!

Answer 10

Just tell her you promise, you'll have your own trailer by the time you're 19