Okay, there's this girl at school who hates me for anything and everything, and I've never really found out why. I've never threatened her status or relationships or anything, so I'm not so sure why she does this. She thinks I'm a biotch because i have a lot of guy friends and I talk to them often, even though I love my chica`s and always hang out with them, too. She's tells everyone that I'm always all over these other guys, and it's starting to give me a bad reputation. Should I confront her about this? If so, what do I say? What should I do about her? <3
2007-03-28 13:55:51 · 12 answers · asked by The Prep 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I also found out recently that she was only nice to me for a time just to get to my boyfriend. Now that we've broken up, she never even talks to me nicely. In the past, she was sometimes nice, though. But I'm thinking it was just small talk. . .<3
2007-03-28 13:57:06 · update #1
Shes a hater let her hate.. if you got 10 haters you better be lookin for number 20 just brush her off honestly not worth stressin over a hater
2007-03-28 14:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by tends its mines 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok the first thing you should do before talking to her...even though you probably wont want to do this..you can still hang out with your guyfriends but just don't like sit by them so much cuz shees probably jealous of you.
then, go talk to her and say that you really dont appreciate her spreading all these ruimours about you because it really hurts your feeling when she's being mean to you, etc. and you aren't even doing anything. also explain to her that you're not trying to hurt her social status or steal the guys if she thinks that.
basically just point out that you're not trying to hurt her in any way.
if it really doesnt work just ask her why she hates you so much, and tell her the least she can do is stop being nasty to you and just say, "can we just stay away from each other or something?" be mild and stay calm, but use this as a LAST RESORT.
good luck and hope you find out and stop her...<333
2007-03-28 21:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by C♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was in high school, I had a lot of guy friends and this made me very unpopular with the girls. I had girl friends as well, but most of them were not true friends as they talked behind my back. At first, it really bothered me that these girls made up lies about me and the guys I hung out with, but after so long, I just didn't care. I knew in my heart that I was a good person and not about caring what anybody said about me. I figured they were jealous that they were not more like me! I think once I started showing everyone I was above their bull****, things started changing for the better. Remember - you can't make everyone like you. Cherish the real friendships you have and don't worry about everything else :-)
2007-03-28 21:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by cinfulcl 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She seems to feel threatened that you're "gaurding" the goods (the men). She wants your reputation to suffer so that the guys (and girls) think less of you and you're "knocked down off your pedestal" so to speak.
I think you should confront her, but wait until she does something again. If she says something, just be really professional about it and tell her that what she's saying is not true and you don't appreciate her spreading rumors. If you fight with her, it's only going to make you look guilty, but if you tell her in a professional tone, she'll look like the petty person she is acting like.
I hope she leaves you alone!
2007-03-28 21:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the whre shouldn't call a slt out of her name. she is just jealous because you vibe with guys and she doesn't; and she's trying to paint it like guys like you because they "like" you or the idea of you and don't truly like you for who you are. on top of that you must be the one that needs all of these guys because of your own insecurities. it's as old as the beginning of time; the girl who hangs out with the guys, who doesn't have any female friends is loose, a trick, whatever. the only one who really knows that to be a fact is the girl herself; fact is unless she really has went after someone elses guy there's never any justification to anyone to think that way to begin with. it's always coming from someone who's own social life isn't that great to begin with.
to confront her might add fuel to her argument, then again you don't want to appear soft either. you could keep doing what you do, and it may go away in time, particularly if she can't get a rise out of you, and no one else seems to care.
2007-03-28 21:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think shes a b*tch and shes just jealous of you. She would prob love to have the attention that you get and is jealous cause guys talk to you a lot. Just forget her and just live your life the way you want to. Dont let someone else bring you down.
2007-03-28 21:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by JNick 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The girl is obviously jealous of you and your popularity. It's a part of life. You cannnot please everyone so don't even try. The best thing to do is to leave her alone.
Ignore her but don't be rude to her. Speak only when spoken to and ignore the rest. You have a life to live so don't waste any part of it stooping to her level and responding to her immature and childish games.
2007-03-28 21:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by fenway2k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like jealousy rearing its ugly head.if it bothers you enough to ask for advice than by all means,swallow your pride,don't get defensive no matter what she says,especially don't snipe back if she attacks your character.calm,cool,and collectively just go over and straight up ask her if you've hurt her feelings or something,remember to be the mature one here.i know we all seem to want to be liked by everyone but life doesn't always work that way and you have to take life on life's terms.
2007-03-28 21:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she a spy from another...planet..YES an alien spy and she is stalking you so she can take over your body. Yah...and then she will populate the earth with your alien freek babies...get a life.
2007-03-28 21:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by ushoveit 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg she is the B%$#@! goodness. tell her that you arent givn respect to her if u cnt get it in return. and tell her that she needs to stay away from your bfs and you will stay away from hers.
she needs to know that it is a non issue. and that you cant be freinds so atleast dont be enemys.
2007-03-28 21:19:35 · answer #10 · answered by summer girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋