2007-03-28 13:55:05 · 27 answers · asked by J H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
An apology is not the turning point where things start to change, actions are what make the difference...
Would you really like an apology that wasn't meant??
You shouldn't demand an apology, it should come from the heart; otherwise it would just be a bunch of words put together to give you want to hear and get on with your lives...
Whether is because of pride or lack of understanding seems to me that the problem is much bigger than the deal with the apology... If you ask me, I'd say it's a COMMUNICATION problem that you are trying to focus on something else... Look at your relationship and try to find what is really important in it for both of you and how that is being compromised... them work on fixing that and an apology will come at a given time...
2007-03-28 14:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by myliz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him. if he doesnt respect you, then why should you put up with him?
nobody deserves to have to put up with 3 yrs dismissing remarks, and if he wont apologize, and doesnt think hes wrong, then he'll end up treating you like that the rest of your life.
leave him, and find someone better...
2007-03-28 21:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by Marsha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is being very unreasonable and degrading. If you are not happy and theres no chance your husband is going to change then I would recomend that you think about leaving. Do you want this for the rest of your life. I would say no body likes to feel unimportant. You deserve to be listened to. Dont put up with it anymore, say enough is enough.
2007-03-28 21:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you're not going to get an apology by demanding one, and if you did, it wouldn't be real. Try winning his affection and attention instead. Then when you tell him he's hurt your feelings, he'll truly feel bad and give you a real apology.
Try reading "Fascinating Womanhood" or "The Surrendered Wife". I don't agree with everything in them, but they do help alot of women realize what their husband might want or need from them.
2007-03-28 22:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel that you have more issues here than him not apologizing. You need to speak up and tell him how you feel when he makes those types of remarks. Allowing it to go on for three years, he probably feels it is ok to disrespect you in this manner. I do not believe in ultimatums, but tell him he needs to stop disrespecting you.
2007-03-28 21:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by revtimothyward 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason us men hate to apologize is because the after affects is usually alot worse than not apologizing. if more women could accept a sincere apology withouth punishing us for admitting were wronge more men would apologize when they are wronge.
2007-03-28 21:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by bobo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have allowed him to get away with his dismissing remarks for three years, I would be surprised if all of a sudden he said: "You know honey, you're right, I'm one mean b******d."
He might realize how wrong he was when you're not around for him to be mean to anymore.
2007-03-28 20:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by tamara_cyan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you guys should go to counseling and work things out. If your so hurt by this that you don't love him anymore..it may be time to think about separation or maybe even divorce.
You shouldn't have to put up with that. And especially not for 3 years.
2007-03-28 20:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look, marriage is not a competition, it doesnt matter who is right and who is wrong. If one does something to hurt the other thet need to apologise, they dont need to understand why they are hurt, whether they are justified in being hurt, all that matters is that they are hurt. If he cant understand that, then its time for you to move on
2007-03-28 21:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start showing him what you mean if talking does not work , act like him , give him a taste. And I mean give it to him. You are changing as a person ,knowingly or not, eventually you will be plain sour and full of hate and rage or depression. One day you will wake up and forget who you are. Either he will start realizing or he just doesn't care and if he doesn't care than he doesn't care about you.
2007-03-28 21:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by v 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋