I have a coworker who is on my team who always says whatever she thinks and often so she can get a laugh at someone else's expense. She's always sarcastic and says whatver she feels- no couth. Today at work during lunch in front of about 8 other people she said:
"Are you in a good mood today? Because I need to know when you would like to have your baby shower at work- I'm in charge of finding a date.
Was her asking if I was in a good mood totally rude or am just to far gone hormonally ? I don't see how that has any relevance to a shower. I just found that totally unpleasant- like its a chore for her to ask and plan it. I was totally embarrassed. I know that I am almost always happy with a huge grin and lots of friends at work. Why would someone say that? I was really upset-what should I do? Frankly, I was very offended and embarrased and it has really bothered me- but I am not sure if I should chalk it up to hormones or talk to her about it. Does anyone else upset easily pregnant
2007-03-28 13:54:49 · 9 answers · asked by momtobe 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
oh yeah, you didn't want to be around me my last pregnancy. but when someone comes at you like that, come back with something a bit above her level. a great answer would have been: i'd rather you didn't being as you are so loud and rude. and smile and say, i'm in a great mood! let her know how you feel about this, and it might help if you had an arsenol of ppl behind you on this.
2007-03-28 14:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by pwrgrlmanda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it was rude. Rude and insensitive and you had every right to call her on it so do that next time! Holding your feelings in isn't good for you or the baby.
If you call her on her behavior she may be dismissive of your concerns and/or blame the pregnancy in which case you can respond with: "Yes, sometimes my pregnancy causes me to be hormonally irrational and sometimes you are rude, dismissive, arrogant and unpleasant," or "Yes, my pregnancy can cause me to be unpleasant, what's your excuse?"
The bottom line is this:
PREGNANT WOMEN CAN SAY (OR EAT!) WHATEVER THEY WANT - PERIOD!
If your friend can't understand that then maybe she should leave you alone until the baby arrives. This is your gig, not hers. It's about you, not her. Oh, you said she was a coworker? Well, if she's not a friend then just tell her to shut up and mind her own business. You don't want someone like that planning any part of your shower.
2007-03-28 14:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by BOOM 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, i know i am easily offended and upset as I am 33 weeks pregnant. However, I think your offense is warranted.
There was no purpose in asking about your mood before bringing up the point of your shower.
I would be offended as well if someone said this to me. She definately is a very unhappy person inside.
I would have to tell her about it. Sorry, but being hormonal gives u an excuse to say exactly what u need to say. lol
Good luck to u.
2007-03-28 14:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your feelings .. and guess what feelings arent always because you are preggo my dear.. this person soundsliek a real dork to me . I am sure others that heard her were ewmbarred as well.
Personally dont worry about it.. The people at you work want to do something for you and give you gifts so enjoy that .. If you feel ike talking to her do but it sounds more like she has poor socil skills to be and she could be jeoulos of you
give her a date of when it is good for you and enjoy the love from others
2007-03-28 14:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by iamblessed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset too. That is very offensive and it does seem like she's being forced to do the baby shower....however, I would just let it slide....she could just be jealous or she could be in a bad mood herself...next time ask her if she's the one in the bad mood.
2007-03-28 14:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your co-worker doesn't realize how she comes across to others, or maybe she's just a rude b-----. i don't think i'm rude, i try not to be but sometimes i am surprised by what just came out of my mouth. it's just some folks personality to spout out what's in there. try talking to her, tell her you're in a fine mood, just don't like the way she says things sometimes. really, you've got nothing to lose, and if nothing else, it will relieve your stress over the matter to just get your feelings out. say what you think, she does!!! Good luck.
2007-03-28 14:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by tamboz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would have said to her "are you in a good mood today? or are you gonna run your mouth like you always do?" that would of shut her up real quick!
2007-03-28 14:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by moore_256 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
let it slide This time just charge it to her ignorance but next time have a snappy come back for her sarcasim
2007-03-28 14:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by missC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it, you are way too sensitive. find somewhere else to complain about your problems.
2007-03-28 14:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋