hubby and I are seperated. living apart. he says he hasn't ever and currently isn't seeing anyone else, saying he's changed and wants to work it out. but he goes out with a new set of friends all the time now, has started drinking for the first time in his life, always comes up with excuses not to watch the kids on the weekends. any other signs?
2007-03-28 13:39:33 · 21 answers · asked by Kat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm thinking you two are separated for a reason. He's not going to admit if he's seeing someone (else). Everything everyone else has stated on this list of answers is right. No need for me to type all that over. Good luck
2007-03-28 13:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like you've got a husband living in denial. Why did you separate if you want to keep the "string" attached? I am presently 22 years in my "4th" marriage and will admit the blame for the failure of the first 3 because my work, drinking and friends were always more important than what I had at home. One advantage I had was no kids. Hubby needs to be told he was as much a part of producing those kids as you were and fess up to his 50% of the responsibilities or "else..."
Trying to ignor his part in the responsibilities by childish behaviors doesn't change "reality." Especially the realities you get stuck with while he's off playin' around. If he can't live up to what he has already, you also need to lay it on the line that another woman will only "double" his problems he'll have to face up to later, like it or not. The "signs" are there to implly that if he hasn't already gone out on you he evenually will for he is drinking and giving you excuses already. Put your foot down.........
2007-03-28 21:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by Theban 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Changing his plans at the last minute. Saying he's going to pick up the kids and then can't. Working out and changing his look is a big one! He's doing it for a reason. Either he has a girlfriend or he wants a girlfriend. He won't have any money to help with the kids expenses either. I could go on and on. You have the idea. He is a changed person. The best thing you can do for yourself and your kids is to see a divorce lawyer. Don't tell him. Just do it before all your assets in your marriage are in his name and he's cleaned out any money and some girlfriend is driving a new car which was a present from him. Turn that separation into a divorce quickly and move on with your life. He has moved on already.
2007-03-28 21:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must ask yourself why are you separated.Should you even worry?And if the answer is yes ,I would like to get back together with my husband then remember this-Never assume because his behavior has changed he is cheating or wanting to cheat.Too many marriages have ended because of this.Many reasons can account for his new behavior such as being apart from the one he loves or something at work.Contrary to popular belief men go through mood changes too.If you see him cheating fine,but if not give him the benefit of the doubt...good luck
2007-03-28 20:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
- gone late nights, overnight OR for several days
- gets a phone call on his cell and runs outside or in antoher room to take in somewhere where you CANT HEAR HIM TALKING TO THE PERSON.
-Suddenly seems completely disconnected form you.
but since he is not living with you i dont know it might b harder to tell can u swing by his place unexpectedly on his nights off ( like if he off weekdns on a saturday gnith) mabye u will find another woman there!
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also if HE was the one who wanted the seperation he might have dumped you for her already and just keeping u on the back burner for his own selfish reasons. BE VERY WEARY and the cell phone that someone said about keeping his cell phone by him all the time is DEFINATLY TRUE I used to be a serial cheater and that was my trademark. be weary!!
2007-03-28 21:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
behavior changes unlike his normal, new friends, new habits, not wanting to see his kids, has other priorities, new clothes, living apart, anyone wanting to work on a relationship would be at home working it out. he moved out for some reason. his actions will follow his heart, what he treasures in life. makes alot of excuses why he can't do something. just not that interested in family, and spouse, anything out of character.
2007-03-28 20:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not spending time with the kids is a biggie...trying to lose weight, buffing up at the gym, paying more attention to his clothing, hair, grooming...new after shave...these are some of the signs.
2007-03-28 20:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by curious74432 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He appears to be a busy one. When is the divorce?
Perhaps things will settle down once he gets custody of the children. He won't have the time to be gallavanting around.
2007-03-28 20:44:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the number one sign is that you are asking the question. That means your gut is telling you he may be cheating. I don't know about you, but my gut feeling is usually NEVER wrong.
2007-03-28 21:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont believe him then just show up a couple of times unannounced. Maybe if he is acting shady when you ask him questions.
2007-03-28 20:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by Raistlin H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋